Hi, I would like to get some advice from people in this situation. For context I am very close to him so I know him better than anyone else and he tells me almost everything. He is 19yo.So my brother is very depressed and doesn't leave his room at all, too depressed to do anything even stuff he used to like playing video games on the console. He just sleeps or stays on his pc. He doesn't clean his room either, I had to do it for him last week. He does see a therapist but doesn't want to talk with her.He has been scrolling on the incels.is forum for the past few years now and getting more and more bad opinions like wishing death upon all women. This has been a source of conflict between us since I am a girl.I don't really know what to do desu, especially that he gets angry very easily. I dropped uni so I could focus on making money and maybe move out from my father's house with him. My father isn't the most understanding person so he mostly ignores him and blame him for not doing anything.What do I do? He doesn't want to listen to anything I say even tho i try to help. I am not that much better mentally and it's not helping me at all either, don't know if I can continue like that much longer so I ask for any advice.Thank you for reading.
You have to be a sister who proves to him not all women are mean. Incels go through this phase before becoming men. He has not seen the good side of women yet. All he has seen is rejections, isolation, and the pain his gut tells him he needs to be with someone. If you want him to overcome this you need to reassure him that he is not alone and there is no guilt in being a man who has issues. If you don't and hide his humanity from him, he will continue this cycle and unlike me at 29 or even 21, will turn into a worse person than he is now.
Start by giving him a hug once or twice a day. Unironically that will help a lot.
I don’t really know what to do on this situation but maybe you could try to speak with his therapist and tell her the situation maybe she can give you a professional advice since she is your brother's therapist?Or maybe you can try to make a difference on the concepts "woman" and "sister/family" since the concept "woman" is linked or associated with to an romantic interest and you are just a kid and even his sis which of course no has nothing to do with romance or love.You're a good sis trying to stay there for his bro, I really hope you can get some help!
