A female friend I was visiting mentioned how dating has been quite exhausting to her, and she'd rather just have a friends with benefits for starters.We were just said on her sofa, chatting quite normally, when she mentioned that. I didn't really pay her comment too much mind, but later on my way back home I thought that she might have been insinuating something there?Now, I like her well enough, and I might've tried pursuing her romantically if she hadn't been preparing to move out of town earlier this year, so I'm a little stumped now.I have little interest in dating her, too, because I really don't want a LDR. But dunno, FWB seems like a decent enough time?Did she mean anything by it? I'm not a very flirty person, only way people understand that I'd like to pursue them is if I tell them quite literally, otherwise I just come across as friendly, and I haven't told her for above mentioned reasons. Wot do?
>men complain women don't drop clear enough hints>People like OP existHoly shit bud do you need her to have your cock in her mouth before you pick up what she's putting down?
>>33759411b-but again, I've never made any advances towards her, I don't wish to break her trust
>>33759261She's a whore, just avoid.Also, don't bother with female friends.
>>33759480eh, she might still be a virgin. I know that she was a virgin back in January, and her dating attempts haven't been overly successful>Also, don't bother with female friends.nah, it's nice.
>>33759480>>33759498hm, I might just ask her next time I meet her
>>33759498>she might still be a virginNo, she isn't, and even if she were, the fact that she's considering an FWB situation is incontrovertible proof of a whore mindset.
bump
>>33759261Anon, this not a complicated situation. She was definitely expressing interest. If you are interested too, go for it; if you're not, don't. It's that simple.
>>33760887>She was definitely expressing interesthow can you be so sure? she might also just be retelling her dating troubles, innit
>>33761315Who cares. If you want some, shoot your shot. What was her body language like when she brought it up? If her body was adjusted toward you, or with her knees in, making her appear more plump or inviting, or like, she had her legs out-- anything that was subconciously presenting herself to you, you should really pick up on that and understand intent. If you were just watching some gay zoomer shit and she was just hanging off the couch and barely looking at you than yeah, she's just venting to her emotional tampon (you). But I've heard woman associates complain about guys that "I mean I invited him to my house and he didn't do anything so...". Funny enough I heard the other guy's side of the story as well, and he knew he could but just liked the chase lol. Sometimes being invited over is enough in a dumb woman mind. I don't know your situation. She is by no means a virgin though, retard. Sounds like she just wants some fuck before she moves
>>33761315NTA, but theoretical worst case scenario: it's completely understandable that you could interpret what she said as her being interested, so there's no way she can possibly be upset if you do interpret it that way. So, if you're interested, say so; even if she's actually not interested, she won't be offended.But the other anon is almost certainly right. No woman will ever just come out and say "Wanna fuck?" because they're afraid of being humiliated if you say no; so, if you're not interested in her, she wants to be able to maintain plausible deniability and pretend that wasn't really what she was suggesting. Consequently, that's as direct as a woman will ever be if she *is* interested.
>>33759261>Wot do?Depends on how much you care for your friendship. Things like this either end in a serious relationship or get totally rekt.But I'm that kind of guy that doesn't believe in friendship between men and women, so probably I am not giving you the best advice.
>>33759261That was your chance to fuck, now it's over. Back to the friend zone with you.
>>33761361>What was her body language like when she brought it up? uh, I didn't pay it any particular mind. she'd crossed her leg and was nervously gesturing with her arms while avoiding my eyes.and we weren't watching anything, just talking.>She is by no means a virgin though, retardoh, I don't particularly care whether she is, she has already moved town and is just looking for some bodily comfort, which fair enough.>>33761811seems plausible.>>33762128well I like her, but she's most certainly not my closest friend. only thing that might end up upsetting me is if she finds someone before me, leading for her to put an end to it without me having found another outlet.>>33762283nah, I'll just bring it up next time I see her
>>33763350I hope she does find someone else before you because you certainly don’t deserve another outlet. Eat shit.
>>33763377why so rude.outlet was crudely worded, but I'm sure you get what I mean? bodily companionship is a lovely thing, so of course I'd be bummed if I had to stop
>>33759261Yeah she was trying to bone you.>>33759411This
>>33763350>nah, I'll just bring it up next time I see herDo it right now or else I will track her down and be her fwb instead. She probably called up her next male friend who was on deck anyway. Cuck.
>>33763788by text? or what do you mean
>>33763970I mean go fuck her right now or she is going to some other guy. She probably already did.
>>33763989ah. no, she lives in another town
>>33763719And like I said you don't deserve her bodily companionship. She owes you nothing and you don't get to be upset when she hopefully finds someone else.
>>33764333where did you get deserve from, where did you get owing fromand no, of course I'd be bummed if I had to stop doing something I'd been enjoying.do you not understand basic human emotion?
I still don't understand how retards only ever want virgins in their life time and that's how you end up become Eipstein going for underlings.If you want to fuck just fuck. If you want long term relationship then have a LONG TERM friendship first you dumb fucks. Even if girls aren't virgin, they'll be good in bed.
>>33765910>>33763719The person who replied to you: >>33764333is the same as this person>>33766656
>>33759261If I sat with a girl.. And she said that. I would have instantly said, well I can be your fwb. Let's do it lmaoAnd she probably would have
>>33771086yeah... it just didn't occur to me in that moment.hopefully she doesn't feel too rejected, and I can mend it next time
>>33771211>next timeyes wait. wait and don't say anything. talk to us. that's how you get the girl. good plan OP, good plan.
>>33761315>how can you be so sureYou can never really be totally positive she wants you but her saying that is a big hint and like other anon said. Was there any other signsAnyway just make a move and be serious and confident, next time you see her . Show up an demand a hug and then start with kissing her neck and grip her ass or something and smoothly say "you would make the perfect friend with benefits" And it is important you just go for it. Verbally asking her "should we be friends with benefits or what"? Might work. But for a lot of girls, them admitting to it like that is too "slutty" and/or leaves them too vulnerableA chick that i was friends with and my autistic ass felt a connection but i didnt want to be weird and make a move and possibly be denied etc. I asked her "are you into me more than just friends"She said "no, just friends okay"The next day she offered a massage and i put it all together and then gave her a massage and started squeeing her boobs and then kissed her
>>33759261you got hit by the female flirting equivalent of being hit with a brick to the face and you STILL didn't realize that she wanted to fuck you jesus christ
>>33759261everyone's saying this was a dead obvious hint, but consider this anecdote>be me>in college>have female friend from a study group>she's hot and I'm into her but don't want to make things weird>one night in her dorm room hanging out and venting while we look at our phones>"anon, I need to get laid, you know">sure>"just like with anyone you know. anyone at this point">I get that>"yeah just like with anyone at all">several moments of silence pass>holy fuck she means me, she's flirting with me, holy fuck this is it>femanon if you're down I'm down haha>more silence>"wait anon are you serious?">I mean if you're serious I'm serious >more silence>"that's not... I didn't... look I like you as a friend, okay?">realize I fucked up>immediately try to laugh it off, she nervously laughs too>pretty soon after tells me she needs to sleep so I leave>stops replying to my texts>later find out she told our study group that I was a massive creep>didn't really matter because I wasn't friends with them but still hurt thoughSo in conclusion you genuinely can't ever tell
>>33759411Yes
>>33772322>later find out she told our study group that I was a massive creepand women have the gall to complain about men not approaching them
>>33759498>Virgin>FWBAnon you got two retarded takes already, stop. Think about things, connect the dots
>>33772322The thing is words are not the whole picture, maybe not even half. She could have the same conversation with a gay friend or a female friend and you would not consider it a signal to fuck, just talking. There are signs like "is she looking at your eyes?" "Is she touching her hair?" "Is she touching you or near you?" "Is her body oriented in your direction?" "How's she saying it? It's a seductive voice? Is it a frustrated voice?"When I was young I messed up too many times, one night partying two girls from my class sent me signals but I did not pick them up, they even got a little mad at each other for it but I did not pick up almost anything until the next day
>>33771218you want me to just tell her that I realised what she meant over text? no, I'm going to advance things next time we meet in person.>>33771396thank you for your input. as it was something she brought up verbally I guess I'll just continue it that way. just offer her to cuddle or sumthing and see where it takes us.you might tell me that I should be much more forward than that, but I don't think I'd be comfortable starting off with fucking, I've only ever done that with gfs before.>>33772322fuck, that's dire.>>33772733well, as I've mentioned above, she told me while we were talking and doing nothing else. later we were "reviewing" something she'd written on her laptop together,and I was sort of leant over her leg and had placed my hand between her legs, and even though I hadn't intended anything by that, she didn't shuffle away or anything>>33772697I don't particularly care, I was just trying to defend her from above anon's accusations.I just know that she was a virgin when she moved away, and that her dating attempts haven't been particularly successful since then.What I don't know is how promiscuous she'd be during the early dating stages, but from the way she usually presents herself, I wouldn't expect it, which could be wrong of course.
