where did you learn this, why wasn't it the official attachment style website, and if it was, why didn't you find the answer to this stupid question on that website?

>>33737925
What kind of avoidant? Fearful? Dismissive?

>end up withdrawing at some point and avoiding everyone
yea same. idk why that is honestly. maybe im just bored of them or i see some latent flaw(s) that i didnt see b4

I do this too. I've ruined so many potential relationships before they could even begin by just not responding. I wish I knew why and could stop. I think maybe I'm afraid once they get to know me they won't actually like me, so I don't give them the chance. It's really hard.

>>33737925
Simply do not do the bad thing and then you will not get results of doing the bad thing.
Your "problem" is that you'd rather listen to your emotions than improve your situation, and that's not a problem, it's a choice. You're getting what you prefer.

>>33740490
>. I wish I knew why
Obsessive self image of yourself as undesirable or vulnerable, and also insistence on feeling bad about yourself when that self image is proven true, combined with absolutely 0 proactive actions taken to change these traits because you'd rather pretend you're valid than face the fact that you aren't
> and could stop
Literally just feel bad. All you have to do is identify that the correct choice will make you panic and hate yourself, then do it anyway.

I'm almost 30 and completely alone at the moment because of this. I've had dozens of friends over the years but eventually I always get tired of them and ghost them until I get lonely and start the cycle over.

>>33737925
we're in the same boat. FACK self isolation

>>33740539
(Same anon)
Sparing specifics, society has told me I'm much lesser. If I said how, seeing the website we are on, I think you'd likely agree.