am i a dick if i distance myself from every single friend in my life?
>>33808954Yes, and then you won't have friends.
>>33808954Depends on the reason. Do they even want to be friends with you?
>>33808959thats the point
>>33808981hard to say, i always felt that i was the one putting more effort in the friendship, but maybe im bias.also they are friends from my ex-gf, so im automatically a villain
>>33808954Maybe. I dumped all my friends and moved away, life got instantly much better. But it depends on the person.
>>33808954No, but you might end without any friends
>>33809025all my friends are good people, i guess i just want to be alone for some years>>33809037thats the point
>>33809042Seek therapy
>>33809042its your life man anyone who would hang that over you wasnt your friend anyways
>>33809042You just need better friends
>>33808954This >>33809044. Unless your friends are an actual negative influence by being shit friends, users, criminals, or druggies they aren't the problem. You're blaming them for the state of your life, when it's something deeper going on with you that you need to sort out. Being alone makes it harder to sort your shit out, because you're not accountable to anyone. Plus when you get older it becomes harder to make friends, so you'll end up regretting it in the long run even if you enjoy it for a while. So yeah, you're a bit of a self-sabotaging dick blaming others for your problems which generally are caused by other self-sabotaging behaviours in these cases.
>>33809215He just said he wants to be alone.
>>33809230He didn't say he just wanted some time alone. He straight out said that he wished to cut off his entire friend group and isolate himself for a few years. Wanting some time alone is normal. Even wishing to spend less time with others is fine, but intentionally isolating yourself is very rarely something that's healthy. It's the severity and degree of what he proposes that raises alarms.
>>33809255Thats quite the back pedal from you saying hes blaming everyone for his problems. Projecting on some guy for shit that happened to you isn't going to make you feel better or help him. He needs therapy and to make a list of his problems to solve. Unfortunately if someone doesn't want help its impossible to help them so berating him won't exactly go any way towards helping him. Youre just helping yourself.
>>33809272What're you taking about? It's not a backpedal whatsoever. I was explaining to you why I said what I did by emphasizing the difference between the healthy need for alone time, and taking extreme actions that are self-sabotaging and unhealthy (outside of rare circumstances where the issue is the people around you, or your life goals cannot support it). It's not a projection or berating him, it's being honest like he asked. Even if no one consciously feels that way, that is exactly what that action is. It is blaming others for how you feel about your current life. When you say that you think your life will be better without people around you, that is viewing them as the the source of the problem. Sometimes that's true, because sometimes the people around you are the problem. However OP indicated this was not the case, so I answered honestly that based on what information he provided he is being a dick. Which is what he asked. That doesn't mean he means to be a dick, and I am not assigning judgement. I'm answering honestly.If OP isn't getting away from shitty people, didn't massively change his surroundings or life, then I have to choice but to assume it's good old avoidance unless more information comes out. If it is that, then I think if he doesn't actually sit down and think it through he might; cut everyone off, might feel better for a bit, but then realize that it wasn't the real problem when his problems resurface, and if that's the case then he'll regret it. Running away from everything to try and run away from yourself and your problems never really works in the long run after all.
>>33808988Humans are social creatures. You might not want to believe it, but without social connection your mental health will get worse. Isolation or worse, outsourcing human connection to AI, will drive you insane and put you in a deep depression.
>>33808988Then what do you care if you're a dick?
