Objectively speaking, I’m not that bad looking and am at a decent position in my life (job, car, house etc). However I never had much self esteem to begin with and being on 4chan has ruined whatever little self worth I had and made me neurotic. It goes without saying I’ve got no bitches too.How do I work on this?
>>33755141>How do I work on this?Perhaps establish the baseline in which these stem from, and from there - gauge.Maybe if one could be humbled enough to stoop to what could be said as incremental in life and gauge precisely, even to the most minute of improvements and allowed relaxations, then the very quality of life would trend in proportion.Imagine if you would have made solved just one, singular, measly thing in your everyday; then by the end of October, you would have exceeded around more than 20 of those which improves your life significantly - in exchange for minute effort and will just as measly.To pay homage and compare, there are people who are paid ever so handsomely and reach heights of reputation in dabbling in microscopic life, sub-atomic sciences, to even the maximization of efficiency of individual employees in large corporate settings.
>>33755271So basically just find out my insecurities and work on them?I don't know. I just don't feel like I have innately as much value as other people. I was outside today just relaxing and I kept seeing people that didn't take care of themselves as much as I did (slobby, fat etc) but were clearly happier.I just don't know how to love myself.
I know this is yet another whiny thread but bump.I'd love some advice.
>>337551411) Get off 4chan.2) Learn how to fake confidence convincingly. That's basically it.
>>33755756>2) Learn how to fake confidence convincingly.How do you do this without going full Tate and just puffing out your chest and making as much noise as possible.Or maybe that's real confidence and I'm the retard.
>>33755614Perhaps to not be beyond those things easily dismissed. It could be a simple word or two refused to be uttered both internal or jokingly or a mere section of bone in your spine slightly made posture straight.
>>33755770Confidence doesnt mean being a retarded muscle bound peacock, it literally just means having high confidence that what you will do will work out, that you're capable. Simply fucking pretend that shit will work out, and try to do it. and if it doesnt work out, you smile and laugh and go damn haha and you try again. thats what being a man is
>>33755966Howie?
>>33756368What do you mean how, I just told you, very simple instructions, try to do stuff, and maintain a good attitude even when you fail. Face your fears and shit. Honestly sounds like youre already doing great, literally top 99% percentile /adv/ poster here for having a job and a house, so just focus on getting the bitches on your dick and you'll probably be happy. Just, like, fucking try dude. And then dont have a melty if you dont get pussy instantly. done.
>>33756380Thanks, I want to try guy centric hobbies like boxing and shit so hopefully that goes well.
>>33755141>being on 4chan has ruined whatever little self worth I hadHow and why?Here are almost just fucked up or crazy people I mean you have to be better than most of them?Just have a high ego and think you're better than everybody else, confidence will come
>>33756634I guess it’s just years of using the websites worst boards like r9k which ruined an already shitty ego.
>>33756756Understandable, then just quit like the other guy said.A few weeks off social media WILL 100% help you a lot
>>33755770You aren't a retard anon, Faux flexing is nothing compared to true confidence.I'm in your shoes too dude, I'm tall, white, and handsome despite a broken jaw. What I have learned is two things. 1. Anything worth doing, is worth doing poorly. Perfectionism can go to hell.2. True confidence, is a mixture of fully understanding or "knowing" something AND to be comfortable and Calm.Calmness, is the truest form of confidence. If you can be calm under duress and somehow think semi-clearly then you'll have a huge advantage.Granted, I'm single and bit of a dry spell so my advice may be useless but your inner peace will be thrilled if you gel on these two things.Puffing out ones chest and blowing smoke up they own ass while talkin out the side they neck will only do things Short term. It will never be a strong foundation for a sustainable and long term Bond. It's better to be alone, than wishing you were. Be kind to yourself, at the end of the day that's the only person who is gonna always be there for you anon.
>>33758217Thanks anon.
