I tried to fit this all in one post, but it's just not happening, so prepare for a blog and a half I'm 22-years-old, living at home with my family - my mom and stepdad, my teenage brother and sister, and my other, adult sister and her boyfriend. I was going to state college after a few years of (free) community college, but I soon transitioned back to community college after a rough time in the latter half of 2023 (by way of a tramautic event in May). I eventually finished CC in summer 2025, and now I have nothing to do. I don't need a job because I'm on NEETBux, and my parents are okay with me living with them for now because I partially payed for a surgery for my stepdad. All this to say, I fucking hate my situation right now. Everyone in my family is either severely mentally ill and/or completely miserable, me included, and each and every day, I grow to despise them and myself a little more. It's nonstop fucking drama, day in and day out, over the most retarded shit, all the time. My stepdad's even been arrested multiple times because he probably has untreated BPD and can't stop drinking even after being court-ordered to do so. I avoid it in my room all day, and I just try to drown it all out with porn, vidya and /v/ ragescrolling. I feel like a total fucking loser, and I've lost all will to continue doing the productive stuff I used to (gym, cooking, therapy etc). Every time my mom asks "what have you been doing all day" when she gets home, I wanna fucking slap her, because she knows the answer is "nothing". Last week I went to a local fair. Not one, but two kids called me a fucking basement dweller.
>>33794875My sister's just as much of a loser as me. She's at least currently in online classes, but she's otherwise unmotivated to do literally anything, same as me. She's smokes weed and vapes, and she's dependent on her high school dropout BF. She tried to get a job and move out with her BF's sister, but that didn't work out well at all, and she moved back home, jobless. Now my parents hold it over her head that she's just fucking useless and will always be a screwup. Which, tbf, she can be a massive bitch at times, but they're really not helping. Now obviously, I know things have to change, and fast. Everything I tell my mom, though, is immediately shot down by my mom, with a twenty minute rant about how it wouldn't work and why I'm stupid for thinking it would. She's always so condescending about it, too. It's alway "I'm not trying to discourage you, but..." followed by wave after wave of discouragement. Even getting my own place was met with "oh, anon, you probably wouldn't like it. It's really expensive and blah blah blah." Her "solution" just seems to be "get anon a car and a job, and things will fall into place from there", but honestly, I don't want a job. I'm too depressed to even consistently wash myself, let alone hold down stable employment. Besides, working a shitty 9-5 while still being under the thumb of my dickhead family sounds like the worst of both worlds.
>>33794891One option I'm seriously considering is going back to college. I'm decent on money (fifty-something thousand in the bank, plus an income from NEETbux), so assuming I get a cheap-ish one, I shouldn't see a huge hit to my finances. I feel I really squandered my time when I was at college, and I want a second chance before it's too late. I'm looking at ones close to where one of only two of myonline friends are, because I have none irl. If not, I was thinking somewhere far away, like in Washington. Idk, I think I'd like the rainy weather there. Another choice, suggested by the aforementioned friend, was disappear to another country for a month, like The Phillipines. Live it up, lose my v-card, meet new people, get new experiences, so on and so forth. The big hurdle here is my family's reaction. Mainly my mom, but also my stepdad somewhat. They want me chained down here, where they're at least moderately sure I'm not getting stabbed. They've also just written off anything besides getting a job and inching my way to some hobble apartment. And it's also my fault, because I kowtow to them all the time to avoid drama. But I really can't stay another year here. I'll unironically kill myself So basically, what do (You) think is the right play? If you have any questions, let me know, and I'll be sure to answer them
>>33794875>>33794891> I don't need a job because I'm on NEETBuxSounds like you do need a job. Just not for money but for your own sanity. If I was in your situation, I would be trying to find a job to get out of your hellscape nightmare living situation. The truth of the matter is, around your early 20s is the time your parents start to get fucking sick of you and the sniping and resentment starts to settle in. You are supposed to move out around this time but obviously some people delay this until they're financially stable. If you're just going to sit around on neetbux all day, nothing is going to change your situation. You have to get a job
>>33794875>>33794891>>33794896not going to read all that shit
>>33794909What jobs should OP aim for?
>>33794875>I tried to fit this all in one post>[wall of text]I won't read that. Ask for one thing next time.
>>33794909Thanks for the reply, Anon. I appreciate and understand where you're coming from, but I don't think you read the whole post, because I explicitly said that I don't think I'm equipped for a job right now. I think I'd rather try college again to get away, which would introduce its own litany of problems, but it's better than nothing. But does /adv/ think that's a waste, or what?
>>33794875You need to get out of there and become an independent adult, and that requires some sacrifice to gather the resources to do so.. job hunting is a numbers game, simply put out more apps to win and continue to do so until you are earning in a condition you like best. Nothing will improve if you do not do this.. and you will never be become independent.Have the strength to endure what you must to improve your lot, else your day to day will never improve.
>>33800644Meant to add, regarding your family and their opinions - value yours more.. right now they are not helping you, and therefore you need to have the strength to endure and escape. Many people let others determine so much of how they feel.. why not understand that you can do better, and simply act upon that drive. Have the realization that you need to like yourself first then consider with reason what others think, but know that most people talk and don't listen, and even less will make the effort to understand others.. hence why you need to make the effort to like yourself, by improving your lot. It will hurt, it will feel like hell even, but you climb one step at a time until you feel successful.
>>33794875You should really try combat sports. Boxing, Mauy Thai, kickboxing, MMA, BJJ, wrestling. I am extremely bored with my life too besides for the aspect of my life where I get to go to the gym and stimulate the fuck out of my brain by going hard in training. It also gives you purpose. Training to fight is the only thing that I actually look forward to during the day and I actually take care of myself to perform better. Maybe it'll be the same with you? Never hurts to try
>>33794875You need a job
>>33804819(Social benefits)>>33795000Something that fits his personality, don't know him. There must be similarly aged people, since you don't need the cash, keep job hopping until you could find somewhere that fits
>>33800592>I appreciate and understand where you're coming from, but I don't think you read the whole post, because I explicitly said that I don't think I'm equipped for a job right now.You gay or something?>I think I'd rather try college again to get away, which would introduce its own litany of problems, but it's better than nothing.Depends on what you are going to school for.
>because I explicitly said that I don't think I'm equipped for a job right nowEven Indians work anon, you're fine
