Do real friends exist? What is your experience with people? What do you think about this topic?
>>33732498>Do real friends exist? Yes.>What is your experience with people?I absolutely DESPISE 8 people out of 10. I consider myself a very sociable person, I consider myself very mentally tough, and I'd rather spend all day inside than talking with people whose mere presence is enough to piss me the fuck off. Unfortunately most people are like that.
>>33732498>Do real friends exist? No>What is your experience with people? Your primary objective in life is to make excuses to justify whatever emotion you're experiencing>What do you think about this topic?Outside my area of expertise
>>33732527I am the same way. I can socialize easily and be around people too. But at the end of the day i have learned that being in my own presence is better than being around people, just to be around them.
>>33732547>at the end of the day i have learned that being in my own presence is better than being around peopleWhy is that, anon?
>>33732582You dont have to deal with bs from people. You can just hang out alone and do what you want without having to do what other people want. Also less stress.
>>33732586Those are all fair points. I learned how to compromise later on... But only for people I like the presence of.
>>33732591Yeah me too. I used to always be around people but now i am mostly alone. Being with people isnt always what you think. Trust me ive been there.
>>33732541>Your primary objective in life is to make excuses to justify whatever emotion you're experiencing
>>33732498>Do real friends exist?yes, they are the ones where a relationship with you is maintained by both and is a mutual benefit to keep. You help them reach their goals and they do the same for you. If one side stops that, you'll understand they are not your friend.>What is your experience with people?as I get older, I just came to understand that my assumptions when I was younger were true: that most people are snakes and are only out to get a step out of people for their own selfish benefit. Many people might have beneficial friendship arrangements- but the moment real hardship exists in their lives will they vanish instantly. Many people will not help you in your time of desperate need.>What do you think about this topic?As you age past 25, you will also realize you will get less and less chances to meet friends as people get busier in life. So cherish those awkward young moments if you are- because they are indeed fleeting and are cherished memories.
>>33732684I am 32 and i am not really trying to meet friends anyway. I dont really want chances. Like i said before. I have been around people my whole life and being alone really isnt bad. Its less problems in your life.
>>33732498>Do real friends exist?Ain't such thing.All fake. Humans just have a need for social connection and need to cope with loneliness.
>Do real friends exist? No for the most part. If they do, it's extremely rare.>What is your experience with people? Most people suck.>What do you think about this topic?Some people aren't meant to have friends. That's life.
>>33732498>Do real friends exist?I believe they do, but for some people it's very rare to find someone with whom you can really click.>What is your experience with people?I find most of them very vapid. I do not think I am better than them, it just so happens our interests don't coincide.>What do you think about this topic?Being able to make friends is likely tied to how exposed to other people you were growing up. I grew up around many women, and when I wasn't around them, I was by myself in my room. For years I have wondered why I find it so hard to befriend other guys, and now I'm convinced it's because not growing up around other guys, I never learned how to interact with them in a way that doesn't make it weird. I'm able to talk to girls without issue, but obviously many end up thinking I'm hitting on them.
>>33732498"If you make one or two truly good friends in life, you're a lucky man." - My Dad, ~1998
>>33732809I like this quote from your dad
is everyone here just an asshole? I've had the same 7 or 8 friends since like 4th grade and none of us are super saintly. unless you've moved a lot it seems normal
>>33736445it is very rare that i have ever met anyone who has had exactly the same friends since childhood. That’s actually pretty rare due to growing apart and changing etc. you are not common.
>>33736445True some of us are assholes, and some of us are simply surrounded by assholes. Still keeping in contact with friends from grade school requires work.
>>33736445How old are you? How often do you see them?
How the fuck do you make friends in your 30s?
>>33732498>Do real friends exist?They do but they're rare>What is your experience with people?I'm a recluse, always have been. A lot of people didn't like me. I like lots of people, but I can never get close to them for one reason or another.>What do you think about this topicI have hope. If live genuinely and open myself to more experiences I will find my true friends
>>33732498All of my long term friends(10+ years) have been through collaboration. I think shared experiences with mutual effort are one of the important factors.
>>3373656235. it varies, some once a month for beers, some have families so it'll just be thanksgiving or fourth of July or Christmas or milestone weddings/birthdays. everyone stays texting and stuff though, we're all "in the loop"
>>33736596You don’t really make "true" friends in your 30s. If someone wants to be friends with you as an adult, nine times out of ten it’s because they want something, money, resources, connections, or just sex.It's not like being a kid where you are all trapped in school, having something in common and just want to play with each other (whether that's gaming or just sports).
>>33732498>Do real friends exist?Yes>>33736445>is everyone here just an asshole?You're on a board full of shallow incels who project their vanity and misantrophy onto everyone else so yeah
>>33736596through interests, work or hobbies. But then you have friends you see once a month, and you never again will have friends like you had as a kid. Because everyone over 30s will have a career, family, partner that takes most of their time. Maybe with over 60 you can get friends again, but most will be too cynical.
