My gf broke up with me a week ago. During the past week I've had to chance to process parts of the relationship and have realized some of the issues that seemed like such a big deal in the moment, were stupid and I was not handling them the best. I judged her a lot for her sexual past and now that I lost her I feel like I was so stupid for caring about it when I have had a past myself. We have had a lot of ups and downs in the last few months and I think in the last month we were finally on the path to stability. Unfortunately this fight blew up and led to this conclusion. I didn't know what I had until I lost it and I hate myself for losing her.The last time I saw her was when she asked to see me. I got really emotional and blew up at her. She was crying really bad and that's when I felt it was really over. I texted her the next day saying I wanted to see her and she blocked me. A few days later she blocks me on all socials. I know I fucked up by getting desperate at the end. I know I can be better in the future, whether for her or someone else, but I really want to try again because I wasn't able to cherish what I had.
>>33769521Contact her anon. Im sure she misses you too.
>>33769521sex her mom
>nooo not my former whore girlfriend I was with for a month and a half, nooooo
>>33769521it's over, manshe's already fucking someone else
>>33769521She fueled the fight subversively without you noticing in order to incite you to blow up. There's nothing you can do. She wanted to break up with you without blaming herself; ladies logic.
>>33769521It's called learning and growing up. At least you'll try not to make the same mistakes next time
>>33769778I want to but I'm blocked on everything. That is making me think it's truly over. I am definitely not reaching out for the next week or even month. My birthday is coming up in a month. If I don't hear from her I think then I can fully move on.>>33770624I don't blame her for breaking up with me. She might have fueled our issues intermittently. There's a lot I could've done better. I am mad that she wanted to meet that one last time. We ended wellish earlier that day, but seeing her again made me blow up at her.>>33770733Yeh true I don't know why I couldn't grow during the relationship instead of falling into the same patterns again and again.>>33770135She was my whore..
>>33770295That would be help me move on. I wouldn't be able to get back with her.
>>33769521>My gf broke up with me a week ago.She's fucked other men during this time period move on bro
>>33772386You're an insecure retard. You are learning that being an insecure retard makes you lose pussy and love. You can call her a whore and become an incel or learn from it and have better chances next time.Talking to her is NOT an option. Also you're probably not telling everything, if she blocked you on everything you must've had a terrible tantrum.
>>33769521I'm sorry to have to be quite so blunt about this, anon, but it is too late now, and you need to let her go. Clearly you did make a number of mistakes, and I'm sure that, now you've realised this, it's desperately frustrating not to be able to apologise. But there is a point at which is it is too late; and that point is when she blocks you. If that hadn't happened, then contacting her and being humble and apologetic might have helped. But if she has blocked you, that means she doesn't want to hear from REGARDLESS of what you have to say. If you try to contact her after being blocked, this will make you look like a stalker. Contact her now, and she won't be receptive to what you have to say, she will be SCARED.I'm sorry, but there is a point at which a person has fucked up so badly that there is no going back, and you are PAST that point now. All you can do now is learn from your mistakes, find someone else, and don't make the same mistakes with her.
>>33772386>I want to but I'm blocked on everything. That is making me think it's truly over.It is. Move on.
>>33772386>I am mad that she wanted to meet that one last time. We ended wellish earlier that day, but seeing her again made me blow up at her.Wow! I see why she left you, now. You blew up at her so badly that you scared her into blocking you, and you're angry with *her* because you lost your temper and scared her?! Take some fucking responsibility for once! It was your fault, and your fault alone.
>>33772682Yeh it was pretty bad. I know I fucked up by being insecure. I wish this wasn't my first real relationship so I could learn these lessons earlier. In terms of details, I spam facetime her the next day and that led her to blocking me on text. She texted me later saying her friend is going to pick up her stuff and I didn't respond. I was just being really mean and made her feel scared. That was probably when I knew I fucked up and it's over.>>33772944Thank you this helped. Yeh that's the hardest part is not being able to reach out and apologize because I fucked up my chance at an apology. I don't think I'll contact her anymore. I wrote a letter and am debating to send it to her in a month, but we'll see... My birthday is also in a month and I am going to be devastated when I don't hear from her.>>33772980I got mad because I felt like it was unfair of her to want to see me again when I was set up to be in the process of healing. I didn't mean to blow up at her. I know it was my fault and I ruined any chance of us together again. It just sucks ass and I'm venting.
>>33769521I think it’s still salvageable. But definitely don’t messagebomb her if she ever unblocks you, which is what seems to have happened. Just say you want to talk.You should also be ready to cut your losses and avoid looking like a harasser. Maybe talk to her parents if you had a good relationship.> I judged her a lot for her sexual past and now that I lost her I feel like I was so stupid for caring about it when I have had a past myself.Yeah, I don’t think it’s right for you to complain that she wasn’t a virgin when you were fucking prostitutes your entire life.
>>33774747The thing I struggle with is how would I know if she ever unblocks me and puts less distance between us? I am weighing to text her in a month with a check in text and see if I'm unblocked. Idk if I should see if she texts me on my birthday or not then reach out or proactively reach out before. I will definitely give her space for the next month that is very clear to me. Tbf I mine is not nearly as extensive as hers, but it took me too late to realize how great she is as a person outweighs those negatives of her past for me.
I think the cope is I need to be ok that it's over. I know this is basically over, but am holding out hope that there can be a slim chance I get unblocked and we reconnect in a monthish. There is no downside for me looking bad for reaching back out because we were never gonna see each other anyway. Even if it's a slim chance I will take that risk. I just need to avoid crashing out and harassing her.If it's truly over then and the bridge is completely burnt I can then finally truly move on. I am working on learning from my mistakes now and will be better for the next person. Emotions got the best of me towards the end and I am not proud of it. This thread has been genuinely helpful and I appreciate all the anons coming in and telling me its more over it is.
