>literally every single "meet real people in the world" thread
>waaah i can't make friends with ethnics
>waaah i can't make friends with nerds
>waaah i can't make friends with boomers

there's no club in the world that's just going to be Perfect Blonde Stacies ready for you to date who won't find it weird you're joining the club for that, hate to tell you. even millionaire Chads have to schmooze and network people that are suboptimal to their preferences to sustain their status

tuffin up princess

>>33851859
That's how I fucking know you have room temperature IQ.
You filter by in-person events to avoid all the online bullshit, first of all.
Second, you don't worry about Rajesh, a lot of these events have Rajeshs and Hamids in the sign ups, but when you go to the actual event - the people who show up are the people who live in the area.
So, I live in the Netherlands, and even I go to events that have Abdul and Aakash I end up seeing none or 1 of them, because many people attend that don't bother to sign up on meetup anymore. Lots of times people just come because they know each other.
Meetup is the catalyst, it is the gateway. Past meetup people communicate in their WhatsApp groups, signal, telegram, discord, Facebook, texting, real life, whatever else they have.

You're writing off what could be an amazing start for you because of some perceived difficulty. Truth is you're just looking for an excuse to stay a lame whiny bitch. Enjoy it

t. Guy who turned his life around in the past 7 months and now has friends, and it all started on meetup

>>33851859
>>bro just go to meetup.com bro please
no one has ever said this

>>33851898
Any other advice other than just show up?
Ive had an account on meetup for like 8b yrs and never had the balls to go to an event. Ive gone to other social type events and spots leagues but its usually all super nerdy types and im not really much of a nerd desu.

Its usually always transplants and i feel like an extra loser trying to make friends.

Toastmasters

>>33851859
any event where the people who shop up have
>making friends
as their primary objective will invariably filled with losers
do you see why?

>>33852054
Not him, but there are other places than meetups. In Germany, we have Volkshochschule (Adult Education Center) with courses in music, dancing, cooking, langauges. There are various language exchange options. There are private sports and fitness clubs. You most likely want to check out ones with group exercises where you are encouraged to help/spot each other like crossfit. Universities have programs for student activities as well. There are one-time-events like concerts, conventions (for hackers like CCC, for weebs like anime-cons, for literature like author readings in book shops and for film-fans like movie presentations in cinemas, typically some local documentaries)

>>33853511
This is such a strange advice. Most people don't live in Germany.

>>33853511
cont: and there are a bunch of expat bubbles everywhere. Asians have their groups on WeChat, some westerners on Whatsapp or Instagram, in Eastern Europe they use Telegram and Viber. Of course only ask for invite if you belong to any of those.

Then there is Craigslist (USA), Wallapop (Spain), Kleinanzeigen (Germany) where I always revommend to pick up stuff in person, not just to reduce the risk of being scammed but to get in contact with people who might share your hobbies.

>>33853525
Are you stupid? I mentioned only one thing that is specific to Germany and there are equivalents to that in many other countries. Whatever, I am out of here you ungrateful fuck

>>33853534
Go fuck yourself.

>>33851859
>>list of attendants
>>look inside
>>pradesh kumar
>>pajeet singh
>>poojar mutapalli
So, only 3 of them are pajeets? What about the rest of them?

>>33851859
I looked into my local meetup.com events as well because I have no close friends, and holy shit:
>Volleyball (I suck at it)
>Movie Night (not really into that)
>Pilates (I already exercise at the gym)
>Movie Discussion (cringe)
>Wine Tasting (cringe)
>Lunch for singles (honestly, the only interesing one, but it has only 2 confirmed attendees and they're both men)
>Language Exchange (they don't even live here)
>Pub Crawl (I don't fucking drink)
>Hiking (I hate hiking)
>Yoga (lame)
>Bouldering (honestly, sounds interesting)
>City Tours (interesting too, as I barely leave the house)
>
Honestly, it all sounds raeally fucking lame and probably mostly only losers will be there, but... It beats being stuck at home, right?

>>33851859
Classes.
Especially language classes. You're forced to talk in there for conversation practice.

I personally think toastmasters is too cult-ish and slimy.

And avoid the typical reddit's advice to meet girls. Meetup.com, sports climbing, dancing, yoga, etc. If you're ugly and socially awkward, and pajeet on top of that, they'll correctly assume you're a creep.

Now quit 4chan, and make friends.

I joined a bunch of hiking groups and it’s all old people. They were nice but also I want to meet a girlfriend

>>33854327
Lol. Should have joined such things in university lol. My college’s hiking groups had a lot of girls.

But hiking is common enough activity. Make some young friends, organize a hiking trip. Or get invited to one. My experience anyways.

>>33854339
Yeah I fucked up university social life cause I was stressed and depressed and now I’m unc status and still single. What the fuck do late 20s people even do

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>>33853935
don't go to the gym, go to pilates instead, problem wasn't

>>33854068
>avoid the typical reddit's advice to meet girls
What's the typical Reddit advice to meet girls?

>>33854526
>problem wasn't
What?
And what's with that picture?

>>33854578
Salsa dance class.

>>33854654
Oh okay. Well I've been to a dancing class one and I sucked and didn't like it anyway.

>>33854526
>ESL

yeah, thats globalism 4 ya
we tried to warn you of the yews and the consequences if you lsiten to what they say
now you have to live with literal foreigners in ur own city/country ect

>>33851859
One fifth of world population are Akjeets, deal with it, Timmoid.

>>33852054
I think other people covered it pretty much
the reason I said just show up is because brother, I don't know what you're interested in, I have 0 fucking idea.
All I know is that you have to go and do it. Whatever "IT" is, you can figure it out you're a big boy.
And to all the anons who are like "buhhh but It's going to suck buhhh I will be an outcast buhhh I'm ugly they will think I'm a creep"
brother.
you're you
you might have your downsides and your upsides but EVERYONE has their upsides and their downsides.
When you go to these events - you can SEE people with downsides and with upsides. Not everyone who show up are fucking perfect specimen, they are also people. With varying levels of beauty, wealth, different stories, different backgrounds.
Stop fearing the stacy and the chad because the people who go to hiking meetups for example - are just normal people. The people who go dancing - just normal people.
There's a WIDE selection of personalities, looks, ages, life phases.
if you don't go - you're shooting yourself in the foot
don't fucking worry about pajesh and kumar and whatever the fuck else, live your life you stupid fucking amerimutt piece of shit and don't you dare be rude to my German brother you insolent cunt, he gave you good advice you mutt

>>33858655
What about a meetup where only white folks are at? And actiely reject Ranjeet and Muhamed?

>>33851883
it's spelled "toughen", ESL.

>>33851978
>no one has ever said this
I have seen it on this board

>>33851859
>>bro just go to meetup.com bro please
I am with you OP fuck that site. I look and it's like meet to take a walk with us $4 fee. Learn how to make sushi $45 fee. Go see our band. It's like 90% people trying to promote their paid events.

>>33854654
>got to dance class
>everyone choose a partner
>look around only one left standing alone.
>oops odd number of people have a refund anon.

>>33859447
>meetup
literally a case of
>why is this so expensive and shitt but it use to be free and awesome!
>not sorry - new management

>>33859715
This never happened btw

>>33851859
i dont know where the meetup meme came from. ive checked it out multiple times in the past decade and a good 80% of the posts have been literal cults trying to recruit new victims. and yes, i live in a big city, not some flyover place.

>>33860013
But have you ever attended one of them?

>>33860062
i did attend 1 cult recruitment event only because it was one of the few listings that was advertised as a real hobby event and not some spirituality cult thing, but towards the end they started speaking about their cult and wanted my contact info.
no i dont want to attend cult recruitment events.

>>33859942
your right they didn't offer a refund.

>>33860088
I think you're confusing an actual cult with a club or something (like a chess club)

>>33860139
no, it was a cult that portrayed itself as a hobby group and when i went there they started talking about demons towards the end of it and saying i need to be saved. that's a cult. not a chess club you fucking retard.

>>33860232
I suppose anyone could also start their own chess group on there and then be the cult leader rather than join a preexisting cult that would be a better position to be in

>>33860232
Why not make your own cult? Or do you need to be saved?

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>>33853935
>Bouldering (honestly, sounds interesting
It really does

>>33860970
Have you tried it before?

>>33860999
I want to. Theres a park near me with a climbing wall and some ruins of a factory. I may tried to free climb whatever I can. No gear besides hoka hiking shoes.

>>33859430
That should have given you pause because there are a lot of Indians on 4chan...

Every library event I've been to is old white people and socially anxious 16-25 year old women. I feel like everybody is ignoring this as a possible avenue for meeting people, especially since
1. Everyone seems to want to meet these chicks
2. Old people kick ass and are good friends to have, plus a lot of them are weird in similar ways to anons

>>33860970
rock climbing owns but don't come to my gym it's fucking crowded enough already

>>33851859
Meetup is terrible
It’s a last resort to potentially find a diamond in the rough

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>>33854654

>>33862117
>remember to shower before
I walked by a dance studio one night heading home from the gym, looked inside and it was all white women an Indian men haha
>>33861618
>library event
What is this exactly

>>33862138
>all white women an Indian men haha
Same experience. Grim.

>>33862138
>What is this exactly
Literally anything and everything. Writer's groups, book clubs, gardening clubs, TV and Movie screenings, business meetups, jigsaw puzzle gatherings, board and card game sessions, etc.

>>33862138
How many Indians do you think get laid over white/asian guys just because they have no shame and will rock up to literally any event and hit on any female with a pulse

>>33862177
All of them. Rape is always an option.

I literally feel like I’m going to have a panic attack I feel like it’s over for me it’s only a matter of time before I age and get even uglier, I need to find a wife but I’m so hopeless I’ve gone to meetups and nothing has panned out. I’m literally having trouble breathing

>>33862225
Make some money and see a therapist?

>>33862248
therapists don’t help at all because they can’t give you any real world advice

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>>33860970
>>33861029
It is fun, but I don't think any gyms nearby have a climbing wall and the closest one is at a small amusement park about 20 miles away, which only has one or two different difficulties. Pic related.

>>33861618
>>33862170
I went to a local library to study and it seemed dead. It even seemed to have fewer books, but more movies, games, and graphic novels.

>>33862457
When did you go? They'll usually have a calendar of upcoming events, and they also usually keep the lighter fare and entertainment near the front. The dewey decimal system coded stuff is often further in the back.
If you wanted a book they don't have, you can get an inter-library loan. They'll usually buy it too if they can't loan it that way.

>>33862482
Around 3. Looking at their schedule, most activities are in the morning and for kids.
Another library has similar a schedule with monthly gardening and book club. Those seem interesting and I could go to before or after class.

>>33860013
It might have been me, I made several threads and replied telling people to go to meetups, but definitely not as a cult member or paid by meetup, but because it actually worked for me, I see people like >>33862093 this guy treating it like it's supposed to be a one stop shop solution. NOTHING is a one stop shop solution. But it's a damn fucking good way to start. It's a start, that's what it is. I got to go out of my house, see nature, see people, enjoy myself with total strangers. I learned to trust more, in people that I didn't know before. I used to be the type of guy to make assumptions about others, like if you sit next to me on the train and talk on the phone I want you gone, you're horrible, the universe sucks and billions must die
Now I'm so chill, I'm unbothered not even meme-ing, I'm unbothered moisturized and in my lane.

It looked like this:
March until July - started going to meetup events, opened up
May till August- started making friends from those meetups, met them outside of events
August till now - signed up to actual hobbies, nearly stopped going to meetups, maybe 3-4 a month.

So you see, meetup was the START for me, I was an absolute CHUD, and then things just started working out as I became less and less autistic BECAUSE I LEARNED how to be comfortable in outside environments with strangers, and I learned to trust in myself and know that I will ALWAYS have fun and be safe BECAUSE I'M THERE, AND I TRUST IN ME.

And now my next goal is to make my hobbies closer to my school - I meet a lot of people every week. But some of them are older, I am a student, so I want to studentmaxx and be around people in the same life phase as me. It makes me feel much more alive and it gives me real chance to meet a good gf.

You all fucking got this, just take the first step and don't be retarded anxious and scared and making excuses

And before you assume I'm a shill - I never paid for meetup, it's way too expensive and u can use it for free just fine

>>33851883
>>waaah i can't make friends with ethnics
The thing is i don't want friends with unwashed animals, especially with coprophilic jeets.

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>>33851883
Getting told to touch grass then when you go out and actually touch grass the only finding the elderly and jobless browns is enough to make a nigga crash out and neck himself

>>33853935
>>Volleyball (I suck at it)
>>Movie Night (not really into that)
>>Movie Discussion (cringe)
>>Lunch for singles (honestly, the only interesing one, but it has only 2 confirmed attendees and they're both men)
>>Language Exchange (they don't even live here)
>>Hiking (I hate hiking)
I think I found the problem; you're a fucking lame ass piece of shit. If team sports and chatting about art with people in your demographic upsets you then you have no hope of finding anyone, ever. You may as well just lock in to whatever algoslop rabbithole you're already in and accelerate your own personal collapse.

>>33854327
Those old people would introduce you to their grand daughters if the knew you were single and looking and not a total git.

>>33851859
Try eventbrite. It is for paid events but you meet better quality people.
I used to go to events at other universities and pretend to be a student there, lol. This was all in good fun.

>>33862989
Hey man, thanks for your post, it gave me hope

>>33858676
he was doing a joke spelling, projecting ESL

>>33863780
I'm happy to hear brother, you got this
The ones of us who try are going to make it

>>33862093
So what do you suggest then? Any better ideas, hm?

>>33863728
kek, so what, I'm just supposed to go to those events knowing I will dislike the activities of?

>>33864223
If you dislike the foundations of human interaction in general, you won't like any activities and will continue acting like you don't know this and blaming your social failings on everyone else. You're straight up anti-social and yet still trying to socialize. Work on whatever clusterfuck of a disorganized attachment style you have going on before you try to meet anyone.

>>33864323
You're right anon, I actually fucking despise humans. I've learned it the hard way. Their shallowness and evilness. But my reptilian brain still wants to be social.
>clusterfuck of a disorganized attachment style you have going on
I always just blamed it on my slight "autism"
The human race is irredeemable anyway. I really can't stand to be around people, it's true! I admit it! All they have brought me is pain and suffering. What other conclusion can I come up with?

>>33860232
>talking about demons
very coool anon! i too would like to discuss the metaphysical ramifictions of having business, for example with some Goetian nobility!
but more in a discussion with tea and crackers way

>>33864633
What?

>>33864635
what what?