Am I the asshole? >Wife out of the blue implies that we are going to house her mentally disabled brother who lives in another state>Didn't even ask me, just implied that it's just a thing that's gonna happen>She's tried to imply that before but every time I calmly turn it down>As the oldest sibling, she was put into an adult position and tasked with taking care of her younger brothers>Her mom was abusive, kicked her out but treat her brothers like gold and they both still live with her mom>Her mother probably isn't gonna die for another 30 years>But somehow my wife thinks it's her responsibility to take him in at some point from an entirely different state despite the fact that he has a better support system than her and that there are assisted living communities and programs for adults with mental disabilities>She said some dumb shit like "I wish I knew this before we got married" and I threw that line right back at her because just expecting your husband to take care of a disabled person when you guys haven't even made up your mind about kids yet is extremely weird>She's suddenly quiet for the rest of the night despite yapping my ear off beforeShe has a weird mother complex over her brothers but I'm trying to let her know that they're not her responsibility.
>>33835661>Am I the asshole?ywnbah clanker
>She's suddenly quiet for the rest of the night despite yapping my ear off beforeThat's because you beat her in the argument and now she doesn't know what comeback to use
>>33835661No one's the asshole. It's just a shitty situation. I think you should stand your grand, but do so gently.Yes, it could jeopardize your marriage. But if this guy moves in with you, things will just go from bad to worse because you won't be able to conceal your resentment.
>>33835661Wow. I never thought I'd find Ronald McDonald cute.
>>33835661I'd understand if her mother died and her brothers were going to be put in the system but if they're fine where they are then she's just being weird about it. imo you need to talk about it more with her
>>33835661Hate to break it to you dude but your marriage with your wife is about to be over. Separation at least but divorce most likely. She will not budge and neither should you or you will have to raise retardo for the rest of your life because it will never end until he is no longer alive and you will never be happy again while he still is. Those are the facts. Use logic and not emotion to see things that way.There is no negotiation here either. It's all in or all out. I think you see that but are having a tough time to come to the same conclusion. I'd get a good divorce lawyer now and begin to research how to cover your ass and assets. Or else get books on raising retards.
>>33835661this feels like a fake reddit post, but idk>>33835674i def think the wife would be the asshole, unless you apply the logic that "men are simple creatures who only want food and sex" (which moids say all the time) and conclude that she's in the right bc shes not depriving him of either
