Currently applying for college. I'm really excited to get away from home but I'm having trouble with the application process due to family stress. My mother is constantly on edge right now and I'm forced to spend more time taking care of her anxiety than actually working on things. I need her to help in the process, (sign documents, provide family documents, etc.) but I don't want to provoke her as she gets easily overwhelmed. I would go to my father, but it wouldn't end well if my mother finds out. She's under the illusion that I'm immature and not ready to live without her, but by everyone else's judgement I'm exceptional. I am very polite, understanding, mature, and get along with practically everyone. I've lived alone for months before and been much more healthy and productive than when I'm at home. I am infinetly more comfortable living alone than with my parents, but am forced to rely on them until I leave college for financial reasons as they control the money my grandparents set aside for my education in their will. I would also feel guilty living with them for 18 years and then abandoning them without paying back any of the money/time it took to raise me. (Sometimes I wish I could just pay them back with one fat check and escape guilt free loll) Does anyone have advice on how to separate myself from my parents in a way that won't cause them to interfere in my adult life going forward? I feel that I should do it now or never, but I don't know how. Thank you in advance for your help :)
>>33864975Are you a men or are you a women? My advice would differ depending on your gender. By the way, you seem like a filial son/daughter, props for that!
Ty! + I am a woman.
>>33865232>Ty! + I am a woman.I understand how your mother feels, I would be very worried if I had a daughter and she went to university in today's day and age.When you go to university, others will tempt you with pleasure, distraction, and idle affection. Do not trade independence for lust, comfort, or approval. Guard your time. Guard your body. Guard your mind. The world has no mercy, and those who indulge passion before reason are quickly devoured by it.You are eighteen. In the eyes of the law, you are no longer a child, no matter how much your mother clings to you as though you were. Your grandfather left you the money for the tuition fee. That money is yours, not theirs.Your parents are not gates to your freedom. They are obstacles whose resistance is fueled by the illusion that their authority is eternal. You do not need their consent to act in the world. You need only to navigate the law, the bureaucracy, and the appointed fiduciaries who are bound to obey rules, not emotions. They cannot bind your will if you understand the system. I can't give you legal advice as I don't know which country you're from. If you tell me which *country and state* you are from, maybe I can give you tailored advice if you want to go through the legal route.If you act with clarity, the law and the structures of inheritance will serve you. Your parents’ desire to control, will crumble without confrontation.
Thank you for your advice. I understand that patience is probably what's best for me at this time in my life. I have a good support structure outside of my parents of friends and teachers whom I will continue to rely on. I will look into the laws in my area too and decide the best course of action for when the time comes.
>>33865411In bocca al lupo
