I was stupid enough to start an e-relationship. I wasn't looking for one but then I met this person and I'd never had so much in common with someone that way. After a few months of talking we decided that we couldn't make the distance work, we could only afford to see each other once a year for about 4 years, I don't think that was going to be healthy so I said we should stop until they'd moved (they had plans of doing so even before we met). I came to this conclusion because we'd been getting too emotionally involved for not even having met in person. They agreed on keeping contact open for a future relationship, be it friendly or romantic. Then we stopped talking, we talked a bit like once a week not to withdraw completely, they told me how they were suffering, I told them I was having a bad time too. I've been trying to keep my life going. Going out with friends, concentrating on my studies. Today I got a text from them, telling me they were hurt by how fast I've moved on, and that they were thinking about blocking me. This hurt a lot. I'm not even moving on, I think they just want to block me to punish me for what they "think" I'm doing, not how I'm actually doing. I told them this but they still haven't answered. I'm hurt and don't know the technique needed to heal from this, can someone advise me? I don't want this to stop me from living my everyday life, I want to still be able to go to uni and go out, but If I have this on my mind all the time I won't, I'm already being distracted out of studying for an exam right now because this won't get out of my head.
>>33857967Don't let them make you the bad guy. They're trying to put the blame solely on you.
>>33858197How? I don't think they're blaming me. I think they're just assuming I've moved on because they're hurting, but I'd still wish they'd listen to me instead of going with the version they made up of me in their mind. This was one of the problems in our relationship, and to be honest seeing them doing it again makes me feel relieved, because they may never change their ways.
