How are you guys staying in long-term relationships without checking out or getting bored? It's all over after the honeymoon phase
>>33871189I always hate this upper class mentality.You don't really get tired of a healthy relationship when it's mostly about splitting responsibilities. No I dont get sick of being able to pass off grocery store runs, making dinner, or getting oil changes done.It's like a 30% reduction in day to day effort because some small amount is split. The honey moon is just when you still have to move a mountain just to impress them.
>>33871189it's been 15 years with my wife, still in the honeymoon phaseWHEN DOES IT STOP!?
>>33871235What’s the secret?
>>33871250my wife is obsessives and creativealso, she's not conventionally attractive (got one lazy eye) but is very funny
There are two paths:1. You've had kids, and despite growing apart or bored with one another, you stay together for the sake of your kids' wellbeing. Or, if no kids, you just might have a web of financial arrangements (mortgage, jobs) and social connections (friends, church, sports, clubs, etc) that would be honestly too much of pain to disrupt. So you remain together in a dull, but easy sort of "roommates" relationship that isn't fulfilling, but isn't unbearable either. Your relationship goes from a loving bond to two people living separate lives in the same home.2. You start swinging because new and exciting experiences energize you and actually lead to deeper levels of intimacy and trust (if done correctly). At first it seems like a betrayal of everything you've believed about relationships up to this point, but ultimately it's the only path forward that doesn't involve hoping you're living in a fairytale where you magically remain interested and satisfied eating the same flavor of ice cream every day for the next 40 years.
>>33871189I'm not.
>>33871189Haven't you had a dog before? You love them their entire life.
If you chose wisely, it's a non issue. You only get bored with somebody if you started a relationship based on 1 exciting factoring without considering all the other things that are important.
if the most interesting thing in your life is your relationship you are boring as fuck
>>33871189>It's all over after the honeymoon phaseNo, the honeymoon phase is over after the honeymoon phase. The relationship is still there, it's just stopped being based on infatuation and slowly transitions into familiarity and trust instead.
>>33871213>when it's mostly about splitting responsibilities. Thats called "having a roommate". No clue what that has to do with a relationship. Just move in together with a friend if thats all you care about. >>33871189For the most part ist "settling", or purely the comfort zone. A ton of people will take a subpar relationship simply for the sake of being alone. Being terminally monogamous forever isn't natural for humans, the basic mode is serial monogamy for about as long as it takes to rear a child through tthe worst , which you find reflected in a lot of relationships nowadays. A ton of people just stay together because they're not confident in their ability to find someone else and scared of being on their own.
>>33872358I'm 1 right now, wishing I had 2. I'm so fucking tired of relationships. I always get bored after a few years so I'm honestly thinking of just dying alone at this point.
>>33877149Well, stop it then. The whole "benfit of the kids" is a bunch of garbage. All it gets them is to teach them that relationships are loveles, sexless drudgery that consists of coin counting and quiet resentment. Literally every child of divorce I ever met onls expressed relief on their parents finally ending this weird Limbo Because thats all it is, "staying together fo rthe kids" is not a relationships at all.>thinking of just dying aloneWe all die alone, that image of everyone assembling around your death bed to await your last breath is pure fiction. Doesn't happen IRL even for the most beloved people. Besides, you're perfectly proving my point (>>33877149)How about being "daring" for once in your life instead of taking the path of least resistance? Unexepcted and exciting things may happen.
>>33871189>How are you guys staying in long-term relationships without checking out or getting bored?Maybe find someone you're compatible with? Fucking retard.
