I have difficulty talking on the phone with my GF among other situations.In person or texting it's fine, however when on the phone after about 20-30 minutes of casual conversation it gets quiet aside from the occasional question or vocal stim, this goes for a few hours.I understand that silence is golden, I for one don't mind it knowing that she's there on the other end even in silence.But she's expressed that she wishes I'd talk more on the phone, it's not a deal breaker to her but I would like to be able to do that because I do feel I want that too, not for her sake but mine that I want to improve on.I've always been quiet and reserved. Not entirely however, I am vocal about many things and get real into questions, conversations and certain topics you'd think I would never shut up.But I recognize, even with friends, often times I am not saying much until something is said.I don't like that aspect of myself, I really would love to be more broad and open but I guess I find myself either overthinking/stopping myself in fear I may sound stupid or realize there's no interest.Even in times where I make an attempt recently as a attempt at resistance towards myself , it has gone awkward.I take it in stride, I'm not one to be held down by feeling fucked up about it, yet I still struggle with casual conversation in this age and those same feelings.What can I do?Do I have to just toss more shit at the wall to see what sticks?Is it entirely just a symptom of overthought?
>>33832810Tell her you need her to ask you random questions, any that pop into her head. If she wants you to talk more after 20-30 minutes of talking, she needs to give you something to talk about
