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>mom lost her job last year
>we both struggle to find work
>I finally found a job last month
>nothing special, but it's a job, and I can save up and pay some bills
>2 weeks in I find out that my things in my drawer have been rearranged
>she tossed out my psp, gameboy, and my pokemon cards
>I get pissed and ask her about it
>she plays dumb and says she'll get me another one
>I curse her out and decide that she isn't worth speaking to
>stop going to church with her because I don't care for religion and I have no respect for her anymore
>she starts acting like the victim and believes that my videogames are the reason why she can't find work now(she's a superstitious, carribean bitch who believes that videogames and comic books can bring demons into your home)
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>>33835275
>one day I come back from work
>see that she unplugged my entire desk setup
>says that I won't bring my devil games into the house
>tell her to fuck off and plug my gadgets back in again
>she still blames me for her problems saying that she got plenty of job offers before and now she gets none
>can't make the fucking connection between life and the economy before covid and after covid
>can't understand how fucked the job market is in Canada now
>last week she fucking took one of my sweaters because it's old and I need to look good(I'm wearing a long sleeve shirt from work for 90% of my day, so why does it matter? It's just more laundry)
>come back home from work today
>she once again packed my shit up and starts talking nonsense about demons and videogames
>she even removed my bedroom door
>I once again tell her to stop touching my shit and to fuck off
I wouldn't be this mad if it wasn't the third time that she has either destroyed/damaged or threw out something that had value to me because she thinks she's right.
I damaged her laptop once and that was after she broke my monitor and damaged my keyboard, mouse, and pc case because she thought I deleted her ebook for a class she was taking at the time.
She thinks she's trying to push me in the right direction, but she does it in such a stupid fucking way that\ it made me lose any and all respect for her.
I honestly don't know what to do at this point because I'm broke as shit, so I would be homeless if I moved out. I seriously don't understand how someone could believe that magic, voodoo or any other spiritual nonsense is real in a rich nation in the 21st century.
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Forgive her. It's the best you can do. Parents can become retarded like children the older they grow, and you find yourself to be the caretaker and the one who has to tell them what to do or what to avoid.
Please make things right with her while she is still around. The worst thing you can do yourself is getting pissed at close relative and something happens to them (god forbid) and you find yourself knowing the last memory they had was them being hurt by your words.
Just don't trust her with your belongings anymore, keep them hidden and out of her reach.
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>>33835298
She's 56. She's not that senile. I don't think I can forgive someone who has a had a history of accusing me of doing something I never did and never once apologizing when she realizes that she was wrong. This has been going on since I was 13.
I think all the trauma in her life has made her too paranoid. The rough times we're currently in only made things worse. This is second time that she has become even more religious because of a bad situation, and she became more religious in an annoying way.
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This experience has taught me to stay away from any woman who considers herself religious or spiritual. Especially if they come from a shithole country.
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>>33835275
>>33835285
Another extremely annoying thing about this situation is that she has had multiple priest visit out home to bless it over the years and not a single one of them felt an evil presence. She had a priest come to our home to bless it in August and he said nothing about demons.
One would think that a literal expert who has devoted his life to God would've picked up on that shit immediately if there was a demonic presence.
I've been playing games my whole fucking life for several hours a day whenever I had free time, and it wasn't a problem when things were going good for us.
I honestly hope I don't become a fucking nutcase when I'm her age.
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>>33835275
The question is that you care about her enough to be dealing with her bullshit or not.
If not, just fuck 'em parents and cut your ties for good.
If yes, speaking with her and understanding her mentality and giving an ultimatum, if she does something similar again, then you will have to cut her from your life, since independently if you care about her, you can't be living with someone like that
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>>33835482
I want to get my own place so I that won't have to deal with this bullshit anymore, but I make 10 cents above minimum wage and rent in Canada is fucking expensive these days.
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>>33835482
>>33835539
I also just realized that I'm continuing a cycle. She cut off her family because of how they treated her despite how much work she did for them. I understand that she wants me to go to school, become more social, find a girlfriend, graduate, get a good job, etc. But when her idea of pushing me towards that is by destroying my things or throwing them out without my permission, or trying to get me to enter some random program at a university in a different province, making me stay in that province with her for several days and nights and increasing the amount of time I spend over there every week because it's her way of forcing me to get out of my room, and to get me to pretend to be a homeless student who needs housing because she wants me to go back to school, I start to grow tired of her garbage ideas.
I understand that getting an education is important. I understand that we're in a pretty shitty situation, but I'm not going to screw myself by picking out a random shit degree so I can pretend to be a homeless student living out of a car with his mom, so I can get some benefits. I'm not gonna take an actual homeless student's spot when I have a nice house to go home to.
It's maddening.
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>>33835600
>She cut off her family because of how they treated her
I'd point that out to her, then tell her not to touch your stuff anymore
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>>33835692
Pointing that out won't change anything because she's so damn headstrong. She told me that she wasn't suppose to hit me in the same way that her siblings used to hit her last year or in 2023, I felt absolutely nothing because the damage has already been done. Of course it was her way of trying to discipline me, but it's too late for me to care at that point.
The only thing she knows how to do these days is pray for around 4 hours a day and ask Jesus to help her because she thinks she's being spiritually attacked by people who want to harm her.
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Anon, I think your mother is paranoid schizophrenic and should get her check. Not even saying this to shitpost since she can actually start being a danger to herself and others if things go unchecked.
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>>33835874
She might be or she's just another religious moron who ate up the videogames and certain music genres are demonic kool-aid.
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>>33835692
I've also told her not to touch my shit several times both politely and impolitely, but she still can't respect that basic rule.



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