Anyone else feel like they're just drifting through life waiting to die? My life just rotates between work and home, sometimes the gym. No social life to speak of, no friends, no hobbies, no discernable purpose. There is a lot I've been meaning to try hobby wise but I can't decide where to start or don't even know where to start. I am a Christian but don't know what church to attend, every one I've gone to I didn't really vibe with and I'm not even sure what denomination I would consider myself anymore. Anyone overcome indecision and social anxiety? Anyone know how to start making friends again and meeting girls again? What to say without driving people away?
Pls help
>>33772269Hey mate, No answers here. Just hopped in this thread to share my views since I´m on the same path feeling some of the same things. But i might be a bit further along than you.First off: the reason I have been waiting to die is because the goals I have for myself, the dreams I have, are unattainable outside a miracle. I was going to go over why that is but it doesn´t matter, i felt discouraged because of circumstances which made me feel powerless. That is what makes living not a thing to look forward to. If you are optimistic and/or are in a different situation where you can see hope then that will help you.Goals are the point which will motivate you to keep on going. Keep you short and long term goals. Now for practical advice.Starting hobbies: that is one thing I have managed to do just find a class with the thing you are interested in ( martial arts, woodcarving, painting, cooking, etc) join in and start atending. This will help with meeting people as well.Meeting people and making friend(Take this with a grain of salt as I'm likely autistic): What has worked for me is just following the simple steps in the book How to make friends and influence people. Long story short : be fist (start interactions) be positive (don't be a downer show yourself as happy and focus on the good side generally) and be constant (do so at every opportunity).(1/2)
>>33776990Socializing better: again go read that book. In general focus on yourself less. Most people are full of themselves talk about themselves no stop and compare their circumstances to other. don´t do that and people will open up to you after you get used to socializing again.Living well: (this one is the one I´m still workign on) FOcus less on yourself and more on other again. Don´t just live just for yourself live for others as well. Help other and show kindness. Do the will of the Lord. That will be a lot more fulfilling than just following your desires hedonistically.You need to start BEFORE you feel you are ready to start. Because you will never feel totally ready. Just go for it, find that class and start socializing everywhere. And know that you need other shit figured internally to get you out of not wanting to live. even if you starting getting acuenteces and bringing the to become friends and lovers. I hope you the best out there. (2/2)
>>33772269I wake up happy in the arms of the man I love, think of every reason to be thankful, shit, shower, shave and make the best out of every day - because tomorrow is never promised. Be good to the ones you love and the universe may bless you with greatness; even if its in the form of happiness.
