Today I was in the city with my sister and we went to the cigarette shop and while approaching she was smiling and laughing and there was a crackhead there at the store window who got offended and said some shit I ignored him. The crackhead said some shit again I ignored him, he asked for a light and I gave him one then he said my sister kept laughing and he said get your girl to stop doing that . The thing is for some reason I tried to figure out his logic and etc. my sister told me c'mon let's go and so I went. Walking back my sister said if our crackhead little brother was there he would have gotten his ass whooped I think she was obviously disappointed and I am a bit with myself but when it happened I felt indifferent confused, didn't really care and wasn't really bothered by what he was saying.my family are a bunch of people who are kind of fighters (not literally but they dont take disrespect really and shut that shit down) and out of them I'm the one who is passive and doesn't resort to conflict at all and can be kind of peer pressured.I used to hang out with ghetto people years ago who thought fighting was cool but I never resonated with it because I think its ghetto and beneath meMy ego tells me I should be more conflict ready and I should be more tough and ready to disrespect someone for something like that but in reality I'm just really indifferent I don't care what people say or think to bother me and if I were to I'd think I was egotistical. Anyway how should I deal with conflict in the future, what could I have done better today and do you guys have a philosophy of dealing with conflict from others?
>>33736801It is ALWAYS better to walk away from a fight if you possibly can. Even the most skilled fighter gets unlucky sometimes; only an idiot risks being killed when he doesn't need to. The only time you should ever fight is when it is genuinely unavoidable.
NEVER FIGHT. I dont fight but I got into a fight and I got hit really hard in the eye, now I have a lazy eye for the rest of my life. Its not worth it. Heed my warning.
>>33736801You handled the situation very smoothly. I'd be proud.
you got on with your day in mere seconds man you could've turned that into a whole ordeal
>>33736801The crackhead didn't even do anything from what it seems it was your buffoon, clown ass sister who probably kept laughing like a retard in the guys face and from what you say all the crackhead did was tell you to make your sister stop being a jackass. You didn't do or not do anything wrong. You seem like the only normal person in this situation so far. It seems like you live in a retard, far-right, low IQ, deranged Maga family and you're probably the only one in it with a brain. If I were you, I'd get the hell away from them. A family like that won't be happy until you're in prison for selling drugs or some shit. They aren't gonna do anything but hold you down. You're not here making this post because of a crackhead or because you need to learn how to not take respect, you're here because of your piece of shit sister.
>>33736801I won't read tldr walls of text. Get to the point next time.
>>33736801>Anyway how should I deal with conflict in the future, Are you seriously still mentally bothered that you handled a conversation with a stupid drug addled person too meekly?How about you stop going to crackhead hangouts and stay away from smokeshops. You might as well get a job at an allnight gas station in the ghetto? Do you realize you knowingly hang out with dummies like that by supporting their business?
>>33736801That crackhead made you look like a right bitch boy
>>33736801don't try to interact with crackheads, you will always regret it in a way. Street cred is useless if you don't live on the street. You should've told off your sister though, as like how dumb it is to fight with crackheads.
>>33736801I honestly think the boondocks answered your question eloquently;https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UajTvU3sjrYAsk yourself who you want to be in that little clip and act accordingly.Opinion: Having and trying to protect your pride with random people is pointless, in particular when they're low lifes.
I usually don't have conflicts because I look like an unhinged schizo and when the conflict escalates almost never ends up in anything because the other part it's a pussy (never throw a punch first because that will not benefit you in a trial). Also beware of the groups and gypsies.
>>33736801>have a philosophy of dealing with conflict from others?the art of war is about 20 pages'verbal judo' george Thompson>prepare for what happens the most you'll be prepared for most of what happensquotes by clausewitz and musashi miyamotoaikido as a set of ideas or principleshttps://www.goodreads.com/quotes/229814-fights-between-individuals-as-well-as-governments-and-nations-invariablythere's a time and place not to 'walk away from it' thats called cowardice, more importantly knowing the difference>should be more conflict ready and I should be more toughyeah you should be jacked
Everyone else so far is right about avoiding conflict, especially when engaging with the extreme variability’s among what crackheads are prepared to do or what they’ve been waiting to do with a rusty box cutter. I deal with tons and tons of homeless, I’m guessing the “city” you’re talking about is smaller than the suburbs I grew up in, but yeah now in a real city, I see them all the time, I give full clear responses, like I would to a friend who was super drunk and getting on my nerves. Until or if immediately apparent that engagement is producing any abnormal response, start to ignore, while staying guarded to the threat, that person, don’t look at them as much as possible, if you can sense malice, continue to ignore but do what you can to show you’re not remotely tempting as a victim(make the knife on your pocket visible, puff out chest(seriously), look like you’re mad and ready to take it out on someone. Yeah you don’t wanna look like a dumbass granted but you could do better to engage in a pleasant respectful manner this guys world(world of hungry dog). Yeah to be clear these guys are generally not people you should respect, and you totally can just ignore them, without beginning to acknowledge them, which I’ve seen work to varying success but I’m here to say that in my limited but broad experience yes, even being the crackhead that’s looking to yell at rich looking people as they get on the train while I roll up in the corner of the car, that engaging a little bit will make things go smoother, you’ll have more control of what’s happening if you take active participation obviously. Reflecting on those times were I was going out to provoke shit that’s a different story, but basically the same moral. One night out downtown trying to pick up girls and eventually a see a super hot chick with this hipster effeminate thoughtless skater type that was much weaker than me(he also probably didn’t have a 6” spring blade ready)
>>33741946Pt2. Yeah you aren’t probably prepared for the type of rouge that has his arms crossed because in his hand he had his open blade lined up to your throat, yeah that’s me, and that’s how I was hoping to ruin that faggots life in half a second when I cold approached his chick, and said when you want some real cock come with me, she laughs, and he’s smiles, but at this point anything I’m saying to his girl is shit just trying to piss him off, call him faggot to his face, use this as proof to his girl that he’s a faggot cause I can get in his face and call him a faggot irl and he’s not on shot about it. Moral is that kid probably saved his own skin not responding to me, cause I would have escalated anything you said into a fight, not to mention if any physicality entered in his mind, I would have “protected” myself before his fist left his pocket. Sorry for the gay story but yeah this is supposed to be a little insight into the junkies, hot heads, and violent mental cases that roam your cities in high number cause that’s where there’s free social services. TLDR>Recovering mental tweaker that was looking to spazz on anyone at one point, says basic shit about, respectful engagement, where the goal is to be a unremarkable person in their mind, and total ignoring strategies as ways of avoiding conflict with unstable people. NEVER STOP HUNTING(that’s all I’ll leave you with
>>33742061lol this is the good 90s internet tough guy shit
If you're looking to get your ass stabbed, then by all means, please engage your local crackheads. Your sister needs to use that brain she's got and realize that dealing with him would've only brought y'all trouble. You did the right thing bro, nothin to feel bad about.
>>33742131I wish the shit I did was just over internet, I’m dealing with real life consequences for those type of behaviors. Getting my shit together but I can speak with authority on the guys that make a city feel unsafe. Hopefully there’s a dual message being received by OP and lurkers that, you should be careful but never scared, and that our civil society is always two or three bad days away from cannibals feasting on the corpses that pile in front of grocery store during a panic
>>33742308So, what caused it and what caused you to want to change, and what allowed you to do it?
>>33742496>what caused it drugs, desperation, psychosis, grief>what caused you to want to change I know who I am and who I was before my twin died, I have a duty to develop those capabilities >what allowed you to do itIf you’re talking about my crimes, it’s cause I didn’t/currently have issues around impulsivity, reckless behavior, turning complex emotions into anger then projecting it onto the target I have a thread up about my last 5 year shit show, and how things have gotten so bad that I’m on the brink of multiple cliff, it’s a long post, written as quickly as possible but there’s other stuff in there, I’ll link it in a reply
>>33742555>my post if you’re interested >>33740972
>>33742555Oh nah I was thinking what allowed tou to start healing. Cheers, I'll check out the thread. Hope you can manage to heal, and make it up to those affected in the past
Funny how all these pussies / non-americans forget you can De-escalate every conflict by brandishing at the aggressor. Even a 4' petite woman can hold her ground from a 7' predator by a simple draw and command to fuck off.>T. stopped 6 situations on seperate occasions by reminding the opposition lead don't care about body built flesh
>>33742573>healing I like to think I’ve started but it’s long road, I am in a better situation than I was before(somehow). Basically what caused my will to change was just trying process the grief I have, and the will of a man that wants to give something good to the world. >*allowed* me to healMyself, getting out of my own stupid crusader way and feel stuff, gained more insight, gave me more leverage to change my circumstances, in what’s becoming a better cycle. >those affected in the past Yeah need to do that, at some point. But yeah need to get honest with others Thanks bro , all the success of your journey as well
>>33742609Cheers man. Save yourself first, be kind in the meantime (don't let them take advantage of you, though), and allow yourself to schedule the redemption for after you've got to a stable place.
