>>33842877
also plz respond I made like 3x posts about this, about a month ago and didn't get any responses, it's really the only issue i'm having currently. Like me and this person been seeing each other, for a while, we've done physical stuff, but i want to develop more vulnerability for more emotional intimacy.

>>33842884
Why the fuck would you want that?

>>33842893
to feel loved?

>>33842898
Get out of your feelings.

>>33842900
well, if we didn't have feelings, there would be no reason to do anything.

>>33842877
>How do I open up?
Why someone asked.
>>33842898
To feel loved

Okay. Love isn't something someone else makes you feel. Love is something that you generate on your own (loving yourself) and you *share* love with someone else. Yes, you can love others and that's a good thing when it's reciprocated. But external love alone can never fill your cup. Doing that only makes you dependent on someone else and susceptible to manipulation and mistreatment.

If you want to truly feel love, you have to learn to love yourself first. Why should someone else love you if even *you* don't? Why should anyone care about you more than you care about yourself? Love comes from within. You apply it to yourself and once you're content, you can share it outwards to others.

>>33842953
how does this apply to opening up/allowing people to open up to you?

>>33843382
It doesn't. You're only trying to open up so you can feel love in return. And I'm telling you that you must feel love from *yourself* first. Otherwise you're just building a dependency on a person who isn't necessarily there long-term. What are you going to do if/when they're gone? You used them to feel love and now you're empty. So it was all pointless. Or, you could build the foundation properly and let everything else happen naturally. You won't feel the pressure to "open up more" or force them to make you feel something because you already have it. You can just let the relationship go where it's going to go.

>>33842877
Don't.