Do you have to have friends in order to get a girlfriend? I hear girls see lack of friends as a red flag
>>33842987Makes things easier but it's not a requisite.
Yes you kinda do. You have to be this guy everyone wants at a party.
>>33842987You need some evidence of high social status relative to her. If you have no friends but you're a multi-millionaire who attends the sort of high society social functions that gets your photograph on the local newspaper's website and you are acclaimed as one of your city's "most eligible bachelors", then that's fine too.
>>33842987if you're not a special outlier in another area (looks, money, etc.) you definitely do
having no friends is sadly a red flag, doubly so if you're a virgin, as it's an indicator of low social status. w*men want to keep their options open, they want to know that if things fall apart with you, they'll still be able to fuck your friends and gain status that way, instead of falling back to the bottom of the social hierarchy
>>33842987Yes. Having friends tells their brain you're normal and gives them the green light. If you don't have friends, it triggers some evolutionary danger-calculating mechanism in their brain telling them "hmmm, something's odd here... better stay away". If your friends are good-looking or you're seen talking with good-looking people then you'll be greenlit faster. You could make fake chad social media profiles and leave comments on your real profile. So when she stalks your profile, she'll have the impression you're "approved" by normal people so you'll get her greenlight. Also, this works too if she sees you talking to other women. It tells their brain "oh, this guy is safe because these girls feel safe talking to him", so you'll get greenlit. And once again, the better looking the people you talk to, the stronger the greenlight. Inversely so, if she sees you hanging out with weirdos, you're gonna get redflagged.
not op but how do I make friends? I live in a big city so I assume it's not as important for dating but still feel not having any 'im not a weird loner' pictures is damaging me. Even if I removed the loner part from being weird would be an improvement right?
>>33845006If you have to ask how to make friends, it's kinda over already. Normal people make friends naturally. If you haven't been able to make friends naturally (and in a big city at that), then something is obviously wrong with you and women are 100% right for having their redflag sensor go off the charts when they see you. Understand that it's not quite possible to outplay a hundreds of thousands year old evolutionary mechanism honed for danger-detection and survival.
>>33845116>something is obviously wrong with you yeah no shit and I asked how I can improve if you don't know just say man
Ignore this amateur evolutionary biologist doomer >>33845116>>33845006You can get friends by simply finding new hobbies or doing volunteer work. It’s normal to be isolated in today’s society, and getting new friends requires conscious effort for some people.Yeah, not having friends will set off wahmen’s red flag detectors, but it’s not because of evolutionary biology bullshit. Wahmen are just vain NPC who care overly much about social status. They want to have an “out” in case they decide they don’t like you, they can simply resort to fucking your friends.Wahmen are best understood as vain whores, not evolutionarily honed geniuses of human intuition or whatever bullshit that retard believes in. Evolutionary biology is the #1 favorite tool of midwits who think they have everything figured out.
>>33845200I already told you it's not possible. It's not something you can magically fix. It's like missing a limb and asking how to grow it back. Not possible. You were born the way you were born and you give off a repulsive vibe. You could be sitting alone not even talking or doing anything weird and people would still not sit with you just because their brains know you're odd at a glance.
>>33845201>but it’s not because of evolutionary biology bullshit.>proceeds to say why its evolutionary biology what did he mean by this?
>>33845116No, you fool, plenty of “normal” people have to put actual effort into their lives to see results, things don’t “just happen” for the vast majority of people, especially men. The most social people I know go around talking to anyone about pretty much anything. They get rejected and fail same as you or me, hell they get rejected more just based on sheer volume of attempts. This modern idea of “talent” is why we have so few great writers, artists, and all of our “philosophers” are useless grifters. You get out of life what you put in. It’s not all luck and there are things you can do to put your thumb on the scale. What you are spreading is a lie made up by successful people to keep you unsuccessful.People like op got fucked hard by life and are now trying to recover from a life of negative reinforcement. He can get his act together if he tries, the brain is adaptable. Don’t tell him “it’s over” just because he’s new to the controls.
>>33846569Dude, stop it with your "positive thinking" bullshit. You're the one who's spreading lies and parroting crap you've read from self-help book. You can only preach, because you haven't "made it" (and never will) since those books are nothing more than bunkum and balkerdash.
>>33846723 I never said op could “make it,” you did. There is no “making it” in life, that’s a made up concept by internet dwellers that is completely at odds with reality. Op wants to reach a goal, I’m saying he can if he tries, that’s not “making it,” that’s dealing with more life circumstances. If this thread was about op learning to drive, he wouldn’t “make it” if he got his license, it would just be another experience and circumstance in his life. If you want to go live in the woods and rob people for a living then that’s what you want to do. If you want to become ultra rich and live in a mansion then that’s what you want to do. Neither of these are “making it,” they are just differing ways of living with different avenues for achieving the goal.You only think in terms of “win or lose” and that’s why you “lose”, your attachment to the outcome and you attachment to life circumstances of yourself and others is why you are stuck. You need to let it go and be free.
>>33845116Not at all, a surprising amount of normal people don't have many friends. It also becomes very difficult to make new friends as you age. Lots of normalfags lose their friends to their friends moving away, getting married and having less time, accidents, drugs, etc.Very few people are gregarious enough to effortlessly make friends in new social situations, typically it's an uphill climb.
>>33846794>>33846853Stop samefagging. It won't make your shit advice any better. Here, I'll do it for you to save you time... OP, everything is possible. Just write your objective on a paper everyday and visualize it! You can manifest anything with positive thinking! Trust me, I've read my fair share of motivational self-improvement books and watched plenty of AI-generated clickbait Youtube shorts telling me I can manifest anything using some mystical energy from the universe! Are you 55 and illiterate but want to work as an engineer for NASA? No problem! It's never too late to flip the switch and overcome your current life circumstances! Just think hard about it and it will become your new reality! If it doesn't work, then you just weren't visualizing hard enough. It's totally not the fault of my self-help guru authors with their fairytale advice. No no.
>>33846932What does this have to do with making friends? Did you try to talk to people? All of that self help shit will tell you that you have to actually go out and do it, less thinking more doing.
>>33842987>to get a girlfriendno not really, you can easily go on a bunch of dates which are usually often done with just 2 people anyways and then just escalate that to spending time at her or your place and having crazy mad sex all the time.but then over time as like someone's birthday or a Christmas or something passes she's gonna want for you to spend time with her friends and/or for her to spend time with yours.Even having a few awkward dudes as friends is better than nothing.
it's good to1. have ppl to spend time with other than your gf2. demonstrate that you're a decently adjusted person.as a non transgender female.
