Why are all the advices for autists just>go to therapy it helped all my normie friends with their made up problems>mask and cope harder you lazy fuck>go touch grass it's going to fix all your problems>just learn how to talk it's ez
>>33735072What else is there?Just use the anti autism pill?moron
go to therapy it helped all my normie friends with their made up problemsmask and cope harder you lazy fuckgo touch grass it's going to fix all your problemsjust learn how to talk it's ez/thread
there's no magic anti autist pill. go socialize, make up for all that experience with people you've missed out on. it will be hard, but going out of your comfort zone is always hard. as for therapy, therapy helps people who have unsolved issues, you might have those. maybe you got beaten as a kid, maybe you're afraid of talking to people because that one time in 6th grade your crush laughed at you in front of everyone. therapists are basically there to listen>>just learn how to talk it's ezit won't be easy for you, but you have to do this
>>33735072Some real advice that worked for me is just talk to people on omegle to practice conversation skills. Like any other skill, it got easier just by practicing. Another plus is that because its omegle, theres no consequences or embarrasment for being a complete sperg because its online and not in person.I did this back when omegle wasnt shut down but theres some clones now you can use. "omegleapp" is a good one I like to use whenever im bored.
You're right. /adv/, my new advice to all your bitchass problems will now be:>Come to Birmingham.
>>33735072My advice is very mostly against therapy. Pay attention.
>>33735072>>go to therapyAnd why is the most miserable fuck you've ever seen in your life always the one who tells you to go to therapy like they did? It clearly didn't work for them, but they're always trying to sell me on it for some reason.
>>33735072Therapy and touching grass won't solve all your problems but it reduces some of the issues you have to deal with.It's easier to fix the roof of your house if you out out the fire on the living room first.For actual autistic people, my advice is to learn how to talk to normies and act pleasantly around them. I get pushback on this as it seems unfair. However, it is like living in a foreign country: you need to speak the language and passably assimilate in order to function well.Speaking normie is a skill that can be developed and practiced.There's advice for this.For "autistic" people who are just socially retarded like I was, my advice is to stop being lazy and willful and just put in the work to develop social skills. I did. And I had to do it without any help or advice. I just figured shit out. I remember the exact moment I realized that repeating the punchline of a joke does not increase the amount amount of laughter it gets. There are countless little things to learn.And nobody has to become normal. I'm going to be weird my entire life. But I am pleasant and engaging to be around because I learned social skills.There's advice for this.
>>33735485>For actual autistic people, my advice is to learn how to talk to normies and act pleasantly around them. I get pushback on this as it seems unfair. However, it is like living in a foreign country: you need to speak the language and passably assimilate in order to function well.This is all well and good until you have to be around them for a whole work day. Not OP, but I can handle the small talk and pleasant talk just fine. But you need more than that if you do irl work/school. Eventually they start to ask you about yourself, or do shit tests, and god forbid you unmask from tiredness. If you give them an unpleasent 'tism experience then they'll tell everyone else and you'll be frozen out of the social circle. Impacting your work. This is assuming that you can stand the work environment in first place and don't go to the bathroom to cry because the lights are flickering too much, or the machines to cut deli stuff are too loud and repetitive. And make sure you don't have 'tism body language or it's over. I tried my best to be a member of society but always get screwed over by these malicious "unga they not like us normies, bunga must eliminate threat to social order".
>>33735072Chances are you aren't even legit autistic , or you wouldn't really perceive any of this a s a problem. The word just gets thrown around for anyone who has any social problems whatsoever nowadays.And unless you have the actual changed brain structure of an autist, you're just a normie wearing a skinsuit of failure for some reason taht is on you to find out. So yeah, therapy helps.
>>33735072What else do you want people to tell you? Your brain came with factory problems, there's nothing we can do about that. Do you want us to tell you to shoot up a school to take your anger out on normies or something?
>>33735515>Eventually they start to ask you about yourselfI don't really talk much about myself and give unengaged answers when asked. It's fine.>or do shit testsShit tests are FAR more rare in real life than anons seem to imagine. Most people aren't interested in you and want to talk about themselves and their interests with you. It's fine.>and god forbid you unmask from tiredness.I always get told how happy and energetic I am. When I am tired, people know it from a mile away. People get tired. It's fine.>they'll tell everyone else and you'll be frozen out of the social circleMeh. I've been an outcast my entire life.>Impacting your workSocial circles impacting work is management issue. You shouldn't need to be popular to get your work done.>This is assuming that you can stand the work environment in first place and don't go to the bathroom to cry because the lights are flickering too much, or the machines to cut deli stuff are too loud and repetitive.Fair. That's legitimately rough.>And make sure you don't have 'tism body language or it's over.I literally pull, slide, and file imaginary things like I'm working a 3D computer interface ala Minority Report or whatever. I do this because it helps me put aside tangential subconscious thoughts. I don't even know why I am doing it most of the time. I do this all the time and in front of others, although obviously not in conversation as I'm focused on that.Nobody has said anything yet. I've established that I'm weird.1/2
>>33735515>>33735775>always get screwed over by these maliciousI'l learned how to deal with bullies by third grade. I draw a line where I am willing to tolerate their behavior and don't allow it to continue beyond that point. Recently, four men wanted me to look wave a bar and as I did, they followed me, jeering as I was sauntering away too slow for them. As they followed, I slowed to a stop. Outside of arm's reach I explained that I wasn't walking away from witnesses to be followed into a dark parking lot by four men. They wanted to kick my ass but didn't start because they wanted to be the good guys. Eventually one compelled the others to shut up and let me walk away.Set reasonable boundaries. Stand by them.2/2
>>33735775>Shit tests are FAR more rare in real life than anons seem to imagine. >People get tired. It's fine.>You shouldn't need to be popular to get your work done.No, if you're female they're constantly on your metaphorical dyk trying to gauge your social value and starting shit because they're bored. Young old white brown most women do dumbass tests and social peacocking. I've tried to keep my head down and be pleasant but it still got me fired/quit from bullying for 3 jobs I've had. >Set reasonable boundaries. Stand by them.Tried. Became seen as a bitchy unreasonable cunt who wasn't a team player and needed better customer service skills.
>>33735814I suppose it's possible that women get up to cuttlefish antics amongst themselves more than I am aware of. But most of my points stand.>Became seen as a bitchy unreasonable cuntIf you're reasonable, you're not unreasonable.>who wasn't a team playerI've seen this used at places I wouldn't work for to mean "you sacrifice for us and nobody sacrifices for you". There are policies in place at most jobs to specifically prevent this. There are laws.But it matters how you present yourself when you're setting your boundaries and standing by them. It should be done firmly but polite and not aggressively.>needed better customer service skillsThat really shouldn't be related to setting your boundaries unless it's just that necessary.
I'm tired anons, I just want euthanasia to be legal in my country
>>33735072Drinking water and touching grass do a lot but if you're a horny young man that can't get none you're just gonna kinda seethe no matter what therapy you get
>>33735284Most of my life I was trying to socialize, but it doesnt work. I'm already 27. No friends, for family I'm annoying lazy fuck, no gf, at least I'm one of these lucky autists and have a job. I'm so exhausted from the all the problems I have, everyday I feel like dying.
>>33735072>>33736626Maybe stop being a lazy faggot and go outside
>>33736626>Most of my life I was trying to socialize, but it doesnt work.When you have a problem you need to identify the mistake you are making and correct it >I dont want to do that/its impossibleThen theres no reason for you to be here (and I dont mean just /adv/)
>>33736626Save up money and go back to university. This is the only way in 2025.
>>33736950the problem is I'm autistic retard and it's impossible to fix>Then theres no reason for you to be hereand I don't even want to
>>33735072You don't have to be anything, nor have anything. If you're willing to do what you have to in order to get what you think you want, go ahead. If you think it's beneath you to do so, then don't. Either way, just accept reality, giga-faggot
>>33737088>nor have anythingI need to have money so I can pay my parents and not be homeless. That would be even worse suffering for me. I was unemployed for 3 years and then I got into this government company through one of my family member, but the risk of me being fired is high.
