I normally post over in /lit/ and /co/, sorry if this is more long winded than it should be but I needed to vent too.I went out with a guy who wasn't bad or mean or anything but he was definitely weird. He was like, over the top excited to the point I felt uncomfortable.We grew up in the same town but I never really knew him before the date beyond that we know a lot of the same people.I've been saving money for college since I turned 18 waitressing at a diner in town, and ever since the date he's shown up every day there. I told him I wasn't sure we were a great match, I don't want to make a scene at work or in front of the old people we grew up around, but he didn't take the hint and just said relationships take work and we'd "figure it out".I've confided in the older women I work with, and they agree he's strange but they keep telling me "give him a chance he's a sweetheart".He wants to take me to a civil war re-enactment next week that he's going to be performing in, my dad is going to be performing in it too. I feel like this guy might be nice to spend time with if he calmed down something near to 80%, but as he is I just get too uncomfortable and I think I'm gonna pass on the re-enactment.I baked this pie as a sort of, "hey I'm sorry to turn down the invite" present. It felt like a good idea when I started (I know it's not the best looking pie but it's the inside that counts), but my mom said he might get the wrong idea.Would it hurt his feelings real bad if I just asked him to tone it down a little?
>>33855224why dont you just break up with him since you obviously dont love him as nearly as much as he loves you? youd be doing him a favor letting him down easy before you eventually cheat on him a couple of years into the relationship since you cant return the feelings.
>>33855224>unconditionally loving your gf and wanting to hang out is "strange"Grim.
just say you got the ick and that he's not a chad fr, if he grew up with an internet connection he will know what you mean
All it takes is saying it once. It's important that you recognize his perspective as well and that you have a turd infestation and it's pretty annoying having to look at all the turds.
>>33855259>>33855264>one date makes her his gfYou guys got it real bad huh?OP i'm not interested gift is definitely a bad idea. Cant really say I have a good solution for you though. You said you weren't sure. He should've taken the hint already and backed off some. It sounds like he needs you to be more direct. Like actually say something like "Dude calm down, relax, chill" or "You have really intense energy" every time he does something that bothers you. That shouldn't hurt too bad while still leaving the door open. Idk it's a tough one if you think he could be fixed and is maybe just excited a girl is actually paying attention to him and it might die down it's different than if you were sure you wanted him to go away. Definitely don't feed into it to try to be nice.
>>33855259We only went out once, we're not really a couple...I don't hate him I just feel a little overwhelmed.>>33855443I don't understand>>33855492I'll try telling him again, I might've been trying too hard to be polite the first time. He spent something like $600 on our first date and I know he doesn't make much better money than I do at the diner.
>>33855599Oof. $600 on a first date is crazy work. I would consider he may be bipolar and is having a manic episode.
>>33855599>600$ he spent on girlSeems like he's trying to make her "OWE" him, not good.>REALLY really desperate for girl to love him after one date>civil war re-enactment, where he might be confederate.Run, or just turn him down a LOT harder.You probably don't want to say your gay. But maybe you could say your not ready for relationships, and don't want to be more then friends.Look a lot of guys are desperate to get girls, and it's understandable girls don't understand, cause they can usually always get guys.But as i said, just end it. And say you don't feel comfortable with him at work.It only takes one move for him to go from desperate to stalker, and you need to help shut it down.
>>33855599>spent something like $600 on our first date and I know he doesn't make much better money than I do at the diner.he thinks you're a whore - you're fully within your rights to never talk to him again for that. it's not a sweet or naïve thing to buy things for women they don't want, it's manipulative
>>33855627>>33855696Spending 600$ on first date is pretty crazy.If i went with a girl and the bill was like 50 or 100$, I'd ask if's it's ok for me to pay most, and ask her if she wants to throw a Little in, or would she rather half? That seems the safest to me. But I don't get anyone to go on dates with me, so idk.
>>33855599Are you dense or just intentionally obtuse? You never noticed this man growing up, I'm guessing he noticed you though, and when he finally got your attention he was so excited he blew a wad of cash he's probably been saving for a while thinking of you.Fucking ungrateful.
>>33856572This would have been a perfectly normal way for a couple to fall for each other before woke ruined women. You're trying to fuck over the poor bastard by reinforcing what social media did to OP.
>>33856739You are unlikable and a huge red flag. Garbage person
Don't date a guy you're not into. Every man should have a loyal woman who's into them and vice versa.>"give him a chance he's a sweetheartDon't take their advice. I've had the same kind of people telling me to date conventionally attractive men with socially desirable careers. Turning them away immediately always works better than trying to see if I grow to personally like them. >>33856529He'll turn into this jerk if you allow him to stick around.
>>33856775When someone writes something like that I instantly discard their opinion where I would have been open to discussion before. The truth is I wasn't open to a discussion with you anyways
OP you could just get him to sugar daddy your college tuition instead of waitressing and drop him like a bad habit for a guy more to your liking when you finish college.
>>33856916Just annoyed by your insecure pill posting. It's really lame. Many are saying this
>>33857082Bad idea. The dude is poor.Streamers refund donations in the thousands for a reason
>>33857251Someone was agreeing that you were a fagot in one of the other threads you spam made. It would be great if you got in a car accident So we wouldn't have to deal with your demoralization campaigns here all the time
>>33857517What's that supposed to mean
>>33857622Guessing he's referring to how woke is dead and he thinks his diaper-wearing retard in the Whitehouse is going to wipe out all the fags (he won't he loves sucking Putin's cock too much to focus on anything else)
>>33855224Im trying to figure out is he really just excited or weird
>>33856529Why ungrateful? Men need to realize that women not always want money
>>33856572This!! People on 4chan will ever tell you "give this guy a chance" even when it was a rapist
The poor fool. He doesn’t mean harm; he only obeys the same will that torments us all, the urge to possess what might quiet the emptiness inside. He mistakes insistence for devotion, because the world has taught him that to want is to love. Yet nothing deceives like desire: it makes beggars of us all, chasing shadows that vanish the moment we touch them. And still, we can’t stop reaching. We do not see the futility, or we do and cannot resist it. Each act of affection is mingled with suffering, each attempt to connect with another a risk of humiliation or rejection. And he suffers as we all do, quietly, often invisibly, believing in a meaning that will not come. The world offers no guidance, no mercy, only the endless repetition of longing and disappointment. To pity him is to pity oneself, and to recognize this is the only clarity life grants.
>>33855224Attach a note: Stay Calm and Eat Pie or something along that lineIf you do decide to build a life together, you're gonna want a man with motivation who is excited to do things instead of one who is low-energy and primarily interested in laying in bed and ordering pizza between sex sessions.
>>33858516Gay
>>33858609>GayJust like your limp father, that made you through mediocre sex with your whorish mother, little bastard.
>>33855224The solution to your larp is sorry you're not allowed to date customers of the diner, it's a lie but seriously you can't have your significant other hanging around your work all day anyway it's trouble waiting to happen.
>>33858614I wish my dad was gay, he'd be a lot cooler
>>33858666Honestly regardless of however you handle the rest of it, this advice will definitely give you the space to think about it. "My boss doesn't like me socializing at work, maybe we should just text instead"
>>33855224You baked him a pie, I think you got it bad for him OP. Just chill about the weirdness and enjoy it
I just find it really interesting that he got banned
