>be me 21 woman who lives in suburbs of NY with family>parents always been overprotective when going out>needs to have a friend or a family member with>but wanted me to be independent with by wanting me to have my own car or a part-time job>In college, cant go to rock concerts or some comedy show because my dad said it’s “inappropriate” even though over 18.>Every time when asking parents to go hangout with friends, it’s an interrogation. “Who’s coming? Who’s driving? You know young adults are number 1 victims of car crashes. Dad said “I always jump into things” even though I barely asked him to go outside everyday. >Wanted to hangout with an old friend at the movies on July 4th weekend. Dad said “It’s spur of the moment and it’s dangerous on 4th of July weekend”. >Carpool me to NYC since I needed to go to a college trip and they said “the train is dangerous” It was a test to see if I can go to outside by myself>self sabotage myself because I wanted them to see how “anxious” I am going outside that they took me to a psych doctor >Wanted to go to a free concert with friends, dad said “do you know if he has security? What if someone shoots an open crowd”. Didn’t go because I didn’t get the tickets >Dad told me to talk to people my own age and stop talking to my baby niece. >Now confident in college and making much more new friends.What can I do? Like do I just use his words against himself?
Okay, your parents are too rigidly high middle class in my opinion. You're gonna have to take risks and accept you'll lose some things from those risks. Added what the Hell you can't wander the streets at that age? I was 13 wandering the streets and my parents didn't mind? Your parents are definately way too overprotective.
>>33854134Haha we’re middle class. My parents always said “You can’t be wandering around in the streets, you need to have a reason to go outside”. Then they said how lucky I am because other parents don’t care about their kids and let them wander in the streets. My parents don’t have any hobbies, they just stay home and watch tv. My mom complained about how boring my dad is, just watching tv all day and not going out.
>>33854181Fucking hell playing the damn what if my daughter got raped by a hobo narrative in their head all the time. You need to go out. Spend some time with your girl-friends at a concert or something. Break the rules.
>>33854285What’s funny is that I was followed by a homeless guy at the library with my dad being there.
>>33854120Push boundaries some. Get a job and move out on your own as soon as you can. Your parents sound like mine. My escape was moving to college in another state. Something I deliberately did to get away from them.
>>33854437Do you think I should do grad school? It’s only 2 years for me
>>33854120Move out. Live on your own or with roommates or in a dorm. Do what you want.As long as you live in their home (even for another 20 years), they will think of you - and treat you - as their baby.PS The world is NOT as scary as they think and have trained you to think
Get pepper spray
