Five years ago, during the quarantine, my wife and got into the child free lifestyle and we decided we wouldn't have children. She even pushed me to get a vasectomy, claiming we could have raw sex without condoms or birth control mentioning the pill was hurting her health.Well, two months ago she turned 36, and out of the blue, five days ago, she asked me for a divorce. She claims she realized she wants children, and after thinking about it, she realized I could never give her one. She doesn't want to lose anymore time.My vasectomy is irreversible at this point (too much time has passed) When I reminded her of all the times we promised to support each other through tough times, she just said two phrases that stuck in my head.1. "I didn't love you as much as I thought I did."2. "When reality comes in through the window, love goes out the door.I told her the vasectomy was her idea, but all she said was that she takes responsibility and will ask for nothing in the divorce. (Which is funny, because everything is mine.) She had nothing before marrying me, and her idea of apologizing is not stealing what was already mine? I'm fucked guys. Im fucked and i cannot turn back time. WHAT CAN I DO? There is no way around it. I effectively castrated myself and now my testicles are atrophied. Im still a man at this point? My wife left me. I will end my days alone. Im truly alone.
well, if she’s 36 and decides she wants children with someone else —- she’s probably cheating on you because her chances of landing someone who also wants kids that late in life are pretty slim. Most men would just go for a younger woman. that or this story is rage bait.
>>33842770well, you got yourself cucked son. i never would've done a vasectomy.however, it's not over. here's what you do: 1. hire a lawyer immediately. dont trust that she will try to take nothing. shes already backstabbed you and twisted the knife. get your lawyer immediately on top of this shit. 2. keep living life, realize that stuff can still be fun without her, and nurture a healthy spite for this stupid whore who tricked you into doing some bullshit. Fuck around with other women, and hit the gym a lot to keep your virility high.3. Next time, have your lawyer draft a prenuptial agreement with your potential next wife, so that the marriage and potential divorce would be entirely on your terms. Alternatively, just dont marry and enjoy long term girlfriends.4. If you want to have kids, just use IVF. you can still have kids that are genetically and biologically yours with this method after the vasectomy.
Sorry Anonon the brightside I’m sure at least 5 people will read this thread and now never make the same mistake themselvesI’m one of them
>>33842770> She had nothing before marrying me, and her idea of apologizing is not stealing what was already mine?According to the law, half of everything you own became hers the minute you married her. You should still get a lawyer but if she really doesn’t ask for anything then she is being quite generous.
>>33842770Ya know when we are growing up they propagandize us with forever after love. In truth no one can promise love forever because it's a feeling (perhaps it will, perhaps it won't).>I effectively castrated myself and now my testicles are atrophied. Im still a man at this point?Yes, you're still a man and the fact you did it means you were okay with not having children. A man is more than a ball sack. >I will end my days alone. Im truly alone.Better alone then with someone who doesn't love you and would grow to resent you. You're probably not gonna die alone, plenty of divorcees, plenty of people who don't want kids, plenty of people who already all the kids they want. You probably have friends and honestly they're probably more loyal, supportive, and long lasting than your ex.
