>make profile on tinder>look at the profiles of local women>hobbies: clubs, wine, partying, travel, netflix>pictures: slutty clothingThey can't all be like this, right? Where can I find actual, real people? I'm not into these types.
>>33765348And so many of them have only pictures in their profiles with no bio or interests. I don't give a FUCK what you look like--I want to know what kind of person you are.Fuck my stupid chud life.
>>33765348Meetups (meetup.com) hobbies (singing/acting/dancing/ssports groups) Keep in mind that as a man you'll get ignored unless you are healthy weight for your height. Bonus points for being fit.Make sure you also take care of your hair, your facial hair, the smells from anywhere on your body, and that you wear nice clothes and shoes. Yes it's a lot of steps. But if you want to be rewarded, you have to give something in return.
Join a board game group or go to church.
>>33765402No. The only women meetups.com has look like men, and the men look even worse.
>>33765408I swear to Christ if I see one more retard think you’re gonna find a single woman under 50 in a church or a fucking BOARD GAME GROUP im gonna lose my shit. That shit does not fucking work. Churches are not speed dating centers, and the majority of those who go are families and MARRIED, OLDER women. And board game groups are just gonna have sweaty, gross loser men and fat ugly dykes.t. son of an ex-pastor
>>33765410Since you're an active op and you actually read the message I'll bite: I was a hermit until March of this year after a rough breakup with gf of 5 years, and I'm 29. I started using that site and been to over 100 meetups by now. I started with hiking meetups, where we hiked in Meadows, forests, dunes, went to beautiful old city centers with markets, did bbq on the water, had wine tasting at a winery, got to see my country. Simultaneously I started attending social picnics with strangers, dinners with strangers, bar meetups for socialization, board game meetups, d&d meetups, meaningful conversation evenings. That was amazing for getting over my fears of meeting people in unknown social situations. I started to trust strangers and be comfortable in my own skin.Then I transitioned into hobbies, now since August I do dancing, singing and acting weekly, because I wanted something more consistent Throughout everything I did - I met amazing people, I've made girl - friends who I'm still in contact with and see, I've also made guy friends and they have taken me to even more places, and there I could practice getting over my anxiety and also meeting more women. With a mindset like"No. I'm going to write off the entire outside world", you won't get anywhereI know that it seems like right now, there's nothing out there, it's all dead and cold and sad and people go to work and back home. But it's the farthest thing from the truth. As of today I've discovered SO MANY THREADS of things I can do. I'm in the WhatsApp group of like 7 different cities, sometimes multiple per city, and I get informed over SO MANY things that are happening in the real world. I just have to choose and go. People who don't play games and are chronically online do THIS. And it's fucking amazing. I'm a true story. So step up or stay alone and whine in your little /adv/ thread. Feel free to ask me questions if you have any
Soon as OP gets a good response he nopes out, fucking great
>>33765445I’m not OP dude. I’m just an active replier. See >>33765410 and >>33765418.
>>33765402>meetup.com
>>33765445Holy shit this 100% glad someone said it
>>33765577Gem.
>>33765577Filter: In-person meetups onlyYou must have room temperature IQ in celsius
>>33765582Thank you fren, I only wish OP would see it. All these chuds are acting like they are better than going outside and socializing and then they wonder why me no get gf, well that's whyCaptcha: RDNG0
>>33765632Sorry but vrchat meetups and board game clubs aren’t where you’re gonna find a girlfriend, and we know it.
>>33765674t. can't read
>>33765348Most of them aren't even real. I've made a profile on tinder and somehow, in Warsaw of all places I had a bunch if asian girls aged 20-25 all living in London but less than 10km away from me and all with models body show up after I swiped like 3 girls left. Jewish dating app niggers, I know these profiles are fake, stop doing this shit.
>>33765445>Then I transitioned into hobbies, now since August I do dancing, singing and acting weekly, because I wanted something more consistentSo ok the solution is to become homosexual ok m8 we know you're bullshitting.
Stop using dating appsTalk to real life women
>>33765445>do thisyou atill have no gf. it's a journey ye. but you didn't get to the goalbut he is right. you need to practice and be in the circle to get a gf. or, you know... get one for a few 1000 bucks and divorce after 3-7 years
Just talk to women, chud. It's that's simple.
>>33765418There are youth groups
>>33767355If you're older than like 25 you don't qualify to go to those.>>33765445You sound like a euro-peon. Must be nice!
>>33767366Some are 18-35. They might be called young adult groups instead.
>>33767366Also if you meet some of the older people they can set you up with younger relatives. And if you only make friends with their children you can meet their friends too.
>>33765348Interesting women are in short supply and the demand is high. If you did anything interesting yourself you'd see these women in the wild, and you'd notice that they gravitate around the highest status men in that circle.Women will change for their man if the man is worth changing for.
>>33765348>>33765418Go to church.
>>33765418Do you only go to baptist churches or somethingThere's a ton of churches around me with 20-30 single women
>>33767484not OP, but I have been considering also due to my town feeling like ghost town on Sundays. Thing is I wasn't going there for several years and it honestly feels extremely dishonest to go back there just to try to get laid.
Motorcycle helps ALOT.Not OP, but I think I'll try this too. What sort of etiquette should one present themselves as when first timing this site? MeetUp.com you said?
>>33767351>"Just TALK to us, guys!">Talk to woman>"I was sexually assaulted today: this is my story"
>>33765348All the good looking women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking (7 and above) women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
>>33765810Yes you have to be comfortable in your own skin, be comfortable with expressing yourself and performing. Acting singing and dancing have given and are still giving me the confidence to do these things. But that's me going above and beyond the target goal. I'm not saying everyone should do that, but I am advocating for at least going to meetups to meet people. You can't stay a hermit forever.>>33766450And yes still no gf, but I have girl friends, and I'm becoming more confident and doing more and more things every week. My most recent lesson was with a girl from my bachata class who was hot/cold with me, until she told me finally that she's not interested. So to follow up on this lesson - now there's another girl in my choir who I'm interested in, and this time - instead of asking her for a walk, I'm just straight up going to ask her for a date. I've NEVER asked someone out on a date before by using the exact words DATE. I felt like it was so charged and pressuring and off putting. But honestly? Now I'm understanding that I'd rather put a girl off, or find out that she actually does want a date with me. Efficiently, and quickly. I won't have to wonder, and wait for replies and shit. Just ask, get an answer, and get in or get out. So yeah all of my activities have enabled me to do that, and I now see 60 to 80 women a week. Which is INFINITELY better than the big fat ZERO I had before. >>33767366Indeed I'm a euro peon, from the Netherlands. Work work!
>>33765348>They can't all be like this, right?Women are for bearing children, not to be your friend and talk about your autistic interest with. They're all shallow until you mold them into something you want. Now spend the next 4 to 8 years pissing and shitting over the whiplash that you had a romanticized notion of women.
>>33767748Go there to get right with God and He may grant you a wife.
>>33765348>hobbies: clubs, wine, partying, travel, netflixWell obviously skip those. I know Tinder is full of vapid people, even more these days then before, but I met my wife on there so I know it's possible.You have to trudge through the shitty basic bitch profiles looking for validation and look for the weird, awkward ones. The ones who were clearly forced to make a profile on there by their girlfriends. It's those types of neglected girls that often have much more interesting backgrounds and hobbies. Because they didn't go out chasing boys in their 20's, they were too busy practicing the damn harp or collecting butterfly fossils. Those are the ones who actually have something they genuinely like, not just parroting the travel-and-wine bullshit. And they'll be much more interesting and grateful conversation partners.
>>33767803It's other news>Things that never happened!>Top reasons you should die an unhappy virgin! (Totally imaginary)
>>33765445are you naturally extroverted?i've been thinking on doing something like this but i just don't see myself comfortable at all based on past experiences. i mainly went to places with "my people": went to renfaire, a gaming convention, and ever a rl meetup with a discord group i've known for 6 years, and i always felt like an outsider (can't imagine how worse it'll be in dance or hiking events). i guess i'm curious about your mindset and how you prepared yourself for striking out like that.
>>33768597Great question man, I'll start by saying that I was acting like an introvert my whole entire life, with bouts of a couple weeks/months of being extroverted every couple of years.I think that in my nature I'm very extroverted, but I haven't behaved it consistently yet, and I really wanted to change that.My whole mantra was, I will just go. I'll be awkward as fuck, and I'll be afraid. But I'll go. And trust me dude I was so scared, every step of the way I was scared.Dancing was my final boss, it was such a scary thought to even think about trying it. So I'm not faulting you at all, I was in the same exact position. I literally gave myself therapy through exposure to social situations I'm afraid of.The reason I started with hiking is cuz I knew that walking is something I just do, and I enjoy nature. So if people don't talk to me, or I'm awkward, it's okay, because most likely I can just focus on the walk, and I was right. For the first four months from March to July hiking was my crutch, I was doing my 6000 steps a day (4.5km), but really averaging at 11km per day which is 15,000 steps. I was losing weight, eating healthier.Simultaneously to all of this. I thought - healthy body, healthy mind. And I was right. Gradually I pushed myself to do more, and this was my main focus - if I'm scared of it, I need to do it. That was my guiding light in hard times, and that's why I went for dancing. I'm TERRIFIED of making mistakes in the sights of people, and I'm gay af in the sense that when there's a hot girl around me I feel SUPER SELF CONSCIOUS. And hyper aware. So that's why my focus shifted to female spaces later on, like acting singing and dancing groups. Now interacting with, touching, and looking women in the eyes is becoming normal to me, so I'm less afraid to initiate. Also still losing weight, and thinking about starting with gym. Fit body = you show self respect and feel better. It's all interconnected. You can do it dude, don't worry about labels.
>>33765445This is impossible to do in the US, fuck this piece of shit country
>>33769595The DC area is apparently the best in the country and it still sucks
>>33767803Have you tried following Rules 1 and 2?>1/ Be attractive>2/ Don't be unattractiveWorks for me!>>33768258At this point the imaginary rejections some of these guys get are no better than the imaginary assaults some women report.>>33768040Keep it up, lad!I'm a little jelly. In US, even in big cities, things don't work out as nicely and hiking groups here are filled with jeets looking for bobs & vagene.
>>33770690>Keep it up, lad!>I'm a little jelly. In US, even in big cities, things don't work out as nicely and hiking groups here are filled with jeets lookin for bobs&vagene.Thank you man!! We also have our small but fair share of jeets looking for bobs and vagene, no one likes them. But groups have caught on to them, and some organizers are really strict about who they let in. One Jeet gives them the wrong impression and they simply keep them on the waiting list and never accept them to the event. My hiking group organizer is an amazing lady with a good eye for kind people.I'm actually a bit jelly of you guys! Because you get to have it all in English. I live here for 5 years now, and I still don't speak Dutch well enough that I can really get to know someone proper, so I always default to English. Plus when you speak English to a Dutch person, it doesn't get into their heart. You want a girl, you better speak Dutch - then they think you're one of them. They feel you as one of them. Something I'm currently not :pSo everyone has their issues but I recommend that if you take a sip of courage one day, sign up to a good looking hiking meetup with like a small ish (20 to 30 people) meeting! It'll be the best day you've ever had. And go without expectations! Talk to everyone who talks to you. And be casual about it, people are just there to walk and enjoy not to catch you on a lie or something.Best of luck to you friend.In other news, I'm starting to get kind of nervous for Friday, there's this girl I really really want to hang out with. And make her my gf, from my choir, but I barely know her I talked to her for like 10 minutes. I hope she'll be as nice to me next week as she was this week. And if she is then I really want to ask her to hang out. And I'm hoping to god that she's single but you never know. She could be having a boyfriend or husband already haha. I'm quite obsessive about it, it's my own personal problem. I always have some girl I obsess over.
>>33771056>I live here for 5 years now, and I still don't speak Dutch well enoughDutch is rated Cat 1 by FSI. Becoming fluent will take time, but after 5 years in country you should be able to go a whole day speaking dutch (shopping, small talk). Find some evening language classes ASAP if you intend to stay for several more years because osmosis learning never works.>and make her my gf>but I barely know herWhy do you think she'd make a good gf if you barely know her? Maybe she's a total bitch. This seems completely ass-backwards. If you just want to get laid there are easier options.
>>33765402>Meetups (meetup.com) hobbies (singing/acting/dancing/ssports groups)the only women that go to these events are grandmas
>>33765418LOL find a better church, there's a zillion its not hard to find one.
>>33772521>Find some evening language classes ASAPI found one! It starts in February. That's about when I'll get enough money to be able to afford it too haha. So yeah I appreciate your advice man. You're absolutely correct. > Why do you think she'd make a good gf if you barely know her? Maybe she's a total bitch.I've been meeting a lot of people, I think since March I met.. Like 500 new people. Personally. Like spoken to, not just seen in passing. So I have a good hunch about her. But I agree with you. I'm going to see her this Friday, and she'll hopefully join us for drinks this time. I'll try to catch her and talk to her some more. Then offer her to hang out. I'm going to phrase it like: I love your energy Georgie, do you want to go out for a drink or a walk? And yeah. See what she respondsAlso I'm not at a healthy weight yet, I'm half way there, so I'm starting to look normal, so yeah. Getting laid don't work for me at the moment
>>33765348women don't use tinder for dating, they use tinder to hook up with guys that are better looking than them (because they can't keep them around). You have to meet them irl somehow.
