I (early 20s, female) have an older (late 20s) brother who is just a NEET. He has ADHD and doesn’t take meds. Growing up, it was always some competition between us, like who gets the better grades or gets into honor roll. That made me feel like I’m in his shadows growing up because he’s the smart one. I grew out of it because it turned into bragging about himself. He graduated two years ago and he has no job nor social life. He went to a notable film school in NYC. Now he’s saying “fuck art” because he has a “useless degree”. But he didn’t even try to make things. He just stays in home and watches boxing or MMA. Or on his computer a lot watching porn or something. He doesn’t hangout with friends nor he has a girlfriend. My parents enabled his behavior, once he threw a remote at the wall to intimidate my mom. I’m just surprised they didn’t kick him out.I stopped talking to him because he’s into the redpill or blackpill things. It turned into his personality. And I just feel disappointed about him.
>>33858986HAWT
It seems to me that you have a brotherly complex. Have you ever fantasized about your brother? Be honest.
>>33858962You must get him to find his pride again. Point out to him that life is about the struggle and overcoming. Just cause a boxer gets punched in face doesn't mean he stays down. If he feels like he wasted his life on art it's far from too late to start something new.
>>33858962you have to understand he probably has next to no desire to interact with his family.
>>33858962You need to slide that mofo some pussy
>>33858962i will do absolutely nothing.. until i need moneyforce him to need money and adhd will do the rest
>>33859039No when I look at him I feel disappointed in him
>>3385908>>33859092It’s just that he doesn’t even try, now he wanted to go into trade school
>>33859113>No when I look at him I feel disappointed in himYou are not being honest.I understand that you are disappointed in him NOW. However, reading through your text, this is either a LARP or you have had a brotherly complex at some point. Why would you want to "reform" your brother?
>>33859117it doesnt feel like trying when i'm fixated on a goaltrade school is a waste of time, go straight for an apprenticeship
>>33858986Seriously who is making these comics
>>33859124Why does it have to be a larp or a brotherly complex? Why can't I want him to do good for himself?
>>33859200>Why does it have to be a larp or a brotherly complex? Why can't I want him to do good for himself?Honestly? Because It sounds like you want your brother to change, but not because you truly want him to truly heal. Right now, your focus is on how his failure affects you, not on what he’s going through.
>>33859281So basically I should leave him be
>>33859491>So basically I should leave him beNot necessarily, if you want to help someone, don't do it for selfish reasons. Otherwise it's not really help, is it?
>>33858962>redpill>NEETThese are diametrically opposed concepts. It sounds like your bro is a retard. He is right that going to film school was a retarded choice. Also you say you 2 were almost a decade apart put were competing on grades? That's kind of funny and a little cute.Anyway, my advice is that it is his life and he has to decide how to live it, for better or for worse.
>>33858962>badly disguised trolling /pol/ shitpost.>I stopped talking to him you've already solved the problem.
>>33859499That’s true, I’ll just wait it out for him. He’s just a dick. Maybe he’ll come to a conclusion of self reflection>>33859538>>33859842Thx
So OP won the sibling competition and still disappointed?I think you're the one who has issues here. Your brother's issue are not your problem. None of you helped one another so quit being a good sis and mind your business.
>>33860256I mean winning a competition is only fun if there's some competitiveness. It sounds like OP's brother quit the competition by becoming a NEET which is rather unsatisfying
>>33860534>>33860256No it was more like, “oh yeah I have more things than you blah blah blah”. Which made me feel bad but I got over it. And he still have that same mindset.
Limit interaction with him as much as possible. If you're in college, finish your studies, get your degree, earnestly try to find a job (sorry it's a shitty market right now), save for a bit (like 3 months max), then move out. You don't have to move out of state or whatever but you don't want to be so close that it's "convenient" to visit your parents and him.You don't want to continue living in a household with a NEET older brother and enabling parents, it'll end up just dragging you down.t. the only one of 4 siblings to move out before 30.
>>33861441Thank you. I’m actually a very ambitious person haha. Also that’s just my parents’ flaws but they’re actually supportive people. They do complained about him not having a job and stuff like that.
>>33858962It's not your place to worry about his life. Worry about yourself.
>>33861376> How to deal with NEET brother?If you're really feeling that bad since he's into porn just give him the pussy he's been looking for and make him promise in return to quit his NEET LIFE from now on. With condoms of course no babies with defective genes. It'll be a life changing deal for him.>>33858986 >>33859039 >>33859091A lot of us here is in the same conclusion.
>>33861779>With condoms of course no babies with defective genesThe chances of an inbred child emerging with a serious genetic defect from two randomly selected siblings in most population groups is miniscule, as in a fraction of a percent miniscule.
>>33858962I've heard of a service in japan that basically lets you rent a sister and their job is to get hikikomoris, NEETs, other shit like that, out of the house and integrading into society like a normal person. I'm not sure how well that'd work for your brother in particular, but I wonder if there's a similar service to that wherever you live. Other than that, I truly have no idea, I'm sorry.
>>33858962I can relate in a way with my sister, too. We’ve had some tension because our parents always compared me to her, saying things like they wish she were like me, etc. Even though I never saw it that way, the comparison game between us has been rough. It’s hard when it feels like you’re being measured against each other, especially when they’re stuck in their own issues.I also ended up in a field I don’t enjoy (CS), and every day I wish I’d done something more creative, like art or film school. But at the same time, I’ve learned that both paths can be disappointing doing something you hate for money feels miserable, but doing something you love without structure or effort can leave you stuck.I think the important thing is not to let either of them (your brother or sister) treat you as competition or take out their frustrations on you. You can tell your brother you support him, but he needs to take responsibility for his own life meds, therapy, a job, whatever it takes. If he’s disrespecting you, that’s not something you need to tolerate.Ultimately, all we can do is offer love, but we shouldn’t sacrifice our own happiness in the process. He needs to realize that if he keeps blaming everything else, he’ll stay stuck. You have every right to protect yourself and not let his attitude drag you down.
>>33863417Thank you for this reply, I appreciated it so much that I screenshotted it.
>>33858962mothers and sisters are the most evil people on planet earth so i totally understand him throwing a remote. nothing like being kicked while you're down by a bunch of fucking women who don't understand anything and who also fail miserably at their only redeeming purpose in life which is to have empathy and compassion. fuck you and fuck your mother, victim blaming pieces of shit.
