>get drugged and raped while staying in hospital>do at home std tests, all came clean>got a bf >we're both waiting for marriageDo I eventually tell him about it, or keep quiet about it? Would a guy feel betrayed if he found out his gf/wife got raped.
If you can't even share something as important as this you are not "partners".
>>33815220truth
neither of you should have to 'accept' that it happened but acknowledgement, support and devotion can help nurture healing and create bonding. But if you never speak about it, it can never get better.
>>33815210>Do I eventually tell him about it, or keep quiet about it?That depends on who you're marrying. If it's a normal, healthy person you should tell him. If it's someone you met on 4chan, never breathe a word.
>>33815210STDs can lie dormant for months before they turn up on a test. Yes tell him.
>>33815210By hiding it, you are taking away his choice of choosing you to be his wife.
>>33815334Seriously?
>>33815210its not your fault but i will say from experience as the man in this scenariohe will be angry at the perpetrator, because his empathy is feeling it for the first time.If he blames you, leave him.
>>33815210he'll definitely get mad. moids see it as worse than cheating. moids just plainly hate women.
is there a need to disclose it? unless you want to vent about it or something i don't think so. i doubt he's told you every trauma he went through. if you disclose it at the wrong time he might get mad at you (but that could be a test of whether or not to dump him ig)
>>33815210Forget the "the how hell react" and what not.. no one says you have to tell everyone everything, and a rule of thumb, not just in romantic relationships: never reveal information that could be used against you.
>>33815595I sometimes flinch at touch and don't want to be on the bottom during sex, he may get suspicious after we get intimate. Not sure whether to lie or tell at that point if he brings it up.
>>33815347Yes, seriously. If you have any decency you'll tell him in case he gets a shock in 6 months.
>>33815672Google says for most common stds it's max 2 months
As part of the relationship you will eventually have to tell him. Couple's share things like that but maybe you might have to hint at it with him. Like "scenarios" and how he would react. If he's an ass about it then you shouldn't share, if he's understanding then eventually let him know.
>>33815802>hint at it with himHow?
>>33815855See how he treats rape victims, ask him how he feels about them and their circumstances.
>>33815210Idk if you are gonna tell him about it, but he better not trip on what someone did to you against your will.
>>33815877Thats so autistic kek
>>33815981Imagine OP finally tells him and he gets angry at her and insults her then storms off.You need to test the waters first
>>33815210>anime image>vague ragebait scenario with extraneous information that only matters to people who would get mad over itLARP alert
>>33816015Fuck off
>>33815210I could honestly not move past it, personally.Dating a rape victim is disgusting, besides, you probably weren't even 'raped'
>>33815210Alright let's say you do tell him. Now what? Is there someone to fight, someone to punish? He may be so angry he gets mad at you for not pursuing legal action against the rapist (assuming you said nothing). He will probably feel sorry for you.I would not say anything. Imagine telling him someone forcefully had their hands on you. Every time he touches you he will think about it. Any time he see you holding your children the thought will pop into his mind. It's like a unraveled thread hanging from a shirt but he had nothing to cut it off. He can ignore the dangling thread by not taking about this with you again, he can tug at it to separate it but risks unraveling it more, or he could break it off leaving you and the thread behind.Just tank it. What is the statstic now? 1 in 5 women are raped? Children more likely to be molested by a family member and have it covered up by the family? It is all just numbers. Why say anything?
>Would a guy feel betrayed if he found out his gf/wife got raped.yes, 200%. not because it happened, maybe to 50%. but mainly because you didnt tell or even worse, tried to hide it.a friend of mine, if he found out that happened to his gf, he could never live that down. probably would kill the gf and then himself.dont forget, betrayal is the worst of the worst. you cant betray an enemy, but only friends, family and loved onesthats why they say Satan/Samael is in the icy hell for his betrayal of God and prolly his brother Michaelrealisticly, there are 2 options here for you, maybe 3 OP.one is to straight up tell him what happened to you and hope for the best after you have done >>33815877 aka test the waters (Truth is always the best and easy solution)two is hide it and take it with you to your grave (meaning you need to constantly lie and live in fear and angst to never blabb or yapp it out) and gamble that he wont notice itthree cut ties and drop him and start a new relationship where you tell him right in the beginning what happened to you.
>>33815210Can't you just rape your bf as a bonding experience?
>>33815210In all seriousness, if you are considering marrying someone, you should trust them enough to tell them anything that you have done or has ever happened to you. If you withhold this from him, it means you don't trust him and probably should not marry him anyway. I say, just tell him. Then he can decide what to do with that information.
>>33815210>waiting for marriageYes, you absolutely should tell him he's waiting for spoiled, used goods. What is even the point? You aren't a virgin and you already got soiled by another man, yet you want the person you "love" to wait.Just let the poor guy go.
>>33815210>we're both waiting for marriageok so you're both retardsnever tell him, take that shit to your grave
>>33817234>reddit spacing
>>33817597>reddit person
>>33815210Did you tell the police?
>>33815220They haven't even had sex, the idea that they are partners in any real sense is utterly ludicrous. >>33815210Perhaps you shoudl confide to someone close to you, your rooommate/buddy doesn#t soudn like a good choice.
>>33817753No they drugged me and I have no idea what they sound or look like. Not going to humiliated myself for something that goes nowhere.
>>33817789lol none of this happened, larping retard
>>33817272Why is it retarded atleast you dont get pumped and dumped by multiple guys
>>33817826Kill yourself
>>33817789>didn't tell the policeLiar.Absolute larp thread.You're making this shit up.You don't have to identity the criminal to report a crime.Your humiliation is in your head.You chose to help the criminal if this was real.>Not going to humiliated myself for something that goes nowhere.So you're not going to tell your S.O. either, who's opinion is far more fucking important and will have continuous contact and has no binding to secrecy, in comparison to a civil servant who is legaly bound to your anonymity and seeking justice for you. But you will tell the internet.Absolute idiotic liar.Rape fantasies are the most common female sexual fantasies.
>>33817839No one believes her because she didn't go to the police.This claim is so common, the unconscious-flow-chart-immediate-next-step is to ask if they went to the police.The answer is no 99% of the time.They are lying 99% of the time.
>>33817849Seriously get raped and die
>>33817789How do you know you where raped then?
>>33817863This shit happens so often, you can't shame anyone for this line of though.Just yesterday a bpd demon claimed rape by someone with erectile dysfunction in my social circle.Real rape victims don't like people claiming false victimhood either retard.
>>33817789>drugged into unconsciouness>in a hospital>raped>didn't report it to police>didn't sue the hospital for hundreds of thousands of dollars>doesn't want to tell her S.O.>TELLS 4chan
>>33817753>nearly 12 hours to ask the fpbp questionJesus christ 4chan is slipping
>>33817828>what is sexual compatibilityanyway, doesn't matterthe important fact is that OP's man is not a well-adjusted healthy smart male, those try sex before marriage. hence OP is taking a risk disclosing this fact.
>>33817866Soreness pain and wetness.
>>33817878Almost as if asking strangers on the internet doesn't have any social repercussions. Ok how about your porn watching habits are exposed for the whole town to see how would you feel, same feeling.
>>33817928The point is not the social repercussions.The point is it's a fucking larp.
