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I'm not ugly, I'm not fat, I'm not short, I don't hate women, I have hobbies, I can hold a conversation, I'm not shy or unconfident (I actually get told I'm charismatic?), I don't have social anxiety, I'm not porn addicted (don't even watch it). I'm on this site so clearly there's something wrong with me, but everyone I meet here tells me I have a good mix of normie social skills and imageboard retardation
So I guess I'm "likeable", just not in a romantic sense. I've never received any attention from women, and yes, I've actually tried to talk to them. The closest I've come to being liked is getting used for attention by women with BPD lol. I'm approaching my mid 20s and I'm still a khhv
I don't want to sound like a schizo, but I'm starting to think that there's some kind of masculine "essence" that I simply don't have
idk bros, diagnose me I guess
and happy friday
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Cause you're not handsome
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>>33852830
rate threads say I'm a 6-6.5/10
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You started with a list of things that you're not instead of showing off what you have.

You're like one of those harmless onions/metro types right?

>don't watch porn
Lack of interest is actually unappealing. You're supposed to watch and lie that you don't. She's supposed to pertend to believe you.
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Have you ever asked a girl out?
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>>33852830
>Cause you're not handsome
Stop projecting.
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>>33852984
thanks for the response
>You started with a list of things that you're not instead of showing off what you have
didn't want to doxx myself. I have some cool hobbies, and I get told I have a good personality, apparently just not in in a romantic/sexual way
>You're like one of those harmless onions/metro types right?
I'm not a onions yes man. I don't agree with everything a woman says, and I can tease and all that
>Lack of interest is actually unappealing
every time I've been talking to a woman and the fact that I don't watch porn has come up, the response had been good
If the concern is that I'm a sexless eunuch or whatever, I'm not. I'm horny pretty much 24/7 lol. And I don't act neutered when talking to women either
you've seen a good chunk of my writing now, does anything stand out as faggy/annoying? (serious question)
and thanks again for responding

>>33853015
>Have you ever asked a girl out?
yeah. And I've no joke spent hundreds of hours trying to meet women on the internet
>inb4 edating is a waste of time just le go outside
soc works for other guys, so clearly the issue is with me. Plus I have 0 interest in normie women

>>33853067
Stop projecting.
I'm op, this wasn't me
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>>33852814
>I've never received any attention from women
another passive man waiting for signs, as usual
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>>33852840
>rate threads say I'm a 6-6.5/10
That's not high enough anymore
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>>33853478
>another passive man waiting for signs, as usual
no I approach. I'm saying after I approach/get to know women, they still aren't interested

>>33853478
>That's not high enough anymore
yeah I know, life starts at 8. My point is just that I'm not prohibitively ugly
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>>33852814
>I've actually tried to talk to them.
How long have you been trying? I got out of a relationship like a year ago, and it's only recently that I've met a girl I think there's a good chance I'll go on a date with again. For most of that time I was actively trying to meet women.

This stuff takes determination, effort, and time until you get lucky enough to meet someone you like that likes you back.

As for dating app stuff, you gotta remember that the internet is shallow and dehumanizing. Instead of having the chance to use your charisma and be an interesting person, it's almost entirely based off of your looks and photography skills. (And also a sausage party so girls online have lots of options.)
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>>33853438
>I have 0 interest in normie women
what does that mean
in your position you don't get to be picky anyway. adult man with zero relationship experience = red flag in the eyes of many women.
sounds like you need to lower your standards
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>>33853510
>How long have you been trying?
I made edating a full time job for 9 months straight. Like it was legitimately draining how much time I spent talking to women on the internet lol
>it's almost entirely based off of your looks and photography skills
yeah I think you're right. Most of my online dating experience has been with /soc/ though, so I'm not getting filtered based on looks (I don't post face pics).

>>33853553
>in your position you don't get to be picky anyway
it's not even a matter of being picky, I just only feel a connection with other weirdos. Plus I don't even know what I would talk to a normal woman about. I would have to pretend to be a normie myself, which doesn't seem sustainable
>adult man with zero relationship experience = red flag in the eyes of many women
this is more likely to be an issue with normal women than with women on this site, no?
>sounds like you need to lower your standards
I think my standards are pretty reasonable overall. I just want a girlfriend that I can relate to. Plus attraction runs both ways, so I'd imagine that the kind of weirdo woman I'm into would be more into me than a normie woman
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>>33853588
>this is more likely to be an issue with normal women than with women on this site, no?
women who are willing to date men they meet online have so many options you wouldn't believe their standards.

anyway, you have to rethink your whole "weirdos of 4 chan" vs "normies" dichotomy. there are no 2 such groups of people who exclusively date within each other.
see how full time edating on /soc has worked for you. time to switch gears

>I would have to pretend to be a normie myself
you definitely need to try that. fake it til you make it.
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You dont attract them because you are on this site
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>>33853476
If she isn’t giving signs, it’s not worth it, period
If you’re not dealing with high-interest women, all you risk doing is investing in a woman and not getting a crumb of pussy in return
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>>33852814
stop wanking
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>>33852814
>don’t jerk off
>jerk off
>jerk off but not to porn
The truth is that there is no answer here, other than one hasn’t come along yet. If you talk to them and have the majority of your milestones reached, you should be fine unless you’re delusional and you just need patience.

Only real advice is maybe be a bit more assertive, don’t wait to make “friends” with the girls first, if you aren’t doing that already.

Also the throwaway line of “bpd girls using me for attention” is suspicious. I’ve known guys who say stuff like that and it’s incredibly obvious as to why they’re not getting laid. And if you have to ask why…
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>>33852814
>Why don't women like me
>Anime avatar fagging
Gee anon, it's a mystery
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>>33852814
Have you tried being racist?
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>>33853692
>anyway, you have to rethink your whole "weirdos of 4 chan" vs "normies" dichotomy
I get it, it's not a dichotomy. Human personality traits form a multi-dimensional continuum. But at the same time, using imageboards is strongly correlated with certain personality traits that are relatively rare in the general population. Or to put it less autistically, I meet women on this site that I really like, but I never meet women like that in real life (and yes, I got outside).
>see how full time edating on /soc has worked for you. time to switch gears
/soc/ works for some guys though. I know people that have gotten irl gfs and even married off of 4chan. I really do think the issue is with me
>you definitely need to try that. fake it til you make it.
I've actually already tried this, but with platonic friends irl. It doesn't work out well. I got friends, but they were only interested in the fake personality I presented, not in the real me. And I wasn't really interested in them because we had basically nothing in common
the goal is not to get a "a gf, any gf". The goal is to find a woman that I genuinely like, and that genuinely likes me
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>>33853970
>jerk off but not to porn
not sure exactly what you were meant here, but yeah I jerk off, just without any kind of porn
>The truth is that there is no answer here, other than one hasn’t come along yet
I hope this is the answer, but considering the sheer volume of women I've talked to, it makes me think there's something else going on...
>Also the throwaway line of “bpd girls using me for attention” is suspicious. I’ve known guys who say stuff like that and it’s incredibly obvious as to why they’re not getting laid. And if you have to ask why…
I agree with you, I think this might be a clue. Can you elaborate on what you were thinking here?
I feel like usually when guys say stuff like this, the issue is that they act openly onions and let women walk all over them, and that behavior attracts attention whores. But I don't think I act like that
my (schizo) worry is that I'm somehow just a beta fag at my core, and that no amount of developing my confidence or charisma or whatever will change that fact, and that women will detect my beta fag energy and be turned off by it
and this isn't even about being a khhv or whatever. Being a virgin isn't something I'm insecure about. And I've known other khhv guys, and while they might be socially awkward, they still have this "thing", this masculine energy (I sound like a spiritualfag lol) that women are attracted to
I don't know man, what do you think?

>>33854043
>Gee anon, it's a mystery
hoes love anime, get with the times unc

>>33854574
>Have you tried being racist?
I'm medium racist, but not full on chud
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>but I'm starting to think that there's some kind of masculine "essence" that I simply don't have

You're right to think that. You wouldn't start a thread with some troon-tier anime pic if you were 100% man.
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>>33853510
>This stuff takes determination, effort, and time until you get lucky enough to meet someone you like that likes you back.
Meanwhile some dudes pick up 3 girls a day in bus stops or stores to fuck.
I've seen it.
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>>33855681
The first three lines dont mean anything, its just useless internet advice about jerking off, none of it influences your chances of getting girls, not really at least, I'm saying ignore it.

If a girl likes you, she likes you, the fact that you are giving attention to girls with "bpd" (whatever that means) is indicative of a "people pleaser" personality, which is bad for a young man. If a girl asks you to do "favour" for example, don't say yes unless you can imagine yourself doing it for the male version of that person. Growing up girls would ask me to hold their bags and stuff, I learned then that if I said no, they would be more attracted to me. This doesn't mean "be an asshole for no reason," it means stand up for yourself and don't aim to please.

When a girl really likes you and wants to fuck you you will know, hell some are shy and don't even give signals but the moment you ask they're all over you. Basically you want them to at minimum kiss you on the first date, thats where I stop, I'm not a fan of first date sex, but some people wont even proceed in a relationship if they can't fuck on the first date.

Also you should cut out the anime shit ASAP, I've known guys like you and even if you keep that shit on the internet people can tell, they can always tell.
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>>33855832
>making money takes time, effort, and luck
>some people are born rich life ain't fair
I agree, but don't take it personally, get your game up playa
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>>33855895
I've seen literal sewer rats in human form getting pussy
it's all about the mindset

people here are simply to off-center to get pussy
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>>33855884
>The first three lines dont mean anything, its just useless internet advice about jerking off
ahh okay I see what you mean. I agree too
>If a girl likes you, she likes you, the fact that you are giving attention to girls with "bpd" (whatever that means) is indicative of a "people pleaser" personality
yeah I used to be a really bad people pleaser. I'd like to think I'm mostly recovered, but maybe I'm just fooling myself...
another part of the issue is that because I've experienced basically zero romantic interest from women, it can be hard for me to tell the difference between legitimate attention and attention whore baiting. I'm starting to be able to see the patterns, and to be honest, at this point if a girl acts friendly towards me I kind of just assume she only wants me as an orbiter lol
>If a girl asks you to do "favour" for example, don't say yes unless you can imagine yourself doing it for the male version of that person
I like this, I'll start using this. Thanks anon
>Also you should cut out the anime shit ASAP
I appreciate the advice, but no. I love anime and I'm not going to hide it
>I've known guys like you and even if you keep that shit on the internet people can tell, they can always tell
what do you mean by this? Like watching anime infects your personality and makes you unattractive, even if you try to hide your power level?

>>33856008
>people here are simply to off-center to get pussy
yes, this is my fear
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>>33852814
Did you actually go on irl dates or just do online and eventually get ghosted/have the convo peter out? If you want a woman that goes on here you're looking at nerdy sub 5's or severely mentally ill above 5's. I'm a chubby 4 I'd know. How is your texting game? If you're comfortable with it you can upload a vid of you talking to my discord and I can tell you if you just give women the ick, because that's basically all that's left to rule out based on what you've posted. Either that or you're just super unlucky.
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>>33856892
first off, cool pic
>Did you actually go on irl dates or just do online and eventually get ghosted/have the convo peter out?
I've only ever done online stuff, I've never been on an irl date
as far as how things have ended, I've either been ghosted or friendzoned (I don't really like this term, but that's essentially what happens)
>If you want a woman that goes on here you're looking at nerdy sub 5's or severely mentally ill above 5's
yeah, this has been my experience. Nerdy, unconventionally attractive women are my type though
>How is your texting game?
I'm told I come off well over text, but just in a platonic way I guess. I've had women hit me up and want to talk for hours, but nothing ever comes of it
>If you're comfortable with it you can upload a vid of you talking to my discord and I can tell you if you just give women the ick
yeah I'd be comfortable doing this. Also are you a woman? I'm not 100% sure based on your post
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>>33856926
I think I read enough of your stuff.

You're really bland and noncommittal in a weird way.
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>>33856944
>You're really bland and noncommittal in a weird way
I appreciate the feedback. Can you elaborate?
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>>33856949
I used my female emotional sensor and got vibes.
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>>33856959
99% chance this is a larping incel, but thanks for the bump
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>>33856926
Maybe you should consider irl dating, hinge is ok I hear. As for texting you probably need to regularly inject light flirting, it doesn't need to be sexual just nice compliments or comments. Also don't call girls bro or engage in bro coded humor. I can search up examples from my own chats if you want. Yeah I'm a woman picrel womanlet hand.
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>>33856985
>Maybe you should consider irl dating, hinge is ok I hear
I tried it a little bit a few years back, but I didn't really feel a connection with any of the women on there. Also a lot of people on tinder/hinge were just looking for hookups, which isn't something I'm interested in
>As for texting you probably need to regularly inject light flirting, it doesn't need to be sexual just nice compliments or comments
yeah I try to do this, but I'm not sure if I'm doing it correctly. I tell women they're pretty when they send face pics, but idk if that's enough
>Yeah I'm a woman picrel womanlet hand
okay cool. Thanks for responding, it's good to get a woman's perspective
also my discord is so.take.your.gloves.and.get.out, if you still want to do a voice review
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>>33857022
No thats not enough to just call them pretty kek. If they did their makeup you can compliment them on that and say it suits them. Or if youre not sure what to say just say they look very huggable, its calling them cute without being cringe and implying physical intimacy. Sure sent you a friend request.
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>>33857094
thanks, I'll add you
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alright it turns out I just have a faggy voice
thanks for the responses everyone, and enjoy the rest of your weekend
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>>33852814
I think you have the exact same problem as me
I'm not ugly, I'm not fat, I'm not short, I don't hate women, I have hobbies, I can hold a conversation etc.
BUT
I'm autistic. Doesn't really matter much tho in terms of dating because I only plan on dating autistic women
You seem quiet autistic to me by the way you write, I'm just saying
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>>33852814
You've told us all the things you aren't. But what ARE you? What positive attraction do you bring to women?
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>>33858100
>>33858022
guys the thread is over
we figured out the problem



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