Anons, help me with this little problem. Basically, I tried to have sex with my partner, and she said it hurt a lot, even to the point of tears, and we stopped because of the pain. Another day, months later, we decided to try again, and once again she felt pain, and she said it even hurt with my fingers. This time I brought lube, and it helped. I was able to enter much further than I did last time. The bad part was: When we tried it the last time, I was able to enter 100% and we didn't even move. I just put it in and she pulled it out really quickly, because of the unbearable pain she was feeling. There was foreplay for both of us, there was lube, and she was the one who called, so I think she was mentally prepared.Tell me what you think this is and how I can solve it...
>>33733351Firstly, are you sure you're going into the right hole? As you may have noticed, there are three in the general vicinity, but only two of them should (a) hurt and (b) need lube, the other should be self-lubricating and painless.If you're sure you have the right hole then you need to exchange her for a working model before the warranty runs out, because yours is broken.
If you’re doing everything right. It might be a trauma response. Maybe talk to her
>>33733351Sounds like vaginosis
>>33733351Months later? Yeah, she has to go. I'm not even reading the rest.
>>33733351Unless you wanna be celibate or are prepared to be with her without having sex I'd tell her in the nicest way possible that she just isn't gf material rn and needs to work on herself. Tell her whenever she's ready you'll be there. I absolutely hate braking up with girls, I'd rather just string a girl on cause I feel so bad breaking up with them cause I love women so much but just let her know you guys will always be friends and that you'll always be there for her. She's gonna have to understand, no man is gonna be with her without sex or without getting it somewhere else. It's just not gonna happen, maybe it will but not with me. That's just her truth and her reality, it's probably gonna hurt but she should be expecting that from you honestly at this point. She can't be that selfish. She should have enough common decency in herself to know this. Otherwise, she's just being delusional thinking she's gonna have this great relationship with no sex. She's being selfish. If she can't handle sex then she needs to learn how to handle being alone. You can't force someone to deny their needs to be with you so they can fulfill all your needs meanwhile theirs aren't getting met. That's not fair to you.
>>33733607This, or maybe an untreated ovarian cyst. She needs to make an appointment with her gynecologist and explain the issue. Most issues with painful intercourse can be resolved with medical intervention, so at least try it first before you make any rash decisions about your relationship.>>33737307Like this. Christ almighty dude, you read "sex is painful" and your takeaway is "she's a frigid selfish bitch and you need to dump her"?
My girlfriend was way too nervous during the first few times we had sex so it was painful for her, I suspected sexual trauma but she never said, her own solution was to get drunk each time to loosen up, after half a year she became comfortable enough with me that she no longer needed alcohol and we have had great sex since.
>>33733351She just needs to put up with the pain for a few times and things will stretch out.
>>33733351I wouldn't put up with this. You're not going to be a life long ATM banking machine for a woman that can't fuck because OWiE my snatch hurts! Seriously, just drop it off at a mall with $20 to go shopping and never come back to pick her up. Change the locks at home and have all her shit packed up and ready to move on the lawn. The sooner you get rid of her, the sooner you can fuck real pussy.
>>33733607>Sounds like vaginosisI think you meant "vaginismus". Vaginosis is a bad smelling infection.>>33733351Anyway, yeah, OP: this sounds very much like vaginismus. You should get her to see a gynaecologist to confirm that there isn't anything more serious going on. Assuming there isn't, you should then talk to a sex therapist. You should be aware that vaginismus is sometimes not treatable, and even when it is, it takes a LONG time. So you need to resign yourself to the fact that PIV sex is not going to happen any time soon, and maybe not ever.https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
>>33737579lmao
