I'm 40 years old and I've never had a girlfriend before.I remember back in my teens and twenties when girls would upload videos of themselves to youtube being sexy and dancing to rap music in their bedrooms. I felt like a peeping tom, but I also felt this perverted sense of love and belonging that obviously reflected my deep desire to have intimacy with a girl that I never had.And so in my present time, everytime I see a woman, I just feel this sense of emptiness and disappointment and resentment with a sense of nostalgia for the days I felt like a peeping tom in my early youth.Question. Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?Or is it just going to feel like receiving a christmas gift in july? Too little too late?
Ask yourself, what do you bring to a relationship?
>>33782374No
>>33782362im in my twenties and im a virgin and what you are right now is what I fear the most of becoming how do I not do that? do you have any tips OP?
>>33782374I bring myself. What kind of faggot ass retard question is that?
>>33782441That's why you've never had a girlfriend. You need to start thinking why the fuck somebody else wants you in their life.
>>33782438can you guys help me instead? this nigga is 40 its over for him
>>33782438Well, I'm 40 alright but I'm not a virgin. I had sex with a couple of strange horny mexican women that abducted me at night while I was coming home from work one day in my early 20s.So I say, any chance you get to have sex with a woman, take it, no matter how dangerous it looks.Also, while in my early 20s, I had a couple online relationships with a couple girls that I never got to meet in person. Mostly cause I was too chicken shit to leave my parents house and travel to be with them when I had no idea what was gonna happen when I got there.So if you get a girl that wants to be with you... take any and all risks you can to be with them. Don't be chicken shit like I was.Do it now, cause, women for some reason don't wanna be with a 40 year old guy. They want someone young like you.
>>33782362maybe instead of sitting and introspecting endlessly you should try doing something for once in your life
>>33782479can you tell me if anything you did added to the situation your in? like being a pothead or maybe not going to college? also how tall are you?
>>33782509I am not a pothead. I don't do drugs but I didn't go to college. I'm 5 foot 7.
>>33782509If anything else, I would say, just being a loser weirdo with no friends or life, pretty much.
>>33782486Anon... hes 40..
>>33782524thanks for your advice and im sorry for what happened to you,im kind of a pothead I think I substituted sex with women because of how good it feels to jerk off while high.
>>33782362I'm curious OP, which one of these characters you rolled as>workcel-careercel who believed as a teen/20 year old that he would get a girl later in life if he only focused on school grades and work and nothing else>The neurotic nutcase who waits for women to approach him because he refuses to approach women>the study/work/gym/sleep autopilot automaton who has no hobbies or lifestyle and doesn't even have the real desire to go out and meet women>the choosing beggar, who refuses to even talk to women unless they're 10/10 virgins with this and that other requirement>>33782509>being a pothead or maybe not going to collegelol lmaoNot OP but those people will have infinitely more sex than homework nerds who ignored girls in high school and avoided every possible social outlet in college.I did go to college, but that was also my peak stoner days and nothing really brings strangers together like "oh shit you smoke weed? me too? Here's my friends, let's go smoke weed behind the apartment building dumpsters"
>>33782562No no, thank you!>>33782623I would say I am not exactly any of those. I didn't focus well on my work and I don't have a career to show for it. If anything I should have worked harder and made better decisions.I am socially awkward, which has not only affected my ability to approach women but it has crippled my work life and left me a poorfag. I have made poor career decisions based on my lack of social skills. Something I am trying to rectify in other ways.I wish I could approach women.But I am also NOT a choosy begger. I don't care, I will date a 3/10 with a 100 body count. It doesn't matter to me.I am basically a socially retarded nerd that doesn't have the intelligence of a nerd. In a fucking nutshell, basically... yeah.
>>33782706so just like a level 10 introvert? what about male friends?You never thought about getting into like dungeons & dragons and trading card games? Lots of people started their social lives out that way.
>>33782753Yes, extreme introvert. I dunno, I used to have male friends back in middle and highschool. We used to play video games, LAN parties and shit. But somewhere along the line I started feeling disconnected from people. I started realizing I don't care for any of the things that people do. I just knew, this is not what's going to make me happy. And so I sort of just went off on my autistic journey ever since I graduated high school and never looked back.I abandoned my friends I abandoned my family and never spoke to them again. I even changed my entire name to something else and moved to a different state.All I know is, my happiness will be found when I meet my autistic girlfriend who is a weirdo loner like me and we can start a new life together.Been searching for 20 years for this autistic girlfriend though. But I'm still looking.
>>33782623I do go to college but I abuse the weed a lot I do it when I get up, before sleeping even 3 times a day and it fucks me up.
>>33782362Goddamn look at that fat fucking ass pawg. Too bad all white women are fucking retarded and chadsexualOP, i love how transparent and open you are. I get it
>>33783027Thank you
>>33782479>Also, while in my early 20s, I had a couple online relationships with a couple girls that I never got to meet in person. Mostly cause I was too chicken shit to leave my parents house and travel to be with them when I had no idea what was gonna happen when I got there.>So if you get a girl that wants to be with you... take any and all risks you can to be with them. Don't be chicken shit like I was.Oh shit, but I'd have no money left if I went there.
OP are you american?
>>33783145Yeah, that one girl in particular, she was basically wanting to live with me, was like "you can start your new life here". She basically had a plan, wanted me to get a job there, get an apartment there.I didn't know she was testing me to see if I was serious about being with her. But I was just too scared of traveling to a new state with no money and no nothing, to be with someone I had only just met online for a couple months, that I told her to just wait.She took that as a signal that I wasn't serious, and she ghosted me and never spoke to me again. I think she genuinely believed I was coming.In someways I think it was just a case of miscommunication or us not really knowing each other. But I sometimes think I dodged a bullet with her cause from what she told me about her family and her life, I don't think we would have been a good match anyway. She was not the type of person I wanted as a girlfriend. This was 20 years ago, so I've had a lot of time to think about what kind woman I want as my girlfriend.So, take risks to be with the girl that wants you ONLY if you are 100% sure she is a good match for you.
>>33783356Yes
>>33783424nigga that's your problem right there 100% you should be trying even tho its 20% also are you contempt with your life? do you sometimes watch movies where there are young couples or teen couples and envy them?
>>33783428why don't you just start being a passport bro? go to the Philippines or some shit and marry a 25 year old but have a prenup ready you might swell at this point because and I say this with empathy its legit over for you unless you find a mentally ill 20 year old like BOOGIE
>>33782362
>>33783439All the fucking time. I am fucking jealous.>>33783443I don't have the money to do that. It's scary even thinking about traveling out of my state, let alone another country. But... I would love to have an asian girlfriend that is already an american citizen. That would be nice.>>33783452kek lol
>>33783443>a mentally ill 20 year oldAnd where do I find those? I don't care how mentally ill as long as they don't cut off my balls when I'm sleeping.
>>33782872what do you do for hobbies though
>>33783792I only care about finding my autistic girlfriend. It's my only purpose in life now. I literally don't give a shit about anything else. If I don't find my autistic girlfriend, I will then kill myself.
>>33782362Dat ass is FAT
I'm in the same boat as OP. In my case I wasted good opportunities in my late 20s, and in my 30s my life went to shit. This year I also started having physical problems
>>33784011Damn
>>33784018It's ok I'm starting to make peace with life instead of fighting my fate
>>33782362>Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?Oh, anon, you are never going to have a girlfriend. You should have given up hope ten years ago.
>>33784190lol thank you for your support
>>33784024fight till the very end
>>33782362YouTube didn't exist when you were in your teens. It was acquired by Google in 2006. Prior to that you'd be using LimeWire.
>>33784298At this point it's battling against physics and biology
>>33784309NTA but I'm roughly his age and he said twenties and at the time there was loads of girls uploading absolutely whatever and anything on youtube, just like emo girls kissing and also people smoking salvia freaking out and jumping out of windows
>>33783887yeah but you're gonna find her through some sort of shared interest or lifestyle like gaming or cosplay or something
hard truth is you might not have a girlfriend for a reason, women instinct is to decide what men need to reproduce for the better of the world, and girls probably look at you as the end of the line. Id say enjoy life to the best of your abilities but if you're 40, it probably is not gonna happen.
>>33784522>omg you're 40 that means nobody will ever love you even other 40 year oldswhat are you fucking 12? holy shit grow up
>40>5.7>No career>Poorfag>Socially stunted>Always afraid to do anything >Never did anything interesting in his whole life except being raped by 2 mexican milfs>"when I finally do get to have a girlfriend"I don't want to say this but... just give up dude
>>33784320>NTA but I'm roughly his age and he said twentiesHe typed in his teens and twenties. It's literally right there in the OP.>>33783677>But... I would love to have an asian girlfriend that is already an american citizen. That would be nice.Asians are not what you imagine them to be. Also, if you traveled to the Philippines to find a girl, she's not going to be a US citizen. The whole point that guy is trying to make is that 3rd world girls will get together with the biggest, most pathetic losers just for a green card.
>>33782362>Question. Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?>Or is it just going to feel like receiving a christmas gift in july? Too little too late?yes, if you go and get it. even an ugly girl, even a fat girl, even if they're postmenopause. once you touch their hair and have their eyes look in yours from a foot away and feel their warm soft skin you will feel completely electric and alive. you are meant to be social and loved by someone. even in extremely suboptimal circumstances your physical apparatus is wired to respond to companionship. men in the concentration camps fell in love with women who worked the joy divisions all day. men and women fell in love starving and stinking during the siege of Leningrad. do not let yourself die without doing everything you can to get what you're meant to experience. it's literally on the same level as being able to drink water or breathe oxygen
>>33782374A little bit of money, dick, food, some laughter, a car. Anything more is fefail delusional entitlement.
>>33782623Not op but I’m all of them, what do?
>>33782362tights are hot ngl
>>33782362Have you ever tried dating apps?
>>33782362>I remember back in my teens and twenties when girls would upload videos of themselvesno they didn't. since this thread is 99% bots, no one will care but I'll still point the obviousOP was a teen from 1998 to 2004
>>33785931fuuuck need to worship some nylon feet
>>33782362>Question. Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?Got one at 29. Not on that level you described, but it still was exciting, or at least felt good about it and the sense of belonging was there. But it really depends on the gf, if it's a passive one then you probably can't just lose your own inhibitions. The other thing that was great was when I stopped trying to act as someone else, but felt it's ok the just be me.
>>33784297Honestly, anon, I'm trying to help you, here. You're like someone with no arms who is wasting every single moment of his life dreaming of becoming a table tennis champion. There is a point at which you simply need to accept that if it were ever going to happen, it would have happened already. At this point, every single second you spend dreaming about girlfriends is a second wasted: a second you could be spending on something else that might actually make you feel happy and fulfilled in a way that daydreaming about impossible things never will. Look for other ways to be happy. They exist.
>>33786093>oh no you're 40 no one will ever love you even other 40 year oldsYou need to be at least 18 years old to use this website.
>>33782374My massive fat cock.
>>33786107>even other 40 year oldsWhy would you want that?
>>33782441lol
>>33785869>dick>>33786753>massive fat cockBoth irrelevant.
>>33786929>t. retard
>>33786864Because pussy is still pussy.
>>33786093OP is hopeless. When asked what he brings to the table, he said himself. So basically an old loser that wants someone to fulfil his pathetic life.OP, you're miles off where you need to be. What are you good at? What do you do? Hobbies? Interests? I think the most important question is how do you make a woman feel? And if you're going to respond with some stupid bullshit like you have been doing, then you're finished
>>33786929I've got a big cock and it didn't help at all in attracting womenOnce you have a woman, probably makes it easier to keep them tho
>>33782454why does a white teen girl give her virginity to a 40 year old black man that lives in trashy apartments and drives a 2003 Honda accord with illegal window tint.
>>33787853he's not a pussy or avoidant or anxious, he doesn't try to debate her, he's not a type she grew up around, he knows how to make a woman feel seen and is good at lovemaking
>>33787916How does she know all that from just looking at it. I can smell those things a mile away they make me gag.
>>33787916 She's a virgin. She doesn't know what good lovemaking is. And even if she wasn't a virgin, how would she know how good he is anyway without having sex with him first?
>>33782438>>33782466you're already OP and you don't even realize it it's just that you're living in the age of OF, AI chatbots and streaming your chances are slim
>>337824661. get /fit/ and wear clothes that fit you2. Ask questions and try to pretend like you care about the answersthere you go lil bro. As long as your not a complete autist that'll get you pretty far. Unfortunately a lot of you are infact autists and will probably start telling bitches that you support fascist dictatorships and own a treasured collection of anime figurines
>>33788214>there you go lil bro... lil bro...that's condescending
Confidence is the key. I've seen fat guys/ugly guys with not ugly girlfriends, unfortunately you can't hide behind your looks unless you have an obvious medical problem. It's literally all in your head and how you carry yourself. People smell confidence and self-loving a mile away, you can see it like a glow. 1) Stop self-medicating with masturbating whenever you feel anxious 2) Find a physical activity that you like doing that involves other people (real life or games or VR) 3) do that physical activity and have fun, feel healthier, gain confidence 4) someone will notice youThis is what I did. Women started coming out of the woodwork. No more mixed signals and licking crumbs of possibles out of the air, women who are interested in you will straight up ask you out to lunch/talk to you. In my case it was dancing. It can be anything social/physical. Work on yourself, have fun, stop self-medicating your loneliness in unhealthy ways (masturbation, consoomption of plastic crap, escapist/all consuming video games), your brain will fill in the rest.
>>33786107Plenty of women in their 40s are attracted to *attractive* 40-year-old men; but none of those attractive 40-year-old men have made it to the age of 40 without ever having had a girlfriend. There are only so many years you can be rejected by every single woman you encounter before you have to accept that rejection is the only thing that will *ever* happen. It's a sad truth, but a truth nonetheless. Plenty of 40-year-old men get laid; no 40-year-old virgin will ever get laid unless he pays for it. >You need to be at least 18 years old to use this website.I'm actually quite a lot older than OP; but happily I escaped from inceldom in my mid 20s.
>>33788380 >oh no this person hasn't had a date in a long time so that means they've been spending literally every second of their waking life asking literally every single person on the planet out on a date and all seven billion of them have unfortunately said noYou need to have graduated kindergarten and learned how to tie your shoelaces before you can be allowed to form a cohesive thought
>>33788498>You need to have graduated kindergarten and learned how to tie your shoelaces before you can be allowed to form a cohesive thoughtOkay, good luck with that. I'm sure you'll manage it one day.
>>33782362>will it be a perfect panacea or unfuck a life that's otherwise fuckedno>will it be niceyes>will it be so nice that it makes up?no>but will it be nice?yes.Pic related: a GF helps but is part of the picture, not the picture itself.
>>33785199>He typed in his teens and twenties. It's literally right there in the OP.so? he's 40, of course memories from 20 years ago are going to start to blur and overlap
>>33789232Going home to a warm pussy everyday will always help.
>>33782441a retarded woman question
>>33790695OP is a fucking loser and so are you
>>3378253840 ain't shit for a man. 40 is the new 20. A man never gets old, he only gets more horny and inspired.
Go to Thailand or something if you don’t have any money saved up then it’s obviously a you problem
>>33791604Only white women are attractive.
>>33790721Why does that upset you?
>>33791582I'm 40 and I can confirm this. Hornier and a lot more determined.
>>33791582>>33791745Oh my christ, as someone who's 40 if I was still as horny as I was 20 years ago I would actually kms*Keep Myself Safe!jerking off once every two weeks is enough, I pity anyone who's still sitting around jacking off 5 times a day mostly out of boredom
>>33791752If I don’t I’ll go insane and have erections at work
>>33791832have sexnot at work though
>>33782441Bro is a table.
>>33791752 My sex drive at 40 is stronger than all my teenage years combined. My erections are harder, my stamina is longer, my orgasms are more powerful.I don't understand how anyone wouldn't enjoy this. Cause I certainly am.>jerking off once every two weeks is enoughHoly shit, you're like an old man. A 90 year old man. I jack off for a minimum... minimum... of 3 hours a day.
>>33792438lol that's funny
>>33790686>alwaysSpoken like a man who doesn't come home to one
>>33791619Green
>>33793054>illegal to buy sex but legal to sell sexHow does that work? Is it just the seller is protected from criminal charges but the buyer is not?
>>33792468>I jack off for a minimum... minimum... of 3 hours a day.do you have a job
>>33793123That is his job.
>>33793022Cope.
>>33793108in theory, publicly, and if you're not pessimistic, it's on the basis of reducing trafficking by making it legally acceptable to have been a prostitute so you can get help without legal trouble.in practice or if you are, it's>we mostly just don't care if a woman sells sex, it's mostly that we just don't want men buying itand it's basically the "ladies' wishlist" policy in semi-trad societies that want to enforce that.
Not OP, but I'm in the same boat and beginning to think that it really never begun for me. Like all the things that people take for granted are really out of my reach and denied by society, karma, genetics or people in general. It's all correlated, if women don't like you you probably can't have a good career, and so on. like seriously, just getting a good job, or being respected is impossible and Herculean>>33789239No, my painful memories are clear and sharp and chronologically well organized
>>33782362the way her ass sticks out through her leggings reminds me of a baboon or some kind of primate.Plus, her tacky makeup that vaguely compliments her clothes makes me think of a pin-up dancer. She's hot, but probably crazy too.
>>33793143Look man, sex drives differ among ladies, but even having been with an>I need it twice a day-tier horny woman who lay down ungodly good sex, you ultimately still gotta live with her outside the bedroom if you're dating long-term. As a warning to zoom-zooms, most women after a few years will ultimately settle into a once or twice a week routine, sex takes an increasing backseat as you age. if you're relying on >I get to fuck 1-14 times a weekto fix you or your problems long-term, besides often being quite nice, you're gonna be sorely disappointed, it doesn't work like that.Anyone who thinks it's cope has either never fucked someone at length, or is 20 and thinks the bpd chick he banishes from his apartment the moment she stops being interesting (naked) is going to be a long-term and sustainable part of his life.
>>33793263>As a warning to zoom-zoomsWE NO ZOOM ZOOM!!! YOU LIKE BOOM BOOM???WE GO BOOM BOOM!!!
>>33793357We go boom boom?
>>33795427BOOM BOOM
>>33796754No zoom zoom?
>>33798126boom boom
>>33801315snoo snoo?
>>33802617BOOM BOOM
>>33793192>>we mostly just don't care if a woman sells sex, it's mostly that we just don't want men buying itsounds like the most french thing ever written, disgustingthank god I'm from the Netherlands where you can get pussy even if you're a failure in life
>>33805331I think I'm going to visit the Netherlands...
>>33782623>the study/work/gym/sleep autopilot automaton who has no hobbies or lifestyle and doesn't even have the real desire to go out and meet womennot OP but damn, that's literally me and on weekends I usually stay inside, I reaped what I sowed I guess ha ha....
>>33785931yeah they are peak
>>33805542yea kek
>>33805542it's never too late to start a new thing my dude
>>33805334go right ahead and buy a worstenbroodje while you're here
>>33782362>I'm 40 years old and I've never had a girlfriend before.>Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?Buddy, you are never going to have a girlfriend, so don't worry about it. Even most worthless losers fail their way into a girlfriend or two by the time they're your age. You are clearly undesirable. Move on with life, and focus on something you can enjoy.
>>33782362>Am I ever going to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction and emotional excitement that I never got as a teen when I finally do get to have a girlfriend?yes, but you have to spend time building it by doing things together and having open and vulnerable conversations/interactions.
>>33806008>buy a worstenbroodjeA what?
>>33782362thats not what a peeping tom is lol>>33782441imagine if a woman said "i bring myself" well, this is much worse because women are not the ones who demand sex
>>33787853because the bum black dude looks like this and you like a chud most likely.
>>33807920>imagine if a woman said "i bring myself"Dating someone is not a job interview, tranny. You will never be a woman.
>>33782441honestly this is actually a good attitude to have. fuck the retards larping saying that's why you've never had a girlfriend. that mentality is the only reason i've ever had women. anyone that has a resume or list of all the things they bring to the table which they then use as reasons why they SHOULD have a girlfriend or would deserve one hypothetically is a basedboy retard incel crashout rapist mr nice guy. self worth is essential, knowing that you are an invaluable asset and a man of high worth, and could provide many things to any relationship, and guarding this prospect from unworthy women, make you more desirable.in your case though, you aren't a man of high self esteem, you're a retarded loser that chose to be this way, and now you're in a self defeating loop of acknowledging this fact and then proceeding to give up and do nothing about it as a result of being aware of it. stop reminiscing on your teens and twenties, especially when your fond memories are just being a horny kid and jerking off. that's sad as fuck that you have nothing else to reflect on.step one is do shit that increases your personal self worth and value. your question is gay as fuck too, how are we supposed to know if you'll ever stop being a faggot and do what must be done to feel that warm sense of belonging and sexual satisfaction that comes from you know, having a family and a woman. wanting it to be the same as jerking off when you were a teen is mega loser retard shit. be present, those memories are long gone and might not even be real to begin with.you've already made up your mind how it's gonna feel and use that as cope to not even bother trying. it's what you've been doing decade after decade. meaning you peaked mentally and sexually as a teenager. get it together dude and fuck your lust provoking image collecting hobby. maybe grow up and you'd get some pussy.
>>33782441It's a great question. "I bring myself." Well, who the fuck are you? If you asked a woman why she should date you, and her answer was only "Because I'm me." well that gives you zero information and leaves you not knowing if she's a good match for you. There are a bunch of desirable things you could bring to a relationship, but you're likely still single because not only do you not step out of your comfort zone to try to date, but you also don't bring anything!>Looks>Strength>Money>Power>Good at sex>Service>Kindness>Compassion>Understanding>Problem solvingWhat would you do for your woman? Can you see beyond yourself?
>>33808989That list is not all inclusive by the way and you don't even need to have all of those things.
>>33808989if you're interviewing a bitch about why she should date you then you've already lost. people that aren't retarded ask relevant questions to get information about whether or not she would be a suitable partner and silently come to your own conclusions in your mind. you don't pose it like a job interview as to why she'd be a good candidate. and worse yet if she just lists a bunch of superficial retard shit like "good at sex- money- kind- problem solver" like lmfao. you have no idea what you're talking about.
>>33808297That is one handsome looking nigger.
>>33808989You cannot describe any of what actually matters. It's the vibes you give off to, but how do you describe vibes? Women won't consider you in the first place if you don't have them. It's something you acquire only through life and the problem is that often times you get the vibes only by interacting with other people with good vibes. Being social helps but you need to have the quick wits to make a joke or a remark on what the other person said and give something from your baggage. All of that stuff you said comes later when the woman starts to think more logically.
>>33810477>vibesyou feel me bro?
>>33810773he feel me? this nigga? really?
>>33811937he feel you bro he feel you
