So I moved in with my gf with her MIL because she needs help around the house, and in doing so she has been hanging out with her best friend more often. Now, this isn't a bad thing if her friend, and to some degree the friend group the best friend is a part of, wasn't filled with weed smoking immature teens and college kids. Every time her mom wants her to help do something, or I want to spend time with her she always puts us on the backburner to be with this group of people. I remember one time I brought up one day moving to the town over to start a family, her response was, and I shit you not, "I wouldn't want to be too far from my friends". So I think her best friend has brain rotted and manipulated her into larping like tweens or some shit when they are both 27. My gf hasn't been able to hold a job, always wants to go out all the time, and just recently one of the friends almost died taking laced pills, because everyone else was so drunk they couldn't call the EMT on time. Her own mom and I have voiced are concern and she almost broke up with me over it. The worst part is I bought a fucking engagement ring, and I was planning on proposing after 7 years( I know it's a long time, but we were both trying to save up to at least be able to afford kids). Is there any way to salvage our relationship?
>>33840205Have you had a serious conversation about it with her and/or her mother? It might be worth sitting her down and having a heart to heart, and if she refuses to see reason then you have your answer. I would be careful how you frame stuff to her, but think if she is immature now why would you want to start a family with her? Would you trust her around the kids alone? You already made a mistake living in sin with her for so long, you should analyze everything and decide if that is what best for you and if you are happy with your relationship and life
>>33840205>27>cant hold a job>lives with her mother>hangs out with teenagerswhy the fuck would you buy a ring!?
>>33840244>>33840547When we lived in another state she had her shit together, and I taught her at a young age how to be responsible. The minute we come here it feels like the best friend just made her turn to a life of being a loser in an instant. If her mom wasn't whining about having her come here to care and spend time with her, because she was lonely, we wouldn't be in this rut.
>>33840598>easily influenced people are easily influencedGo for someone who's inherently good rather than willing to act good to impress you next time.
>>33840609So there's no way to salvage this?
