the entire time i was in high school they never tried to help find gf or set me up with someone. they never even said anything on prom night when i cried myself to sleep in my room. now that im 25 they suddenly care about me finding a gf and keep telling me to go out and meet people. they don't even have anyone to set me up with though so i think they're just messing with me or something.
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>>33757647They care now because they want you to leave and stop leeching. They don't care about you or your wellbeing but only about themselves.
>>33757647>they never tried to help find gf or set me up with someone.In fairness OP...that really wasn't their job. It was yours.
>>33757647>they don't even have anyone to set me up with though If they aren't finding you a gf then they have no room to complain. Respect them cause they're your parents, but just ignore them. Boomers gonna boom and all that.
>>33759045It kinda was though
>>33757647They thought that you would stop being a loser eventually and figure it out. Now that you’re 25 and haven’t made any progress, they are worried that you’ll be alone forever.
>>33759099Kek no it wasn't, are you actually mad your mommy didn't get you a girlfriend? Your social life is your responsibility, parents are there to give you advice and money at best, not play fucking matchmaker.
>>33757647Because they care about you and don't want you to blow your brains out at 30.They assumed you would just meet girls naturally, but now that you're in your mid-20s, they're giving it more attention.
>>33757647They also want grandbabies, anon.
>>33759414>>33759321>>33759430your parents are supposedly properly raise you to be sociable so you can make friends and relationships in your teens. you can't just stick your kid in front of the television and pc the whole time and then wonder why he turned out to be a loser.
>>33759492*supposed to
>>33759099Kek, how? Explain OP. Go ahead, you have the floor.
>>33759614I already explained, see >>33759492
>>33759492>your parents are supposedly properly raise you to be sociable so you can make friends and relationships in your teensSure, but that's not what he said. It's not a parent's job to play matchmaker for their kid.>you can't just stick your kid in front of the television and pc the whole time and then wonder why he turned out to be a loser.Agreed, but OP is 25. Once you're an adult, it's up to you. It may not be his fault, but is his responsibility.
>>33759618And I just deconstructed it. >>33759622
>>33759622Moms play matchmaker for their sons all the time. Historically parents would trade with other parents so their son could have a wife.
>>33759622>Once you're an adult, it's up to you.If parents don't raise their kid to make it own their own they can't be surprised when the kid hasn't made it. Just like you can't be surprised that your dog shits in the house when you haven't potty trained it.
>>33759634>Historically parents would trade with other parents so their son could have a wifeAnytime you see the word "historically" in this context you know you're in for some massive cope and this post is no exception.
>>33759646>If parents don't raise their kid to make it own their own they can't be surprised when the kid hasn't made it.Agreed. OP's parents should not be remotely surprised that their son ended up a loser.That being said, that still doesn't negate my earlier point. It's still OP's job to fix himself now. He can argue about the fairness of that AFTER it's actually done.
>>33759699you're the one coping lmao
>>33759703I don't care about fixing myself though. I'm comfortable being alone and playing vidya. My parents are the ones who want me to go out and make something of myself, despite not giving me the necessary tools to do so when I was younger.
I had the inverse problem, my parents actively fucked with me whenever I tried to do anything social, acted like I had "better things to do" to scold me and gave ne the> "I need everyone's name, addresses, and I'm checking your bank account again when you get back"Speech. Can't go out for any hobbies, cant control how i dress, alienated from the few friends I had, just work chores class and trying to squeeze in an hour or two of vidya before bed before doing it all over again tomorrow.
>>33759634>Historically parents would trade with other parents so their son could have a wife.Congratulations, you weren't born centuries ago where this was commonplace. Instead of being upset that your parents aren't adhering to a custom that went out of style before their own parents were born, maybe try actually putting in the effort to get a girlfriend.
>>33760137>centuries ago>out of fashionYou are talking to a pajeet, so it's neither.
>>33760139You know, fair. My fault for assuming I was talking to someone who might have some semblance of value.
>>33757647Sounds like my parents. They gave me zero advice and were surprised when I didn't get a gf until 26 and even then she made the first move. Special shoutout to my dad, honestly what an asshole for not giving me any guidance at any point in my adolescent and adult life.>>33760102Jesus Christ anon. Mine were desperate for me to get out of the house, which I did, just never with girls. It's wild how poorly equipped some people are to be parents. How does one end up being so overbearing? Were your grandparents like that? You'd think they would have wanted to be different if they had been.>>33759622>Once you're an adult, it's up to you. It may not be his fault, but is his responsibility.Sure but without any kind of outside push how do you expect someone to change? It's not like going hungry, or being jobless and on the brink of homelessness. You can survive just fine without a girlfriend and risking embarrassment and rejections for something you don't truly appreciate is really hard. I lucked out in getting a girlfriend and now that I have one I realize it wasn't this huge monumental endeavour and that I could get another one if I had to. I also did not appreciate exactly what I was missing and you really can't if you've never experienced it.
>>33759045>>33759614It was their job to either give him adequate genes to be attractive and if he is then it's their job to raise him to be not be incompetent about romance.
>>33757647Why do you think, numbnuts? Either way my parents have been joking about me marrying a robot since I've been 14; that gave me motivation to prove to them I'm no queerhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6a1r07acd_I
>>33760137Centuries ago I'd be a serf and the lord would find me single woman(also a serf) and force us to marry because he wants more serfs. We live in cursed times.
i got my first gf when i was 25. when i first mentioned her to my father, he basically asked what was so wrong with her that she would want to date me. i didn't mention her again.
>>33760137>>33760139>>33760143the projection is off the charts lmao
>>33761474bot post
>>33761481>bot calling someone else a botclassic lol
>>33759321>They thought that you would stop being a loser eventually and figure it outmost people get a gf in high school and can find a prom date. if someone is struggling with that then it's obvious that something's wrong and needs to be addressed. the idea that someone is going to magically un-loser themselves after high school is insane.
>>33760495>Centuries ago I'd be a serfImagine actually aspiring to this and thinking it's a good thing. Literal slave/peasant mentality on full display.You're not exactly beating the pajeet subhuman accusations here, Rakash.
>>33757647>wanting your parents to set you up with girls in high schoollollmaoutter humiliation ritualif they did, you would've instantly come up with a list of 10 different reasons why the girl(s) they set you up with are no good.>>33760163>muh genesif your parents were able to preproduce, so can you.
>>33757647>the entire time i was in high school they never tried to help find gf or set me up with someoneAre you Indian or Paki? Why you pretend mom and dad set you up with a girl? That's retarded, and illustrates you mentally live in a world stuck 100 years ago.They DO care now because you're 25yo, don't you think is about time?Yeah, you're fucking retarded.
>>33761936>if they did, you would've instantly come up with a list of 10 different reasons why the girl(s) they set you up with are no goodnice strawman lmao
>>33761950>Why you pretend mom and dad set you up with a girl?holy esl
>>33761995The proof is in the pudding, if there were girls out there that OP was attracted to he would've at least tried to talk to them when he was 16, instead of waiting for mummy and daddy to bring him a disney princess
>>33762007Sorry that I forgot in this Taiwanese cobra enchanting forum we had an extension program for Oxford University.I do apologise.Get rekt, faggot.
>>33762037>proof>made up headcanon
>>33762084OP's post was about how he never once tried getting a gf for himself.
>>33762074stay mad streetshitter lmao
>>33762089okay so you're just posting bait then, got it
>>33762102I am just repeating what OP said himself, so you're not technically wrong, OP.
>>33762089>>33762118I never said that I didn't try to get a gf, you just made that up
>>33762141>t I didn't try to get a gfwhat did you try
>>33762244you're doing it again
>>33759492OP's problem is that he's not meeting convential expectations of forming family and to do that as a male in hypergamous 2025 without betabuxxing you need to be tall and handsome which is an unlikely combination statisticallywhat can he do? ascend, betabuxx or give up on finding a woman simple me personally I just think betabuxxing option is bad you can't have much self-respect to end up with that let me tell you
>>33757647They think it's still the 1980s and that you can just walk outside and smile at a girl and end up married. Just remember that you aren't the only one in your situation and that slowly but surely the outcomes of their ignorance are becoming more apparent.
>>33757647they are getting old and realized that they cannot have another child to replace you in case you fail so they want you to do what they cannot anymore.
>>33759634"We" "liberated" us from that some time ago, Anon. The same with women becoming "free" to join the workforce. Now you can "choose" who you are with
>>33757647>Have no spaces to easily break the ice with women.>Discourage cold approaching women.>'I WANT GRANDKIDS NOW I AM DISAPPOINT'
>>33757647They are propagating the lie that was told to them that a man's primary purpose is in providing for a family and laboring for a boss.That being said, whatever a man's true purpose is, I can say it definitely is not sitting in your room all day and talking to nobody. That is an advanced form of alienation that actually makes things a lot worse for you.
>>33759045It is their job
>>33761386Your father is a cunt
>>33759622nah >>33759492 anon is on the ball. my parents sheltered me, meaning I had no social skills going into my young adulthood. even though I went to college and got a degree which now has me making 6-figs wfh years later. i was told to chase bank not chase tail, now i have no clue how to find a romantic partner, not cuz im afraid to, i simply just cant even find where to meet people with similar interests outside of online spaces. im not the only one.
>>33767318A club/group?
>>33761386Wow, I hope you don't talk to the prick anymore. Fucking hell.
>>33767329I've tried looking this shit up online, facebook/meetup/etc., and I'm not in the middle of nowhere (I'm nearby a city at least). Like, I'm not even trying to be dismal or anything, I genuinely don't see anything that would be interesting for anybody that is under the ages of 50 at least. Looking at attendees confirms that shit. Maybe I'm looking at the wrong places? Idk.
>>33767288>my parents were supposed to arrange a marriage for me!It's getting awfully brown in here...
>>33767363honestly out of all the things jeets do, that is probably the only based thing they got. people forget that traditionally in western culture, the dad is supposed to pass the authority over his daughter to her wedded man. now you are lucky if there was ever a dad in the same household.jeets smell like body odor mixed with curry and its genuinely disgusting.
>>33767360That's shocking>>33767363White societies suck, mate. Look at all the people complaining. And yes, white people used to arrange marriages not too long ago.
>>33767407>not within the lifetime of you, your parents, or likely even your grandparents>not too long ago
>>33767423On the time scale of white history
>>33767520>whites use to do things differently centuries ago which explains why *I* can't get a date today!
>>33766825>hypergamous 2025 without betabuxxingnone of these things are real>>33767288>>33767386>>33767407>if we had arranged marriage still, I would have a 10/10 virgin tradwifeyou do realize that you would get matched up with some big white bitch with purple or blue hair that you would be psychologically and physically repulsed by
>>33767930are you retarded or something lol?
>>33759099>It kinda was thoughAfter 16~ you're the captain of your own ship really. There's only so much mommy and daddy can do for you besides push the ship out and patch the occasional hole.
>>33767282>That being said, whatever a man's true purpose is, I can say it definitely is not sitting in your room all day and talking to nobodyPeople have made it clear they don't want to talk to me, so why should I go through the humiliation ritual?
