Are you are older than 18 dating some socially inept retard like this

>>33789314
Oh my god! That’s so cute! Why not bring him with when with friends? I dunno, i think you should do one day of the week where you really spoil him, give him lots of affection and sex, give him a gift, take him out to one of his favorite activities. That should let him know he’s appreciated by you.

sounds like both of you need to grow up

>>33789326
im mentally ill and i can't date guys that have a social life

>>33789332
thanks for the advice >w<
we love going ice skating together and camping so we'll definitely do it again when winter comes. he also expressed desires about wanting to be more socially involved in my life so it shouldn't be so hard. ill arrange a double date or something.

>>33789314
What kinda sex do you guys have

>>33789511
he doesn't like PIV sex that much be he likes when i take control and have my way like push him and choke him while riding

just cook his favorite meals, that's the best you can ever do for a universal take. If he wasn't demanding for sex or his fetishes then don't.

Since you're the queen here, you have to order him around and tell about himself. You can go seize and asks all his internet accounts then figure out all his interests from there. Don't feel bad about it when your intention is to make him feel good or better.

Honestly, it is sad. I would also drop everything for my love one but I have hateful tendencies to other people so I always prioritize hate over love that I forgot my love one. Even if my loved one changes sides to be my enemy then yeah, no choice but to go part ways.

>he can be a little too clingy sometimes. Like going into a spiral and thinking I'm gonna leave him if I go out with my friends.
It's hard to explain it. You're the only one that person has. Couples are meant to be together, grow together, experience new stuff together and so on.

If you always make time with your friends instead of your love one and see this couple thing as less of a priority then you're not ready for marriage nor having a family.

Yes, you'll know a new person who will eventually be your type that's better than the one you currently have and dispose it with the new replacement as an upgrade. You may say you won't leave him now but promises can't be kept forever. This is how human relationship works.

>>33789314
>How can I make him feel better?
send him to a therapist
also lmao @ you being an asafag

>>33790436
>send him to a therapist
He wants her, not the therapist you dumbass faggot.

>>33790447
this sentence doesn't make any sense at all. Not that it matters.

>>33789314
>making fun of him the entire post
>somehow brings up dumping him
>not reflecting on how you’re a bigger loser than him
I fucking hate women so much. Cruel. Kill yourself, no one cares about your blogpost. “Average” but gave him a chance? That means you’re mid.

This is what real love looks like and being a woman, you’re retarded enough to think it’s unhealthy like tiktok tells you. I hope he goes psycho one of these days and chops you up instead of himself

>>33789314
>I know it's "unhealthy" but im not gonna dump him, he's been amazing in other ways.
Yeah, you are going to dump him eventually. You'll get sick of him following you around 24/7 like a lost puppy, and panicking every time you so much as leave the room. And when you dump him, he'll kill himself.

So you might want to consider breaking up now; if he's not quite so in love and dependent on you, he might still survive.

If you're actually serious about staying with him FOREVER, then do some reading on attachment styles. He is a classic example of anxious/insecure attachment. What you need to do is make absolutely sure your own attachment style is secure; if it's avoidant (and it probably is) then you're headed for disaster.

>>33790740
Lmao all women are avoidant. You think they’ll actually give a fuck when the guy actually needs them in the relationship? Has any amount of dependence on them? They only care about themselves

>>33789314
How I see it is that I put her first and would hurt for her and she puts me first and would hurt for me. It all balances itself out.

If communication is clingy, that means there's needs to be better communication. That's on you It seems. Maybe send him a text or call and say hey I love you chill the fuck out

>>33790461
that's why you're still an incel and can't understand any of this shit.

If anyone who needs to go to therapist its you with your mental illness.

>>33789314
>I'm average but let's say I gave him a "chance".
Is most /adv users retarded? How do you read this then continue take this post serious lmao

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>>33789314
He sounds exactly like me when I went through a period of experimenting with dating a girl that I got a long with well for a few months, which was new to me. I've always been an asocial loner type that has been completely uninterested in relationships my whole life but my lizard brain developed an extreme romantic attachment to her over time which made me irrationally clingy, devoted, possessive, and paranoid - these were new emotions which I felt like that I couldn't control, and I assume that he's going through the same thing. It's basically like a form of psychosis.

The breakup from that was also the worst thing that has ever impacted me psychologically and it made me suicidal for a good 3 months. Never again.

>>33790740
This is probably the best advice. Keeping up the relationship is just going to make the breakup more devastating for him if you're not serious about staying long term, and it will probably lead to suicide. You're playing with fire and somebody is going to get hurt.

Some people's brains are simply incompatible with relationships and it causes them to go completely haywire.

So many dumbass anons here who doesn't understand shit that OP said she has no intentions of dumping him and is asking advice how to make him feel better?

All this bitch got to do is prove herself to him til the end of time as she claims she won't dump him. If she dumps him then she really doesn't love him right at the start. She liked him too. Overclinginess isn't an issue but trust since bitches gets flocked with tons of guys many times.

You either have a guy like him who is into you or a fucking husband who is violent and abusive for you hanging out around and beat your ass up for being a social bitch ass whore.

Buy him a collar.

>>33791031
In the entire post she complained about him and basically degraded him. Just because she ends it with “oh but I don’t wanna DUMP him guys I promise lol” doesn’t mean shit. She has made it obvious she doesn’t actually love him. I agree with your beliefs though

dating this sort of guy or girl is never a good idea, just leave him now since you're obviously not actually into him before he kills himself
or kills you, this sort of story happened many times before

>>33789314
Have you considered talking to him about this?
I swear most couple problem are through people not talking, like be up front and don't bother with hints or "He should know"'s.
Most people get better over time if you don't feed into it or give them reasons to get worse.

you cant make him feel better, he needs to fix his shit
btw this is the type of loser who will cheat on you out of insecurity of himself

>>33790740
>do some reading on attachment styles

being mentally ill is not an "attachment style". the guy has some serious issues, thus he ended up with mentally ill Op who will make sure to keep him where he is and not improve.

>>33789354
>i can't date guys that have a social life

See here. Its vital to OP that the guys remains in the shit and does not fix his life. Because its easier than dealing with her own crippling mental illness that makes it so she can not be together with anyone who has the bare basics of life together.
A great example of a toxic relationship where two sick people mutually reinforce each others issues and drag themselves into a deeper hoel than they ever could on their own. However, OPs bf gets the shorter end of the shitty stick on top.

>>33789314
>I'm in an unhealthy relationship
>I refuse to get out of this situation
>How can I fix it??
You don't. You want your dysfunctional cake and to eat it too and that's not how life works.

>>33790998
>I've always been an asocial loner type that has been completely uninterested in relationships my whole life but my lizard brain developed an extreme romantic attachment to her over time which made me irrationally clingy, devoted, possessive, and paranoid
Fuck, same. Damn. I was surprised at myself because I've never been like that with anyone before. She also had BPD which made me go into retarded savior mode.
I wonder how common it is for asocial loner dudes to go through this.

>>33791131
You will complain about your partner eventually, even your friends, family. This shit is no different doesn't mean you want to cut ties with someone or abandon them.

Did you even account the bitch is new to this romance thing? She doesn't actually love him then why she's trying to put effort to "make him feel better?"

Just because one of your partner isn't clingy as you are or same sex drive as you that means they don't love you no more?

>>33791883
>she can not be together with anyone who has the bare basics of life together.
What the fuck you yapping about? If you're spending MORE time with your friends than your partner its you who doesn't know shit about relationship but a cheating hoe.

>Op who will make sure to keep him where he is and not improve.
and your grammar, punctuation and writing style haven't improved after years since you went to school. You have some serious issues as well? Look at how hypocrite you are. Nobody's perfect and if you love someone that includes the imperfections as well.

You're unfit to give advice you hypocritical fag.

>>33793323
>If you're spending MORE time with your friends than your partner its you who doesn't know shit about relationship

Thats very different from not having any friends at all and thus not spending time with anyone except his gf like OPs boyfriend does.

And yes, this is a texbook mental illness abusive relationship. OP most likely has BPD or some crazy shit, and peopel who have that are a danger to anyone emotionally lclose to them unless they are under close therapeutic supervision and heavy , constant medication.

>>33789314
i was once akin to your ex bf, let me tell you right now:
this >>33791123 and make sure to call him a good boy. be careful, as this will effectively bond his soul to yours permanently.

>>33792615
>>33790998
yup, don't think she has BPD but very similar scenario. asocial, loner, inexperienced, devastated (in the end)

>>33797145
Not having any friends is a "CHOICE" it has nothing to do with mental illness. The boundary between acquaintance and friendship are different from other people and just because they don't rely on friends doesn't mean they should.

There scenarios where people cheated on their partner because they "FORGOT" that they are in a relationship all because you were absent busy hanging out with your friends all the time.

If anyone is having mental illness here its you. You have a social responsibility with your partner. You can't mingle all the time with your friends when you're about to have a family or even married.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZ2OHpjKnFk
This guy out here decided to marry her friend so she gets to see her friend all the time while him being around his wife and it's win-win for everybody.

>OP most likely has BPD or some crazy shit, and peopel who have that are a danger to anyone emotionally lclose to them unless they are under close therapeutic supervision and heavy , constant medication.
You don't even know the shit you're talking about you mental shizo trying to be expert when downies with down syndrome or autists still having a good time where love got nothing to do with mental illness.

>>33789515
>he doesnt like penis in vagina sex but he likes when I put his penis in my vagina
huh?

>>33790587
>"Average" but gave him a chance?
>That means you're mid.

Yeah... that's what "average" means.