>skincare routine: cleanser+moisturizer+sunscreen (if going out during the day). Do it once or twice a day. >diet: Water, decent protein sources(eggs, milk, meat, fish or chicken) and vegetables. That's it, really.>physical exercise: anything that makes your muscles bigger or your heart and lungs work harder, preferably both. Respect your current limits, but always strive to surpass them.>Coping mechanism/achievement placebos that trick your brain into thinking that you're getting some sort of fulfillment out of your life (pmo, vidya, pot, alcohol, etc.) : cut down if needed or remove completely. You do you. >building a social life: the hardest and most complex subject. Still struggling myself. Any /adv/ is welcome.
building a social life: stop posting here and get off the computer, go do cool things and have stories to tell, women love hearing interesting stories even if they don't give a shit,they just like it and bros will think youre cool
>>33759378social life is hard when you have only one social circleyou should prioritise having multiple ones from different hobbies and activitiesid say for most it's>friends from school>friends from workand that's it rightif you don't even have that then you need to find a social hobby you enjoy>hiking>sports>pool / darts>drinking>classes (cooking, dancing, language)in fact doing multiple of the above you will notice you cane easily make too many friends How to actually make them your friend?after being a regular at said activities, you invite people to hang out after the activity is done i.e. go out to eat after you should be the one organising the after-activitiespeople generally do these hobby activities to make friends but we are all lost as to how it actually happensand the way it happens is one person takes the initiative to invite people out after
>>33759395I've been having a hard time to find interesting things to do>>33759413I've made an Instagram account only to find hobbyist clubs in my area and it didn't work out. Should I try Facebook?
>>33759465depends on your hobbywhat do you actually like to do?meetup dot com i think you just search and find shit
Bumping this thread for advice for a late twenties guy with no social media, no family and no friend for a decade.What the fuck do I do?
>>33759963I used to really like drawing as a teenager but my parents managed to make me quit. Earlier this year I started learning how to play guitar, but I had a fit of rage and destroyed the instrument. Nowadays my main hobby is running and I'm slowing building my up in calisthenics. >meetup dot comNot american, so it won't wirk, sadly. Have been looking for my country's equivalent for quite some time now. >>33760425I think you should start by addressing the causes of your isolation while simultaneously trying to get out of it (yeah, I think those are two separate cognitive tasks). Start with small, manageable, low-stakes *actions* which will be specific to your current life situation. Simple examples:>have a journal and try to healthily introspect about the causes of your loneliness. Avoid devolving into rumination/self-pity.>List the most simple and doable actions that you can take during your week to raise your sociability level. After one entire decade, you're like lvl. 1(noob) and will to work your way up
>>33759378Step one:>SkincareSeriously?
>>33759378Why does this always assume you have money and maximum freetime?
>>33761041Where in the post do you see that?
>>33761044Skincare routine: moneyDiet: moneyExcersize: time, maybe moneySocial life: time and moneyDon't be dishonest
>>33761050sweating alone is kind of a skin care
>>33761050>SkincareDo you have running water? If so washing your face is free.>DietSo you're not currently eating food at all? You're starving? Unhealthy food costs just as much if NOT MORE than simple healthy stuff.>ExerciseYou only need a half hour a day to get by. If you tell me you're working or otherwise unavailable 24 hours a day, you're lying.>Social lifeSee above regarding time, and talking to people is free last I checked.Don't be dishonest, indeed.>>33759378>>building a social life: the hardest and most complex subject. Still struggling myself. Any /adv/ is welcome.I like your post OP so I'm happy to help you out. One thing I'll say (having been there myself in the past) is that some people with no friends, no gf etc just have to accept that they'll be alone for a while.But that's ok. Embrace it. Use that time to reflect and work on yourself. I think a lot of people here approach this from the wrong angle. Instead of worrying about being alone, they should worry more about becoming the kind of person that is likable and that people want to be around (not saying you're not). Then once the opportunity arises and you're around people, making friends/meeting women becomes easy. It just clicks into place once the groundwork is done.In every great movie, the hero is exiled into the desert or something for training for a while. Life often imitates art.
>>33759378I've never moisturised in my life, only gaybos y
>>33759963Just looked this site up and all the organizers and members look like actual r*dditors and trannies. Fuck that.
>>33761079The hard truth is that nobody wants to be your first friend circle and expect you to have a life before you can be friends or something deeper with them.
>>33761240Sexual status resembles employment status. If you're a jobless loser and try to find a job nobody wants your ass.But if you already have a job and go on exploratory interviews and make it clear that you love your job and would only consider being lured away for a 10% raise because you feel you could handle more important responsibilities, everyone wants to hire you.Same thing with women and friend circles. If you aren’t getting any, you give off defeated loser vibes and women look at you and assume the reason you have no woman or friends is because you aren’t good enough for one.
>>33761240Not really. I don't know you, for example, and if I met you I wouldn't care if you had a million friends, zero friends, or somewhere in between. All I would care about is if I could enjoy (or at least tolerate) your presence around me.The real truth is that people only care about what you can do for them. That doesn't have to be as mercenary as it probably comes across...some people contribute enough just by their sheer presence, because they're enjoyable to be around. Others are the opposite, a drain on whatever group or room they're in. So this revelation can be liberating, and as much of a black- or white- pill as applies to you personally.
>>33761282So the only way is to make up past experience?>>33761303Yeah, I agree with this. In most cases.Only thing is, most relationships are transactional not only in a financial sense but literal. Most women expect you to have some friends or family they can meet, if you don’t for no good reason - they’re often unsettled to say the least.
>>33761079>Embrace it. Use that time to reflect and work on yourself. I think a lot of people here approach this from the wrong angle. Instead of worrying about being alone, they should worry more about becoming the kind of person that is likable and that people want to be aroundYeah, what you said there sounds reasonable although somewhat counterintuitive, or maybe it's just my loneliness hijacking my capacity for reasoning
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