>>33738185
>Is there any real solution?
dunno. youre going to have to tell us what happened

>>33738224
Fine I guess this post is to vague for any real advice.

When I was 17 I used to go to these outdoor parties with people, get drunk, do drugs and stuff. People would sit in this kind of circle talking getting drunk and so on. One night ive drank a ludicrous amount of alcohol as in nearly a whole bottle of vodka and it completely dark out. This girl next to me asked if I wanted to kiss and of course I agreed. Then I got too into it, and started groping her, sliding my hands under her clothes at which point her friend pulls her off and yells that she is 14. I obviously stop and leave but people start talking, some guy wanted to beat me up for it and most of my friends at the time stopped talking to me.

I ended up becoming reclusive and basically spiralled for the last 4 years with guilt and self loathing. I made some new friends eventually but I never told them, the guilt still haunts me nearly every day and I can feel my mental state slipping after years of guilt and remorse now.

>>33738259
>yells that she is 14
Imagine being this upset about someone canoodling with a young qt. Here in Germany it's perfectly legal.
Americans, baka.

>>33738337
Im not American im Swedish but I still feel like I went too far without consent with someone that I would normally never have seen in that way even when i was 17.

>>33738259
>the age difference was small
>You were only a minor as well!
>You were BOTH intoxicated and you probably more than her
>She asked you for sexual contact first
>It wasn't her that wanted you to stop it was her random friends that wanted to make themselves important
I see absolutely nothing you should feel guilty about.

>>33738337
He was literally also a minor.

>>33738259
>its fucking nothing

Even reading this was a waste of time

Fucking get over it

>>33738364
I feel like that age difference was still too big, at that age i would have been disgused at the idea of that age difference if i was in my right mind. I feel like I shouldn't have been that drunk also. And yeah she asked first but I think it was to far with the groping and that, i was too drunk too tell if she was into it but It didn't seem obvious that she was so its unclear enough for me to feel like it was a violation.
>>33738370
It was big enough for my friends not to want to talk to me anymore after that.

>>33738387
>It was big enough for my friends not to want to talk to me anymore after that.
As you can see not everyone thinks like your past friends did.

>>33738387
Your friends were pearl clutching virtue signaling morons

Youre better off without them

>>33738400
Maybe but those were quite established friendships, like hanging out almost every day for 2 or so years. I feel like they must have been pretty disgusted with me over this to drop me like that. Not the mention the guy looking to beat me up over it.

>>33738428
where are you from? Pussy ass niggas around you

>>33738446
Sweden.

>>33738455
Checks out

>>33738185
You need to find a way to forgive yourself for this mistake you made when you yourself were also a minor; Take into account all the other points the others mentioned.

Remember how there are many more cases where guys actually wanted to prey on younger girls, you didn't do this deliberately.

If it makes you feel any better, I myself slept with my current bf when I was 14 and he was 17. I was probably not ready and he should've known better, but things happen. The point is, you need to realise you didn't do anything wrong, you were just young and drunk and need to forgive your younger self. Do not let this dictate your future.

>>33738733
It does make me feel a bit better to hear this from someone who was actually affected in a similar situation. I guess its just really hard to come to terms with that I might have impacted someone's life in a substantially negative way and what's worse I have no way of knowing what and impact i had and never will since she was a stranger.

Ill try to forgive myself but its really hard. And I will try to keep in mind that this was a mistake and not malicious like other people might have been.

>>33738185
I think you should look into Real Event OCD. Fixating on a past mistake like this and letting it rule your life isn’t normal. You don’t deserve to suffer like this.

>>33738185
It's not a big deal at all.
The embarrassment and trauma will make you stronger, as long as your not a little bitch about it.
Your friends were pussies about the whole situation.
Move and start a new chapter as soon as you are able.
Use the situation as fuel to be the best person you can be.
Don't hold on to shame or resentment, it's poison.

SIMPLE.

>>33738259
I killed a kid in Afghanistan. I think you’re being too hard on yourself anon.

did your friends hear your side? if your events was what really went down I would assume that they heard what the friend or other people saying that you knew her age

>>33738368
/thread

>>33739031
did he suffer

>>33738259
How the fuck were you meant to know? She initiated with you, you're not some predator. No 14 year old should have been around drunken druggos in the first place.

>>33738185
You were both minors and she asked you...you didn't do anything wrong. You had some really bad friends.
You can make better friends anon and perhaps switch towns/areas of the city or live in a new city if they are destroying your rep. To me it sounds like they did that just to fuck with you.

Slightly diff situation but I was seen as a creepy fat computer nerd when I was in highschool. I didn't deserve the rep. I lost weight and people in the small town I was in STILL seen me like that even after I got fit. So when I graduated I moved across the country and now when people I meet think I was captain of the football team when I was in highschool lol (normies right?).
Good luck bro.