Question for the femaneets on this board. Neurotypical depressed guy with a savior complex here. Been talking to a diagnosed autistic girl. She's smart and cute and I don't mind the hyperfixations. I am up to the challenge of communication struggles, emotional challenges, and taking the lead in the relationship because I am a man and not an incel. My only worry is when it comes to sex. She's expressed interest in sex, but it doesn't seem to be one of her fixations. I am going to want it several times a week minimum to feel content, preferably even more often than that. I don't mind initiating and doing cuddles and foreplay and all that, I just worry she might feel overwhelmed or like I am using her. Is this going to be an issue? Is there anything I can do to increase her desire without her feeling pressured? How do I have this conversation? Should I cut it off before it gets too serious? Worst case scenario, what is the likelihood she can emotionally handle an open relationship relative to normal women?
>>33864780i dont see what autism has to do with it unless condoms give her sensory issues. i am autistic and me and my bf fuck several times whenever we see each other, if she is into u and u make her feel comfortable it will be fine lol
>>33864780Just make sure shes comfortable, talk with her about it and it should be ok
>>33864780OP if you’re still interested in advice on this one, I’d just recommend taking it slow, and having direct conversations about boundaries and desires. Autistic people are generally also diagnosed with “alexithymia” — they fail to register internal sensations. This affects lack of hunger cues, lack of alerts to the sensation of a full bladder, lack of internal emotional processing. Many autistic people report experiencing delayed responses to emotional events. TL;DR If you rush her she might not understand how to respond in the moment, might not recognize she feels hurt or confused— and she could have a meltdown when it all hits her later on. This can be avoided with conversations before any intimacy starts, and with clear expectations on how far the intimacy will go each time. Good luck.
>>33864780>Neurotypical depressed guy with a savior complex hereWhat's you motive for seeking autists, then? Nothing to save, thus shouldn't appeal to you.> My only worry is when it comes to sex. She's expressed interest in sex, but it doesn't seem to be one of her fixations. I am going to want it several times a week minimum to feel content, preferably even more often than that.Communicate this clearly and honestly.>I just worry she might feel overwhelmed or like I am using herIf she fails or refuses to bring up her stresses and requirements then don't plan around it, simply leave her.If she does communicate these things, talk with her about what function / role / goal she plans to satisfy through your relationship and if being horny to that degree is something she wants to be.> Is there anything I can do to increase her desire without her feeling pressured? Just pressure her. The notion that you shouldn't wrangle your partner is not a productive one. Mutual pressure to co-operate and satisfy is how a stable relationship works.>How do I have this conversation? Focus on specific behaviours and measurable outcomes. Emotions are too vague to plan around.>Worst case scenario, what is the likelihood she can emotionally handle an open relationship relative to normal women?Direct attack on her sense of self worth and capacity to be a satisfying partner. Anger or Sadness are very likely.
