>be me>work in a restaurant>i say hi to the girls who work there when either of us start our shifts>some days they say hi back>many other times, they just completely ignore me >when they do this, they still treat me normally (or even somewhat kindly) during our shift I'm guessing I'm just really ugly to them. That's the only reason I can think of.
It's to the point where I just do not talk to any of the girls there at all (not even to say hi).
>>33862514>>many other times they completely ignore me>>when they do this, they still treat me normally (or even somewhat kindly) during our shiftThere was a woman i worked with a few years ago who acted strange whenever i talked to her, for a whole month i thought she hated me. Eventually i noticed she was just awkward with everyone at work, and that our strained conversations were just her way of trying to be friends with a co-worker.My point is, i think your insecurity is clouding your judgement a little bit. You're assuming they're repulsed by you just because they don't always say hi to you, but you go whole shifts without talking to them, they might be having the same thoughts as you.
>>33862514>>33862522Probably not, you just have insecurities. The workplace really isn't a place for connecting, even getting a hello is pushing it.If you want to really see if you're ugly, go up to a child age 4 or younger and smile at them. If they recoil in fear or cry, then yeah. You're probably ugly. If they don't then you aren't, you just are correlating your insecurity over business mindset that doesn't reward personalization or fraternizing. Nothing to do with you. Here's a thought, next time on break, try making some small talk. Something about crystals, flowers, Halloween, w/e. Keep the conversation casual. See if they are interested in the chat or not.Also, check your hygiene just in case.
>>33862514>I'm guessing I'm just really ugly to them. That's the only reason I can think of.It's in your head. Stop reading so much into people's responses.
>>33862514>am i really that uglyI don't know. Post a photo of yourself>coworkers don't say hiI had a ton of coworkers that never said hi back. Even bosses that would completely ignore my "good morning" greeting.They don't care and neither should you.The fact that you're being polite to begin with is all that matters.
>>33862514It can be a dumb kind of class prejudice - managers don't socialize with waitresses, waitresses don't socialize with bus boys
>>33862623>>33862641>>33862701>>33862718>>33863444But I’ve seen these same girls initiate hi’s to the other guys (they are taller than me) who work there, or even initiate conversations with them. They just ignore me whether I say hi or not.
>>33862514Act harder to get and mysterious. Be clean and well-groomed. Just use the utmost in manners. Polite, short greeting that needs no reply. You don't need to be dating in the workplace, so your supposed "ugly" appearance is irrelevant. People just want to do their job, make money, go home, not get hustled. If you get more than that, bonus.
>>33863793>act mysterious and harder to get Well I barely talk to any of the girls there, so I don’t know how much harder to get I can be. Also, I’m not trying to date anyone there. I gave up on that. I just don’t like getting disrespected.
>>33863775>But I’ve seen these same girls initiate hi’s to the other guys (they are taller than me)>>33863853>i barely talk to any of the girlsAre the taller guys more friendly and talkative? I don't wanna dismiss the whole Ugly thing because it probably plays a part (if you're actually ugly), but if you're all quiet and insecure and tense you're obviously gonna be less approachable than someone more talkative and friendly.Also, don't follow the whole "act mysterious and nonchalant and hard to get" meme. That only works on TV.
>>33862514XD
>>33864476I’m not trying to act mysterious and nonchalant. I just genuinely don’t want to talk to them because there’s no point.
>>33862514maybe you reek or you're very unappealing to talk toI say hi back to my ugly friends all the timeI don't say hi back to a dude I know that is always anxious to do small talk with you for no reason and about stupid stuffalso his mouth smells horrible and he loves to be very close when talking to you.he's not bad looking but man o man is he a curse to be around, I was glad when he was very sick for a while I was hoping he might get fired or die and wouldn't have to see him again.
>>33866150I floss and bush my teeth everyday. I also wear deodorant before leaving the house.
>>33866545*brush
>>33862514shut up and wash the dishes Pedro or i'm calling ICE
