Hi guys, not sure if this is the place for it, but I'm in a strange point in my life and I could use some 3rd party input.Anyways - my wife, with whom I have a small daughter with divorced me about a year ago, monkey branching to some trashy guy that immediately impregnated her, then disappeared throughout the duration of the pregnancy, so then I supported her in some lower effort ways, partially out of pity and some lingering sympathy, but mostly because I find that to be best for our daughter if we get along and so on, and also it was the easiest/lowest friction way to go about things. Then she gave birth to that offshoot child and the trashy guy suddenly teleported back and my presence was no longer necessary and suddenly they're a couple again (which is wild to me personally but whatever lol). In part a relief, in part a bit melancholy, but mainly a worry because I want to minimize that sleazebag's interaction with my daughter as that is *not* a good guy by any stretch of the imagination (I can add more details in another post if anyone cares).So with that lil' story out of the way, I'm left with a somewhat dual challenge:1) Best, most tactical way to protect my daughter in this situation as much as I possibly can. since the law sure as hell isn't going to protect her, even if it likes to pretend to be pro-children.2) The part I didn't mention as much - keeping my own spirits and morale high. I've become a gamer again (going through Dark Souls series atm, definitely a good cheer-up), a bit more active in my work, but lackluster social life, not that I have a lot of physical or spiritual energy for it (and as for the topic of women, I can't even imagine ever going on a date ever again, let alone get a girlfriend as the betrayal was too scarring), but to not drown in my shitty personal life, I feel like I need friends more than I used to. Maybe a multiplayer game, but I gotta say I've not felt a calling/draw towards one in about a decade or so.
Bump hump chump. Bamp it for the americanas here. Perhaps not a topic anyone can particularly help with as I'm probably on the more life-expeirenced/older side of this board, but hey, gotta throw shit everywhere until something sticks.
>>33840467Could have used a lot less words but I'll paraphrase this.>Single father >Shitty whore mother >Only care about my daughter and her health at this point >Mother gets with some burnout deadbeat faggot You caught my attention with the Dark Souls 2 screenshot. But let me answer your question. What you want to do is form a bond so strong with your daughter that she herself wants to minimize interaction with them and maximize interaction with you. Meaning you'll play games she has an interest in. Do activities she loves to do. Give her everything she wants. She will end up spoiled, loved. Risk everything for her. Say that people like her father in law are bad luck. Don't force it but suggest it. Shit like that.
>>33840467Gather evidence about the guy assuming he will still be with her, present it, win majority custody.The "men can't win custody" is a sad trope and the only reason why men tend to not have majority or full custody is because men don't care to ask for it, 99% of men prefer the woman to keep the child most of the time, in the case of a divorce.>t. had a single dad and he got custody easily
Hey, I appreciate the replies>>33840977Yeah I'm wordy like that, good paraphrasing though. Glad you appreciate the DS2 screenshot heh, Fromsoft's games are my oasis of peace these days. Anyway, I think like that too - forming a bond with my kid that knows no comparison, but I do lose confidence about it sometimes, maybe some insecurity because of the situation/dynamic, which is also why I need to really work on keeping my morale as consistently as possible.>>33841116Evidence is the tricky part, and I'm not sure I'll gather enough (or convincing enough) evidence to make sure I win majority custody. There's dirty on both sides, but not the kind the courts would care about much. I did have a talk with a government official advisor person specializing in these disputes and it seems like here it would likely come down to where the child itself would be most comfortable living in and at that age it's obviously where she's lived the most, and is used to - with mom. She's not a bad mother, but the choices she's made have been destructive to everyone, especially the child.My hope is that the deadbeat fucks off again, or gets lets pushy and just takes his kid with himself but that won't happen that soon anyway. Time will tell with these things, but yeah, it's not a fun time currently.
