First most I think I’ve inaugurated myself too deeply on this site and others. I never considered myself to be self-hating and I don’t consider myself to be a pearl clutcher but I think I am developing some complex and anxieties regarding my race and identity. Mainly about whether or not people can envision me as capable, intelligent and as an individual. I don’t think I’m self hating or even have an issue with my blackness but I am starting to look at myself differently and walk through the world more aware of other’s thoughts.
Blackcel here, will you be my gf
>>33773212I think I need to take a hand out of Tyler the creators book
>>33773212I see black chicks with white guys here all the fucking time, attractive white guys as well. It seems more common than BMWF.
>>33773277>>33773313I don’t want a boyfriend or even really care about being seen as attractive by men. What gets under my skin is being seen as less capable or as a nuisance
>>33773321>What gets under my skin is being seen as less capable or as a nuisanceWe don't choose the sex that we're born as.
>>33773313Where do you live anon?
>>33773342In a predominantly white nordic country.
>>33773334I got a double whammy then, I suppose I have to stop concerning myself with opinions of those I cannot change
>>33773353No but you get my point though. There will always be "something". You do you, and forget about the rest. Character over group identity.
I honestly think this is perpetual online behavior that makes us feel this way. honestly, in real life when working, I could give two shits about what color someone is as long as they can do the job well, don't try to argue all the time, and communicate effectively. Don't let it get you down, you can have an amazing life.
>>33773384I do think that this is in fact terminally online behavior it’s not a thought I can change or alter the culture of this site so it’s probably best to leave it for a while. I honestly live a blessed life irl
>>33773212I'm white so I can't know what it's like but if someone is going to view you as lesser for your race/skin colour/identity, especially once you have proved yourself capable and intelligent, then their opinion is worth nothing at all. At that point, they're bordering on the delusional. I think an unfortunate fact of life is that there will always be some degree of racism in a lot of people purely because we are tribalistic by nature and race is one of the most obvious ways someone can be 'other', but if you do all you can and they still belittle you and hold prejudice then that's on them. I know it's hard especially if you are a minority among the majority but people who aren't even willing to entertain the idea of a black or non-white person being a good, intelligent and competent person are probably not the smartest bunch. Let them stay stuck in their ways while you thrive and make them seethe.Are you close with family and friends? Maybe a strong support network could help ease some of the anxiety and lift you up a bit.
>>33773862I do have a great support system I think I’ve started to become more isolated and this site is unironcally one the places I visit the most which is probably not the best for any human being
>>33774145i imagine you'll stop fretting so much about it eventually. a lot of people are a lot less confident then they seem. you'll always be something of an outsider, but you still have an identity you can cultivate and try to make the best of.
>>33774425*thani included that typo so you could feel superior to me. hope it helped.
>>33773212if after the age of 18 you still care what others think about you, its too late youre ngmi
>>33774425Thanks for your advice anon and your typo does negate your intelligence whatsoever>>33774434Real I thought to be self embarrassing to think this way at 19
>>33773313ew
You only feel this way because this site is openly racist, which by the way, isn't healthy to consume at all.My tip? Leave. 4chan is a disease that should've been shot in the back like Old Yeller DECADES ago
You can only focus on what you can control. I'm sure there's people who will have biases in place, but just focus on being authentic and the best version of yourself.That's all you can do.
>>337745074chan is what everyone really thinks though. Its unfiltered. As for OP. Find a career where you can out perform white guys and then you can rub it in their faces.
>>33773212>First most I think I’ve inaugurated myself too deeply on this siteGet off of this website. Coming here to ask about racial anxieties is like going to a butcher shop to talk about sustainable vegan meat-substitute. You're in the exact wrong place for someone with your problem. Live in the real world long enough and these anxieties will go away.
>>33774521This what I’m trying to do but then I go to /sci/ and /lit/ and see those in my ideal profession speak vehemently racist things and my anxiety peaks
>>33774519This is definitely a first world problem on my part, I’m healthy, financially stable, have a few close friends and wider social network, and I’m relatively young. I’m in a much better position than my mother and grandmother and I’m getting mindfucked by a Mongolian weaving forum
>>33774524I started browsing in early highschool left for a couple years and came back, it really hasn’t improved my productivity at all but I semi addicted not as badly as when I was an early teen but still demoralizing
>>33774478youre good, youre smart, dont worry what others think, most people are retarded sheep, if anything gen z and up are hyper anti racist to the point theyre overly woke and think youre god incarnate
>>33774521no it isn't. or it's at least not representative of the average person. racists attract more racists and so people who abhor racism will be less likely to come here and speak their unfiltered thoughts. that plus political giants with malicious agendas pay people to post on every social media site including this one. you would have to be retarded to look at what happened to tumblr in 2016 and think that isn't happening everywhere all the time
>>33773321Why don't you just act white?In the US, I have known a few lighter skin black girls who imitate white culture and white people just treat them as white.
>>33773321if you want to be seen as competent and useful, the way you speak is of vital importance. if you speak "that" way, get a coach and relearn.
>>33775040Yea I think if I put my best efforts into becoming the most competent individual I can be I can get by through life peacefully
>>33775297I’m not that fair, it’s not so much that I want to integrate into white culture just that I am sort of envious of the clean slate afforded to whites which other races aren’t at least in the states
>>33775988I speak in common american dialect which in fact I worry that my speech comes of as wordy and monotone a lot of the time
>>33773212>>33773321Then be capable and don't be a nuisance or be capable and a nuisance like Candace Owens. Everyone thinks blacks are incapable prove them wrong by working hard. You have around 50 years of nigger culture working against you and people are slow to accepting different things like a capable black. They do exist, I know one, just got to have integrity and you will do fine.
>>33776878rememeber no one gives a fuck about you that much that they think of you that deeply, people just say stupid shit because theyre insecure, nothing in life is that deep
>>33773212You're African American aren't you? Maybe try associating with literally any other kind of Black ethnic group out there. African born Africans for example usually come from two parent households and possess a healthier mindset and outlook on life. Crabs will only ever drag you down.
>>33773212>on fucking 4chan as a black woman Maybe get off this fucking site, you’re just gonna be surrounded by racism all the time. Problem solved. It’s that easy>inb4 well I’m used to it hereUh then you’re gonna have to fucking deal with racists, I’m sorry. You’d be doing it to yourself at that point
>>33777243To add to this, I can’t believe you made this a thread. Like I’m sorry but you’re actually mentally retarded>WAHHHH im addicted to 4chan as a black woman and am gonna bitch about how it’s racist and I’m having second thoughts Ok? Grow the fuck up, this post already reeks of a 16 year old posting it
>>33776968I don’t want to be like Candance Owens, but I do want to be full of integrity so I’ll this perspective in mind
>>33776976Thank you anon I do think this thread is a result of internet sickness>>33777031But despite what racists may state on here other than the plaguing issues in our community I like African American culture. Music, fashion, writing etc
>>33777243>>33777266You’re a 1000% but this the whine and cry about everything board. Anons complain about fuckall my thread is retarded but definitely not the stupidist thread seen on /adv/
>>33773212Bump
As a Jew, I understand the constant hate being thrown at you can be daunting but you have to just do your best to prove yourself worthy to yourself. Whether others recognize you might get to you but being underestimated is often helpful.
>>33777555Do well.
>>33777572>Anons complain about fuckall my thread is retarded but definitely not the stupidist thread seen on /adv/Uh no, this is retarded and nonsensical. It is a non-problem and this woman is actively making a problem to take up this board’s space with. A black woman bitching about 4chan’s racism
>>33773321It's not really a race thing, women are just known to be kinda dumb in general. As for advice, just don't think about it and continue living normally as you would. I see myself as retarded because I'm retarded lol, but I try to just focus on reality. Focusing on reality brings power
>>33779669people dont so much hate jews as much as theyre jealous, blacks get it way worse, all thier stereotypes are how they are inferiror in every way so it doesnt even compare lol
>>33773212Keep axin for reparations don’t let down
>>33780077I’ll try my best to do so
>>33780115Why is it nonsensical?
>>33779669I hear and read this a lot about being underestimated can be beneficial, even so it is kinda of tiring having to be more aware of certain social and racial expectations. Thank you for advice anon
>>33780663>I see myself as retarded because I'm retarded lol, but I try to just focus on reality. Focusing on reality brings powerI do need to touch grass I think isolation is engrossing me more into this site which has proven to be non beneficial
>>33782276>>33779669No one likes jews or blacks, no one is jealous of them. They want you leaches to stop hurting them.
>>33773212>How to deal with anxiety regarding race?You'll get that if you aren't surrounded by similar looking ethnicities, or in a multi-ethnic country like brazil. People deal with it by seeking similar people and form a community.
>>33783305Twitterfag
>>33783529Twitterfags don't like them either
>>33773212eyo eyo shaniqua don't feel bad about it. being dumb is not that bad. I can't prove it and I don't have any source to back this up but i'm pretty sure that IQ is more of a dynamic ability instead of a static one like most of the people think. there are days where i'm significantly more retarded than usual and I swear to god that I have WAY more fun and i'm happier than in my regular days.
>>33782276>people dont so much hate jews as much as theyre jealousI have encountered several anons who without exaggeration or hyperbole or humor sincerely want to kill me and my people. Jealousy breeds hatred all the same, whether or not you're correct.>>33783279I completely empathize with your situation. You just want to be "normal" and not have to navigate around these things. I can hide my Jewishness by not wearing my cultural clothing. You can't really hide being a black woman.For what it's worth, there will be people in this world who will not discriminate against you. I cannot say that you are around those people, but it is nonetheless a fact. In my synagogue there are actually two boys whose father is black and a police officer. Meanwhile, half the congregation is some kind of offshoot of either white or middle eastern. As far as I see, they are black insofar as their skin color, but they are Jews foremost and that is all that matters. As anon said here >>33783370 you'll find that this feeling slips away when you're in a majority black environment. I understand that being a woman in the black community is another tier of being a minority but especially in communities of faith, you'll find that race is often a visual quality, not anything more.Are you religious at all? It could be beneficial to integrate into a congregation of some kind. Ideally one that is defined by creed and not race, lest it be a racial thing.
>>33783639Thank you for the response anon, it was nice to speak to someone with a similar experience as myself. I think being a minority on this site has sheltered me from a lot of bigoted views, I appreciate your sincerity in regard to your Jewishness and faith. It saddens me to see those who I share familiarity in interests and goals abhor people who look like me, I suppose that is life and it hasn’t stopped various people before me and presumably after me from going about their lives. I really appreciated your post and found the Black man and his family worshipping to be heartwarming.
>>33783619I’m not too prideful and this thread isn’t the best example but I’d like to say I’m intelligent to get by in life. I do miss when I was younger and stupider tho
>>33773212you can always be the exception to the ruleMy iq is 134the average of my country is in the 80sso people see me and expect an uneducated dumb simpleton and when we have deep conversation about topics they always leave pleasantly surprisedthat increases their opinion of me better than if I came from a country with very bright people and I was just average for my country or even a bit above.that's what you have to strive forif you're the black canadian who's insecure about her appearance, I told you you look fine
>>33783885I suppose there is no use in wallowing with the cards we are dealt in life. I’m not Canadian but I hope ur able to find whoever you’re looking for
>>33783971there was a half black canadian chick that posted around here a lot a couple months ago, I thought you were referring to that when you were talking about being inaugurated too deeply on this site, she posted her face and body many times, I think she stopped short of posting nudes but I'm pretty sure she would have if this was not a blue boardshe was very conflicted about her race and attractiveness, when she looked just ok, she just needed to go out more, internet is a cesspool of shallow people
>>33783813Talking to you, I am getting a pretty good feeling for what kind of a person you are. I'd introduce you to my single friends if this was one of those kinds of threads, but I recognize this isn't about dating as much as the way you are received in every day life.I can tell you that being on 4chan will color your perception of the world the same way mine has been trying to have discussions with people on here where race or religion comes up, but it feels more like the internet is just the mask off reality. Recent world affairs related to Gaza has similarly emboldened people off of 4chan to just outright show their true nature toward Jews with the convenient coding of "Zionist" to make anything they say acceptable. You've got similar issues where the actions of some random black dude will cause everyone to spout that your skin tone demands segregation, humiliation, and worse.Just be beautiful internally in such a way that it radiates and even the racists will be forced to concede. A good friend of mine online thought Jews were all evil until he found out months into our friendship that it was a Jew who had been standing by him when everyone else wasn't. These sorts of experiences are transformative for people.Check out Daryl Davis. Really inspirational story.https://youtu.be/ORp3q1Oaezw
>>33783977Oh I hope she feels better about herself posting your body on here isn’t the healthiest decision
>>33784004Thank you anon it’s been pleasant to speak with you. I think you and other anons advice about stepping into reality and not focusing so much on social media of any kind would be helpful. I wanted to also say that I’ve never had issue with Jews in fact I found a lot of your history and suffering to be resilient. I think that people now are conflating Israel with Jews in general which is unfortunate. I hope that soon their can be a peaceful agreement amongst both groups which I realize is a cookie cutter response but a true wish.
>>33784077The reality is, whether we like what the Israeli government does or not, the people in that country are my nation, even if we're far removed by blood at this point. I will choose my family over a stranger, that is normal, but I also won't encourage my family to do a bad thing. By extension, all humanity is a collective family, so this continues outward. This entire political situation over there has been people in power leveraging the people below them for whatever aims they may have, same as any other war. Blacks and Jews get to share the exclusive box seats in the "not welcome" section so really it's a mutual thing so long as the two communities recognize mutual benefit from collaboration (Jazz music being a very significant example). Beyond that point, you'll find that there is still always going to be that passive feeling in the back of your mind where you feel like you have to validate your existence (I get this feeling often) but you just have to be you and do your best at making the life you've been given into the miracle it truly is.Peace be with you, sister.
>>33783305whyd you bring them over then kek
>>33773212You care too much about people that really don't care about you. Not from the "you don't have value" perspective. But from the literal "I don't know this bitch, and if I saw her walking down the street, i'd forget she existed in 5 seconds" kind of way. The fuck kind of sense does that make? No one is going to save you. You're an adult. Only you can save you. It's on YOU to like yourself. It's on YOU to know yourself, what your value is, and act accordingly. Did you know that? That you get to determine your own value? Your own worth? And that if you just believe it and act as such...people will just go with it? What evidence to the contrary do they have? >Oh her skin is brownI work in the south. I'm sure I've worked with white supremacists or racists before. But I wouldn't know because my consciousness simply doesn't even allow me to care if they are or not. So what if they are? You still gotta work with me. I have something you need, bitch. And it's a free country. Unless and until you put your hands on me or say some fucked up shit to me, I literally do not give a singular fuck. Because I'm the shit. I'm better than you. And your prejudice is just projection of self hate because you wish you were as good as I am. Think about it. If racists are so much better, why do they waste so much energy thinking about lesser beings? They'd be focused on being winners. Why did they bomb and attack Black Wall Street? Because that was a threat. Niggers....doing well for themselves? How could they compete with that? They couldn't. So they bombed it. Hell, integration was more about killing black businesses and preventing them from being able to provide for themselves than anything. Either way: if you don't care about you, who the fuck else will? Nobody. So get your shit together, bitch.
Be black, date white, hate black men. Trust me.
>>33773212Just date a white guy and behave like a white/civilized person in social meetings and stuff. I can guarantee that people will see more than your skin. The only thing you have to do is not acting like a fucking nigger simple as that
