I have a college French language class starting tomorrow and it will be 90% girls. How do I not fuck this up? I am a loser wagie working at a grocery store.
>>33772790The answer is actually simple: stop being a loser IN YOUR MIND. If YOU don’t think you’re a loser, then by and large girls won’t either.
>>33772807I don't know man. They will definitely ask me if I study something but I have to answer them honestly, because I am an honest man. I am also already 25.I am just taking that class because I want to learn French but I didn't know it will be full of girls (I saw the registration list and it's legit me, another guy and 22 girls. I am scared.
>>33772790You put women on a pedestal. This causes a need to perform. This causes unecessary stress. To solve the problem, all you have to do is ignore women.
>>33772832Women are natural followers, especially emotionally. They seek men to be social and emotional anchors. If you are judging yourself poorly, they will latch onto that and judge you poorly. Mull on this for a moment: “There is no such thing as cool people, only uncool people”.
>>33772863Will my confidence improve with me taking the class and talking to girls?
>>33773063would you prefer staying in your room and not getting any social experience whatsoever?
>>33773114His confidence will not improve if he has a bad experience. It will just create a trauma. Imagine the women looking at him in disgust after he says something odd. He's gonna remember that incident and not be as eager to interact with women the next time.
>>33773141>traumaFuck off
>>33772790be interesting99.99999999% of "pourquois je n'ai pas la gf" posts are written by guys who have no real hobbies, no real lifestyle, no real interests - so of course they have nothing to talk about with women.Likewise, don't trip over your own dick trying to flirt with prettiest most popular sexiest girl in the room just because she's the prettiest most popular sexiest girl in the room. You're better off with someone who's not a 10/10 on paper but is instead more interesting as a person and more compatible with your own life.
>>33773264I don't have many hobbies desu. I am learning piano which takes a lot of time, daily practice an hour a day, weekly lessons with a teacher, studying music theory and listening to recordings as well as going to concerts.Then I also exercise 5x a week, running, gym, yoga and bouldering, the latter only with friends though maybe like once every two weeks.If I have some time left after sports and piano I like to read. I want to learn French so I can read French novels actually.Kinda boring hobbies, nothing exciting like skydiving or traveling.TLDR: I only have 3 hobbies, piano, sports and reading/languages.
>>33773466music is definitely something to work off, what genre(s) are you into?>Kinda boring hobbies, nothing exciting like skydiving or traveling.what makes you think this is how you get women?my hobbies are basically movies/music/booksalso anime but that's just movies/TV but in japan.I guess gym & combat sports as well but it's less a hobby and more a lifestyle so I don't get fat and weak from sitting around watching movies all day eating bags of cheese or whatever.I used to smoke and drink and go out to bars and night clubs, and also do funny drugs - but like I said these days I'm more of a gym guy and only take edibles at night to go along with my movies, I quit everything else.Anyways besides the obvious of having met girls at bars, clubs, and also in class and around college I also met them at record stores, actual music stores where they sell instruments, bookstores especially used book stores, free movie/documentary movie nights at a university I didn't attend but it was open to everyone, concerts, sometimes even just on the train/bus.
>>33773536>what genre(s) are you into?Solely classical music. My teacher is training me classically, mostly in Russian/Eastern European school, so lots of fundamentals. I have only been playing for 2 years though, my best piece is Beethoven's Sonata No.1.I say boring because no girl is into classical music. I grew up with it and went to concerts with my grandma. Now I am trying to make up for never having played piano as a kid.I love my piano, it honestly became my passion. Still, doesn't impress any girls.>ew who is beetlehoven? is that an 80s band?
>>33773581>Still, doesn't impress any girls.>I say boring because no girl is into classical music.maybe you're looking in the wrong places, like I said used record stores and also secondhand stores that sell records or even CDs is full of music nerds trying to find their goldmine in the hills.I met a cute Chinese girl at a record shop who was hoarding all the classical albums, things didn't work out between the two of us but she was still real and there was a connection between the two of us.Also have you ever seen what the music program of a university looks like? It's almost entirely all girls.
>>33772790>loser wagie at a grocery storeI think I met you OP. Start by going to the gym.
>>33772790Pass, pass, pass, maybe, pass, pass, pass, pass
>>33774479>I think I met you OP. Start by going to the gym.
>>33772790Just be normal and friendly.Make friends with half of them so they know you aren't some freak.Probably don't mention your job. I'm assuming you are somewhat young so try to say you are aspiring whatever your interest is (musician, fireman etc) but you are doing the waging as a side gig to pay for school.
>>33772790it is over
>>33772863Not women who don't play games or hard to get.
>>33775343>I'm assuming you are somewhat youngI am 25 :(
Update: I tried talking to people, even to girls but I fumbled every interaction and it was awkward af. They now know my horrible social skills. Is it over? Should I drop the class?
>>33772807This. Other people in your reality respond to your inner feelings about yourself. This is because they are a projection, and not real.
