>have no friends>be quite happy with it>"what do you mean you have no friends? that's bad! you should find some!">try connecting with some people>their responses are lukewarm, delayed and they never text first because i'm No. 83 on their priority list>they already have +100 people strong social network so I'm just another nuisance, but for me they are one of three people I text not out of family/professional obligation>get extremely embittered about it because I was fine being alone but now I feel rejected and degraded for being treated like this>go back to self-isolation but now less okay than before the whole undertaking due to this negative experience>the cycle repeats after X monthsI am not overtexting. They reply once a day, I reply once a day, just as them after some 8-12 hours to be equivalent and seem not desperate.To be honest I could go into total self-isolation and let go this normie hardtrying for good, but there's this only one non-normie friend I care about that I've had a great relationship with for 8 years, until she ghosted me for 6 months right before not coming to my town despite the fact that she was supposed to (we live far away but visited each other a couple of times already, but now she bailed out for I don't know why) she ignored me for this long but made a new account and now pretends nothing happened and gives me lukewarm responses, despite we having a great balanced friendship before. I want to confront her about it, but via text is no use, via phone she can always hang up and coming in person well requires her to actually come to a place at a certain time. God, I have so mixed feelings about that and I don't know what to do desu. I want either this frendship to continue like before or get a closure and forget about her.
>>33854999I ain't reading all that. Go see a shrink
its pretty normal to not have a lot of connections, you are right, if people reply so slowly its because they don't value you. you are prop just making yourself too available. maybe try having more than two "friendships" going at the time. I kinda experienced the same. what's your discord?
>>33855004FUCK you Jesse
>>33855043>what's your discord?Thanks, but sorry, I'm not looking for friends
>>33854999just stop trying to make friends with normies
>>33854999>have no friends>be quite happy with itOkay, I stopped reading. Come back when you have a problem.
>>33855090Good advice, but you don't meet schizoids outside.
>>33855099Read the last paragraph then, that's the only part where it hurts
>>33854999Do women really masturbate to gay male porn?
>>33854999>I reply once a day>just as them after some 8-12 hours to be equivalent and seem not desperate.Don't try to have friends just to have friends. People have feelings, interests, hobbies, jobs. The whole point of having friends is to connect with someone at a deeper level, it's a friendship, not a job post.You are not putting any effort, they will never reciprocate, because they can feel you're fake, and they know who the real ones are. You can't expect to put it in 10% effort into 10 different people and expect each to give their 100% of their efforts into you. There's a girl that texts me sometimes just like you, very lukewarm, doesn't put in any efforts into keeping the conversation alive, and texts me from 15 to 15 days. I simply stopped trying and focused on more important matters.
>>33855779Personally I believe that women don't have libido. No matter the "evidence" you or I might have seen, remember that they just fake it for resources. It's a Chinese room type of situation, if you're not careful enough you can almost believe they genuinely desire something.
>>33855876Well I don't know how much more effort I can put in, if I'm bottlenecked by their responses. I can text whole paragraphs but I'll get ignored after a while, sadly. I want to meet someone like me, but it's hard and it's draining.
>>33855070>I'm not looking for friends>sad about not having a friendship with womanAnon.. I..
The pic looks like nano and akira from tnc
>>33858447>I want to meet someone like me, but it's hard and it's draining.In real life, it's truly hard...>Well I don't know how much more effort I can put in, if I'm bottlenecked by their responses. I can text whole paragraphs but I'll get ignored after a while, sadlyI understand how you feel, because I’ve been in the same situation many times before. Do not put effort into people who will not reciprocate. Cut your losses; it is the clearest way to preserve what little peace life allows. I had a friend in high school who was like a brother to me. I would invite him to things, we would do many things together, but I noticed I was always the one to reach out, to make the plans. Often he would cancel the same plans. I decided to stop messaging him. He never messaged me again. It has been two years. I am glad I stopped messaging him. Imagine if I had poured more energy into this.What I meant by saying you should not put just ten percent effort into ten relationships is this: put effort only in the relationships that matter. Investing in a one-sided relationship is like pouring water into sand. The sand cannot hold it. It runs through your fingers and leaves you empty, no matter how much you give. You gain nothing but exhaustion and the quiet humiliation of realizing that desire and expectation are often deceiving mirrors. To conserve yourself is not cruelty; it is realism.
