How do I stop hating women? Unironically? My mom was abusive to me. My last 3 relationships were one sided and manipulative. I just broke up with my ex last week because I suspected she was cheating on me and she kept stonewalling me. I keep finding myself in these trash relationships. I fundamentally cannot trust women. I see them as extremely dangerous. But I want to be loved and held by what I hate. My hatred of women is matched only by my hatred of myself.
>>33737091Beautiful pic
>>33737091 There is only one (yes, ONE) way out of this1. Be more attractive2. Be more discerning3. Filter out the bad apples before they hurt you4. Repeat until you get luckyI'm currently on the same journey. It's either do this, give up or become extemely cynical.
>>33737091You gotta meet the right woman who loves all that trauma and dysfunction outta you. Who loves you unconditionally back to normal. Who loves you back into loving yourself and your mom again. She's out there, just keep looking. Love heals all. My ex showed me that I am worthy of being loved. That I can be a good bf, that I am worthy of having someone in my corner even though everyone's against me. She sort of, healed me in a way. So I can tell you she's out there. You just gotta find her and don't worry about finding her. She'll come at the perfect time.
>>33737164I should add, this is hard to do because it requires you to:1) Improve almost every aspect of your life2) Have the self awareness to identify / accept when someone doesn't like you as much as you like them3) Have the confidence to walk away from someone you might be very attracted to4) Have faith in women despite clear evidence that most of them are retards
>>33737091You have to find the exact things you hate on women and then hate those particular women who have those things/characteristics
>>33737174What happened with your ex then?
I am a woman, OP. Do not listen to them fuckers who tell you to be 'more attractive'. Your mother was a bitch. If I could I'd beat her to blood for crippling you like this. But trust me. There are normal women out there. Just try to not look with your eyes. You have to be able to indentify manipulators, whores and idiots and put those away. Always, ALWAYS watch for red flags. Good luck.
>>33737091>My mom was abusive to me. My last 3 relationships were one sided and manipulative. >I keep finding myself in these trash relationships. I fundamentally cannot trust women. I see them as extremely dangerous. These two things ARE related. Your parent's relationship is the model for all your future relationships. You're missing the red flags because your childhood was a red flag parade.You're going to need to do a lot of work on this. I'm not a fan of shrinks as a cost-effective long-term solution, myself. They are an option, though. Otherwise you gotta figure your own shit out.Recommendations:Youtube:Patrick TeahanThe crappy childhood fairyBooks:Complex PTSD: from survival to thriving by pete walker
>>33737188Women complain about toxic guys to no end but then chase them because they look goodBeing attractive is essential, unless you want a fat / mid gf, which no one does
>>33737191Oh I forgot for you incels fat and ugly chicks aren't women. Well I guess you will be with a hot young 10/10 when dying. All women get ugly in the end. If you can't see more to love you already lost.
>>33737194Not even slightlyJust saying, being attractive gives you a wider funnel which is essential because as you say, most of the job is looking for red flags and filtering out the whores / selfish cunts / idiots as you put itI'm just saying, you can't pretend that looks don't matter when they clearly do
>>33737164I am trying to do something like this. But I think by trying to be more attractive I am attracting the wrong type of woman. I'm getting older too. I am 28 so I am worried. I know that there is likely an issue with my attraction. I think I am attracted to the type of woman who would hurt me and I have to actively tell myself not to be attracted to that kind of woman. But still peace with women eludes me.>>33737188My relationship with my mom is so complicated. But the more I think about it, I just hate her. She ruined me. Ugh
>>33737174I used to dream for such a girl to enter my life. But I think it will never happen. My last girlfriend never ever even asked me how my day was. I would ask her every day. When our relationship was crumbling, I asked her why she never asked me how I am, and she said it just never occurred to her. I don't even deserve a how are you. It's the same way with my mother. I remember after being heartbroken, I took a chance and I told her what was happening to me and she told me not to talk to her about that stuff.
>>33737203Well it doesn't really. Tommorow you can get in a car crash and lose your face. You think a girl who'd fall in love with you for your attractivness will stay with you? Idiot. Find somebody who's not gonna be repulsed by you when get old and sick.
>>33737222Thinking a gf will heal you is another shitty advice. Unless she's a therapist or a doctor, she most likely won't. That's like thinking your gf might heal you from cancer lol. I know what it's like to hate your mother, OP. My mother is a greedy ass whore who'd enslave and bully her own kids. I often wish to devour her or to see her die. Sometimes I just lie down and fantasize about her hanging herself and me finding her and having McDonals under her dead body. Or locking her in a room in our old house and burn together. But. That's just the trauma. Not all women are a supeficial whore like her. She was faulty. Remember that. You don't hate them for being women. You hate them for failing at being human.
>>33737262I can't separate out the fact that she is a woman. You see both my parents were abusive but whenever my dad was abusive, I would run to my mom to seek her protection from my father but then she would turn her anger at me and I felt so awful.
>>33737266Well then your mother was a traitor and there might lie your issue
>>33737240That's an extreme case lol, mutual attraction is literally what gets most romantic encounters off the ground >>33737238I relate to what you say anon. Once you have a decent number of options, learning to identify and filter out retards is the next step
>>33737314For who. For whores.
>>33737322OK then. Start a relationship with a disfigured obese person in a wheelchair
>>33737340Well I'd rather go on a date with a guy like that than with a guy like you. Unless he had the same shitty opinios, in that case I'd turn you down both
>>33737357>get in shape, dress well and be confident>shitty opinionYou are intellectually disabled anon
>>33737357Actually there is a quite cute couple like that in our appt building. She is a chubby black haired woman with a cute face and he is a nice smiling guy on a wheelchair
>>33737366Quite the opposite. I am just damn making sure no fucker will leave me with a kid alone.
>>33737366You see, bitch, I want a relationship in which not even death us part. I cannot concentrate on gym ass, nice clothes and shit like that. Way more important is that the person is reliable, honest and with good morals and sunny spirit and is gonna be a good father. You're still a kid, of course you cannot possibly understand
>>33737091>I see them as extremely dangerous.LOL. I won't read self-inflicted problems threads. You're straining at a creation of your own mind.
>>33737357i can see why nobody loves you>>33737194dont waste your time on these threads, i say it as a guy
>>33737188>who tell you to be 'more attractive'In all fariness, dressing well and being kinda fit or at least not fat will do a lot for anyone, alone because you will feel better and more confident about yourself. >>33737222>But the more I think about it, I just hate her. I'm pretty certain that basically all genuine incels just have mommy issues. Sadly, incel "ideology" is an amazing projection space that keeps one from dealing with the emotional problem. Therapy may be a good idea to get over your mom and approach women without your baggage.Frankly, the woman that the average incel always assumes to be representative for all women is suspiciously a perfect example of a raging BPDemon. Wonder where that comes from kek
whoever says relationships can't be healing, is wrong. healing cptsd requires relationships because your core wound is trust. to heal you have to find trustworthy people and trust them. sounds easy, but it's very difficult.op, i'm a woman who has been abused by men my entire life, to the point where i started wondering if men were even human or capable of feeling love. i was close to giving up everything when i met my boyfriend who is also deeply traumatized. together we've healed a lot. good luck out there. healing is possible but you have to make sure you don't put the crimes of past women onto your future partners who had nothing to do with it.
>>33737666>nobody loves youOh, incel virgin tears dressed as an insult, how delightful
>>33737779Nobody said that, bitch. I said that it is not likely and he shouldn't count on it.
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Nta, but an actually *good* relationship will inevitably be very healing, he can absolutely count on that. That of course requires divorcing oneself form the incel mindset entirely, as it declares the behaviour the most horrid women to be the normal standard among women. So incels are actually the most likely to fall for the worst cunts, because they will assume dealing with their behaviour is just normal part of being with a woman.
>>33737174>My exlol
>>33737666>i can see why nobody loves youHello, satan
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I won't read generalization threads.
Respond to life in a transient manner where you just nomad from place to place through it all. It is what it is.
>>33737174No woman will love you unconditionally except for your mother. Unfortunately for OP, he wasn't very lucky in the mom department.
>>33737191You're describing toxic women. Acting and looking the way toxic women desire is only going to get you more toxic women. This is why the brosphere is such a grift. You have influencers describing the shit behavior of insane whores, then telling you exactly how to get the attention of those insane whores, while simultaneously alienating anyone who could be a stable, normal, loving companion.
