Why do some people tell me to "be open with your feelings and tell her how you feel" then on the complete other side, people tell me "dont tell her how you feel, act strictly business" like what the fuck. I always hear stories where the moment the guy "opens up" is the exact moment the girl leaves because she now sees him as weak and pathetic. And also where that same action makes the women actually fall in love and live happily ever after. Wtf. Which one is it?
it really depends on the woman but not opening up is the safer bet for the majority of them
Both.You're going to have to give individual cases and not this general bs
>>33838429Both are somewhat correct, the answer is more nuanced.You need to treat women as mental children. You wouldn't vent to your children about things like bills and how you hate you job because one, they can't do anything about it, and two, this would put fear in their minds that you can't take care of them.At the same time, you should totally open yourself to your partners about your feelings, specially about the relationship. If you think your wife is not putting effort into the relationship you should totally voice your concerns and reach a solution.>In short, it's totally okay to talk to your partner about your feelings, as long as you act like a man where it matters.
>>33838429the only thing I have to open up about is how badly I'm doing with women. If I do well with a lady, I have no reason to tell her how bad I'm doing with ladies, because I'm doing well with her.Other than this I have no burning issues on my mind. idk what you people "open up" about, but I just want love and to be able to share my feelings that's all.I know why you're getting conflicting advice - It's because of different attachment styles.the avoidant girls who don't like commitment don't want to get involved too deepthe committed/safe/anxious attachment style girls range between not minding commitment and absolutely loving it.So dudes, same thing, they have their own attachment styles, plus some have developed a taste for a specific attachment style..So the ones who tell you to not open up are going after avoidant girls, which is also the safe option because every girl is really avoidant to begin with before she falls for you. And the ones who tell you to open up probably got with a loving, anxious/safe attachment style girl, so that one won't leave regardless.But yeah, you need to be hot for a girl to make her intentions clear to begin with. Then you don't need to play this game, I WANT TO BE HOT ALREADY
>>33838481>Simply gaslight them
