I’m a 24M from Eastern Europe. I recently “broke up” with my girlfriend of four years, my first relationship. It was mutual.My reasons: she didn’t want to work on the relationship and wasn’t sure about kids.Her reasons: she fell out of love, wants to live alone, isn’t sure she wants kids, and doesn’t feel ready for companionship.Even though we broke up, we still live together and act like a couple in front of everyone. It’s been this way since August. She hadn’t found an apartment before, and we wanted to enjoy the summer together — festivals, friends, etc. We still get along well.We rarely talk about the breakup. When we don’t, I’m fine; when we do, it hurts. From how she speaks, I know she’s already moved on. She’s now found her own place and has started paying rent.Recently, our landlord told me he’s selling the apartment and offered it to us at a discount since we’ve taken good care of it. I really like it, so I agreed and started the mortgage process. I plan to buy it under my name.The landlord assumes he’ll be selling it to both of us, but she’s moving out soon. She’s willing to stay until I finalize the mortgage, yet hearing her talk about decorating her new place makes me sad.Now I’m torn — should I take the risk, let her go, and hope the landlord still sells the apartment to me alone? Or should I focus on accepting that she’s moved on, that she’ll leave, and just wait for the process to finish?We’re still intimate, and I’d like to stay friends since we share the same university friend group and usually spend holidays like Christmas and Easter together. But I honestly don’t know how I’ll feel once she’s finally gone.
Also my birthday is coming up and idk if I want to celebrate it with both of our families together, they don't know yet but i think, I would not enjoy it alot and I have selfish reasons for this (hoping I get gifted money for mortgage). And we don't really plan on telling them because I think it will be akward that we are still living together while everyone knows that we broke up.
you're a fucking idiot for staying this long.Tell the cunt to get the fuck out and buy the place, or YOU move out ASAP
>>33835703You need to get out and move on. The apartment is a good deal but it's got a lot of memories you don't need to wallow in. Move out. Move on. Women move on mentally before they express it in words. She's already at least a few months ahead of you, if not more, in the breakup and how she's processing it. You have no option but to accept it anon. Stop being intimate. Move out. Deal with other women. There isn't anything your ex did that a new girl can't do better.
you were up late.
>>33835703>We’re still intimate, and I’d like to stay friendsNot possible. Sex her or treat her like an asexual thing.
Bump
>>33836899>>33837007Since it was my first long relationship I thought she was the one, and I won't find anyone like her so at first it is hard to accept it.I will still go for the apartment and I guess redesign it since I have a very good deal on it and see it as an investment opportunity that I don't want to miss. I will tell her to move out ASAP and prepare to live alone for the first time in my life. Currently planning to keep myself as busy as i can.thanks anons
