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My GF moved in with me, I pay all the bills so I feel I have some bargaining power.

Whenever I’m out late she cries. She always says she has no issue with me going out but if I’m home too late she cries. I don’t know what to do because if I did everything she wanted I’d never leave the house and be a hermit but if I leave she cries
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>My GF moved in with me, I pay all the bills so I feel I have some bargaining power.
You don't have any bargaining power. The more you keep doing what she wants, the less bargaining power you're going to have.
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>>33746141
>She always says she has no issue with me going out but if I’m home too late she cries

Kick her out, break up. Not even memeing, thats her emotionally blackmailing you to feel guilt about having your own life and socially isolate you.
>if I did everything she wanted I’d never leave the house and be a hermit
Yup, thats the goal. Classical abusive behaviour.She will keep doing it until she eventually has attritioned you down to the point where you obey. Once you are safely isolated and fall out of contact with your friends, the party really starts.
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>>33746164
How? If she’s dependent on me can I not just go out anyway???

She won’t leave me since I pay for everything and own the place
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>>33746207
What happens once I’m fully isolated?
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I miss having a needy gf...
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>>33746141
>>33746223
He's right in that the more you acquiesce to her demands, the less she'll respect you and want you. The answer is paradoxical - you have to keep going out and enjoying your life, and just let her bitch.
I think >>33746207 is too extreme but yeah your choices are either
>keep going out and deal with the bitching
>Stay in to make her happy, but she will lose respect for you and will eventually start shopping for another man
>Break up

If you do choose "break up." let this be a lesson to never move in with a girl again unless it's immediately preceding you marrying her and knocking her up. Then you'll actually get something positive out of the relationship, because pussy's gonna dry up either way when you live with a woman long term.
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>>33746223
You give, she demands more. Then you give again and, once this is normalized, she asks for more. The fact she's financially dependant on you means she can emotionally blackmail you into not dumping her. Because you wouldn't throw a sweet innocent angel like her on the street, right? So she can just leech off of you forever since she knows you're too nice to ever do that. I assume this isn't even a housewife situation, since girls like these tend to not actually do any house work.
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>>33746235
>>33746237
This is actually kind of scary. I don’t view her as manipulative but she does fit the archetype. Anytime I’m not with her she gets upset. I try bringing her out to social events but she has social anxiety so she stays home…. So it seems like the only way to satisfy her is to never go out or talk to anyone
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>>33746248
>So it seems like the only way to satisfy her is to never go out or talk to anyone
That's not actually satisfying her.
Women are very stupid anon, they never actually say what they want which is why they need to stay the fuck out of business and politics. She doesn't actually want you to stop going out, she wants to see how easy it is to take your balls from you because she wants to know she has a man, not a eunuch. Shit test 101.
Welcome to living with a woman. Again, I don't see why you'd ever do this if you weren't about to start a family.
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>>33746141
>I have some bargaining power.
nope you lost most of that when you let her move in
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>>33746225
More of the same, more and more extreme and about everything you can imagine.

>>33746235
>and just let her bitch.
Why should you be together with someone who constantly bitches at you? There si no reason to do such a thing.

>never move in with a girl again unless it's immediately preceding you marrying her and knocking her up
No idea why a legal contract has to be made to knock a girl up. Either way, this is terrible, horrible advice. When you have lived togetehr for afew years and things are well, then you mnow you wil get along in the long term. Living together is a whole different league than just dating. Thats what sorts tteh wheat from the Chaff. Do NOT knock a girl up imemdiately after moving in, you wil regret that forever.

>>33746248
>I try bringing her out to social events but she has social anxiety so she stays home

I mean she COULD overcome her anxiety and use your relationship to improve. But instead she chooses to drag you down with her using abusive tactics. Red , red red flag. Get out.

>>33746256
>Welcome to living with a woman
Lmao no. this kind of "advice" just enables terrible women. Sure, they are all kinda crazy, but witha proper woman its an occasional mild annoyance and not whatever the fuck OPs girl is doing.
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>>33746305
Fucking idiot brownoid advice, this is an Indian person that has never dated a woman
>No idea why a legal contract has to be made to knock a girl up.
Marriage is a Christian ceremony you Hindoo scum
>When you have lived togetehr for afew years and things are well, then you mnow you wil get along in the long term.
LMAO you've definitely never lived with a woman, you've never experienced the super sicko psycho switcheroo they do when they realize they're just a live in flesh light and they're not doing their biological job of bearing your progeny.
Seriously you're gonna give a chick access to your private living space and resources and you still think you need to "get to know her better?" Are you fucking stupid? SAAAR ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID SAAAAR???
>I mean she COULD overcome her anxiety and use your relationship to improve.
Oh you think women change. You think this isn't something all women just do. Saar, please do the needful and lose virginity to beuteefool Pashimina in village saar.
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>>33746305
>>33746279
>>33746256
>>33746248
>>33746237
I think you guys may be right

We’re both working from home and together all day, I suggested maybe going out after work and she threw a fit. Literally cannot leave the house all day.
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>>33746337
>Marriage is a Christian ceremony
It was, back when divorce was simply disallowed in entirety. All it does nowadays is hand the woman the option to bring total financial ruin to you with the snap of a finger. I fail to see how pretending we olive in the 17th centur yis good advice.
>experienced the super sicko psycho switcheroo they do when they realize they're just a live in flesh light and they're not doing their biological job of bearing your progeny.

Take care of your mental issues, for real. Or at least just frequent escorts. But for the love of God, don't give advice to people.

>You think this isn't something all women just do.
Ah yes, the lousy cope of the deranged who can only attract women as mentally ill as them. Thats just your world buddy, because any sane woman is going to be instantly and thoroughly repulsed by you and thus you are relegated to fucking the bottom tier crazies (your female equivalent) Fix yourself.
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>>33746357
>I suggested maybe going out after work and she threw a fit. Literally cannot leave the house all day.

Yeah forget it. It would be one thing if she was willing to work on it, but apparently her only goal is to get you to rot with her.
Unless you're willing to do that for the rest of your life, cut her off.
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>>33746141
There's different needs for personal time.
She's clingy, you are not. That is not a problem or a deal breaker, it's just something you have to acknowledge and work with.

But on another note she is probably (compared to you) a loser and reasonably afraid you may realize that is the case and end up cheating.
I think this just surfaced with her moving in. I also suspect that you would have had some hints at what is to come when you started dating her, or did you move in like really fast? If you moved in without knowing what you'll get yourself into, that is a 100% error on your side.

So what to do with all of this?
Option 1) Make her more comfortable with being outside for that time. This means you'll need to build trust and comfort her insecurities.
Option 2) Break it off. Like what the hell, that reaction is mental, gtfo.
Option 3) You bend to her will and become her pet. I don't think this will be good for your relationship or happiness.
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>>33746359
Excuse me saar but you need to do the needful and be up early for breaking yards tomorrow saar
>Or at least just frequent escorts.
HOLY SHIT SAAR YOU ARE ACTUAL RETARD OF THE BRAIN
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>>33746225
she then cheats on you and replaces your empty husk with a shiny new model
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>>33746386
We’ve been dating for a few years but we’ve lived far enough apart that this was never an issue.
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>>33746418
Well then figure out if you want to comfort her, break it off, or be her bitch.
Mixtures might also be reasonable.

Finding a reasonable trade off can be a solution to many relationship problems. In any case: Her reaction is mental, whatever is causing it should be addressed by both of you.
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>>33746395
If you are looking for a live in fleshlight, paying prostitutes is the logical thing to do.
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>>33746443
Saaar I am sorry but in United States prositution of the pussy is very illegal saar.
Take train and boat to Europe saar very maany beooteefool white womans there saar for you to rape with cock
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>>33746447
>I-its illegal
Cuck
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>>33746141
Tell her to see her own friends or bring her along with you. My fiance doesn't really have any friends other than me and not every hangout is a being your spouse kind of affair. I feel bad but she should also have her own friends. She doesn't give me a hard time about it.
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>>33746518
Just highlighting the fact you're stuck in a stinky tenement in Calcutta instead of having a big nice house with unpolluted air like I do :)
Your whole line of reasoning doesn't make sense to begin with, the whole point I was trying to make is that yes there's no point in moving in with a girl unless you're ready to make babies with her. Your third world brown Andrew Tate regurgitating brain just barfed out an answer "JUST GO FUCK WHORES BRO" without even understanding the point I was trying to make.
I will never forgive boomers for giving non-whites internet access. Billions really do need to fucking die.
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>>33746542
I literally said that already.

She doesn’t have any friends and she has social anxiety so she won’t come out with me
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Imagine coming home to this...
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>>33746141
I wish I had a clingy gf so fucking bad. You have no clue how good you have it.

Can I know how you met her? Where do clingy girls congregate? Where can I go to find one? Last I checked the gf store in my town was closed
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>>33746631
Then she must be able to entertain herself. What kind of recluse doesn't enjoy their own company?
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>>33747056
Clingy chicks are only good if they're DTF all the time otherwise they just never shut the fuck up.
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>>33747985
I literally don't care about sex I'm so lonely I just want to feel genuinely loved
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>>33746631
How did you even meet?
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>>33747989
Trust me my guy, once you've spent a month or two listening to her shit all the time you're gonna want to stick your cock in her mouth to shut her up. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy my girls company and conversation as well but women never stop talking.
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>>33747912
TikTok and Instagram reels

t. op
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>>33748025
I ran into her on campus when I was lost, literally movie tier meet up
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>>33749793
But how do you even strike up a conversation off that? How does it work? I wish I could cold approach
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>>33747056
You only want this because you don't know how hellish the experience of living with a mentally unstable woman is. Once the novelty wears off and she breaks your spirit you're going to start feeling like her hostage.
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>>33751168
I know it might seem that way, but I'm so lonely and bored with life in general that I really, truly, wouldn't mind. As long as the "unstable" part of her involves her controlling me and being clingy and taking all of my free time, and not the BPD cheat on me because I said something wrong kind of "unstable", to me it would literally be heaven.
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>>33746225
You haven't given us enough information to really tell what will happen but I highly suggest you start investigating personality disorders because what you will get will vary wildly when the real crazy comes out. Keep in mind that the truly crazy ones know that they're crazy and find strategies to hide it until it's too late so it could be anything.
If she's just anxious then congrats on being her hostage for the rest of your life.
If she's narcissist you get to be her hostage but also get to play a game of only letting her know you exist when she wants something but she also needs you there not existing
If she's BPD then after she attempts to merge her consciousness, her very being and her wants and needs into yours and finds out that it doesn't work she will spend every fiber of her being making you wish you were never born, and you will.
Either way what she's doing isn't normal and if she isn't going to work on it then it's ogre.
Before you do ANYTHING, have an exit plan, a very serious exit plan. Like, what are you going to do if the cops are called on you kind of plan and she's lying through her teeth while claiming tenants rights. You are already in too deep for this to be easy.

I know it's probably just an anxious clingy woman so grain of salt with this post but i've dealt with the BPD one before (and got cops called on me) and they truly are crazy and do hide it until they know you cannot escape hence this entire post. Good luck brother.
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>>33746141
>She always says she has no issue with me going out
There's a lot of LLM slop on all sides in this thread however the biggest red flag is you're "together" but she doesn't care if you're "apart".
I'm not personally aware of any relationship beyond mere roommate where the folks who are together are not physically together.
In summary, either stay home, take her along, or break up. You can't live life inconsistently where you're a couple except your not together. Either get together or get permanently not-together, there is no in between.
With obvious once-in-a-lifetime special exceptions (bro's bachelor party, an overnight flight to a job interview in another city, etc)



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