For context: I’m Turkish (23F), he’s Greek (28). We were together for like 2.5 years when i was 20. He was my evrything. I liked evrything about him. He had a high paying job, he was from Athens and i live in Istanbul so he came frequently to me and i did to his. He had an own house, provided for me basixally everything.He was so possesive, he would be so rude and cruel to me when i talked to other men, when i didnt show him my outfit before leaving the house, for wearing tight clothes in the gym etc. He tracked me on his phone amd basically saw me as his married woman. He would take the lead and i happily obeyed him like he wanted to. I was so in love with this guy. Like, i’m just shakinf while i type this. I liked him so much andi’m so fucking hurt right now.He would even bruise me to remind me i’m his, not on my cheeks but on my thighs because he said its ‘harder’ so it hurted more, and it did.Anyway, i just found out today that he was emotionallt talking to someone else, a girl, while we were together. You can call me crazy bur emotionally attached to somene else, even if its not sex, i see it as cheating. I trusted him with all my life, i lost my virginity to him, he was my first in everything but he did this to me.Please how do i recover from this. I want to cry so hard but i’m holding myself in. I dont know how i will meet someone like him again. I’m going crazy likemy hands are shakinf while i type this. I’m so heartbroken it canr fix.
Like we would even bully each other bevause he’s greek and i’m Turkish (from thrace) and that was our humor, we were so racist to each other and he would then tame me. I’m so fucking hurt i wont find somenelike him again. He was so special. I want to cry so hard
I want to forget him so bad but i just cant, i was so addicted and so obsessed over him i couldnt think about other men, but he instead was emotionally attached to another girl. I swear i cant take this anymore
why is the nationality important? makes the thread look like bait. also how does controlling what you wear and a long distance relationship work together? anyway...I can't tell if you made the right choice. some people are more close to others emotionally than their own partner. that is why therapists exist. so the people who are actually important dont serve as emotional dumps. on the other side different emotions can turn into affection. also, a long distance relationship is always a red flag in long term.if your decision is final, see it from this side: you are still young and you got to learn a lot of things from your first relationship. a man with a "high paying job" is not hard to find if you compromise (age, confidence/status, looks). just give it some time, don't deal with it by hooking up on Tinder and be open for someone new in a few months.
>>33871588The nationalities was just to give an idea how our rs was like. He would check up on me every morning telling me to send a fit pic or would face call me. And i just dont want a man with high paying job, i want a man that had all the traits like him. I will never have someone like him again.And its not like he was emotionally talking, it was like talking for the whole night wirh that gir EMOTIONALLY behind my back. We also began like that, so idk.
>>33871595How did you figure it out?
>>33871595I think you did the right job dumping him. But I think you are wrong in thinking he was perfect. I can assure you he was not, you just idolized him, which a natural process in a relationship. when you are ready, be open for someone who is different from him. still objectively a good catch, but different. you will see, a new guy will be even more charming than the ex. the human brain forgets best when you don't think of someone at all.
>>33871605He became less talkative, avoids meaningful conversations, started hiding his phone when i’m with him and gets defensive when i ask simple questions.Ans he’s online often but doesn’t reply to me quickly anymore. I also saw him delete messages and he started following new people i’ve never seen in our 2.5y of rlationschip
>>33871607No he was literally perfect. Literally my dream man. I want the same as him. I am so obsessive and possesive as well, like i spam texted him every morning when he didnt wake up. Other men would block me for that but he liked that about me.
>>33871621Oh shit
Did you say anything about Cyprus?
>>33871679Ofcourse, we would bully each other about everything
>>33871679What's up with Cyprus?
>>33871686Kek. So long as it was playful... I saw what the Turkish Air Force did a few months ago and I am guessing that could have heated things.>>33871696>he doesn't knowThe history stretches for deeper than this, but this is probably the biggest reason why it would be a matter of contention.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turkish_invasion_of_Cyprus
>>33871554Im really sorry about what happened, I hope you are okay OP. If you have supportive friends you can talk to them and tell them what happened. I reccomend going to therapy, you can also focus on yourself to try and forget it. I know its not easy but thats the best you can do. Dont be jelaous because of the other girl hes dating, he will treat her the same way he treated youI used to be attached to someone too and i was so heartbroken when he stopped talk to me. I focused on myself and after some time i stoped caring about it
>>33871595you will find a man like him again, abusive men are a dime a dozen
>>33871759Girls are really good at comforting others
>>33871759Aww thank you so much! You’re so right! I try to get my mind off him, as time heals. But its sooo hard. I’m torturing myself
>>33871752>I saw what the Turkish Air Force did a few months ago and I am guessing that could have heated things.What retard would let geopolitics and old politicians dictate their love lives?
>>33871785Me>t. Amerilard with a security clearance, who unfortunately has a thing for Eastern European and Middle Eastern girls
>>33871823Funny, I too have a thing for women not living around me (East-Asians)
>>33871623>No he was literally perfect. Literally my dream man. I want the same as him.if you go back to this guy he will cheat on you and you will be fighting a lot now that his true character is revealed.if you don't go back to him but keep looking for similar guys, your brain will not be able to forget the relationship and heal. you will always consider cheating on your current boyfriend with your manipulative ex who will only use you as a plan B cumdump. all your future relationships would be doomed to fail.>like i spam texted him every morning when he didnt wake up. Other men would block me for that but he liked that about me.you have no life experience. it was your first boyfriend. previously I said you should not use Tinder. It is a pity women use that app and get the feeling there are so many good men out there that finding someone better is just a matter of a swipe. which is not true. Well, I had no idea you too have emotional problems. Perhaps you should use Tinder after all. Get dicked down by a few Chads and see that the manipulative behavior of your ex is not unique. perhaps you will come to your senses
>>33871902I’m not usinf Tinder but thanks fir your advice
>>33871554>He was so possesive, he would be so rude and cruel to me>He tracked me on his phone >obeyed him like he wanted>He would even bruise me to remind me i’m hisYou are describing a psychopath, not a lover. You are truly lucky - and I'm talking about saving your life - to be away from him.
>>33872103>I’m not usinf TinderThat's also what my sister told me before she broke up with her ex
>>33872254I’m genuinely not using that, i want real love, not one night stands with no chemistry
>>33872117Actually, women love being abused
>>33872353Nani?
>>33871554Obviously, what he wants is to have multiple women, and for those women to be completely loyal to him. It's pretty retarded when there's men out there who don't get jealous, but go for it I guess.
>>33872257I have tried a dating app (not Tinder), you have the right mindset. Not worth it, unless you are using it as a friend finder (the app that I used had such a feature).There is a girl that I have known since high school and today I learned that she is a bit of a shut-in like me, so I might ask if she wants to go to the book store (we both love reading).Personally, I would say wait for the Greek to respond. Wait a few more days at the last, and, if nothing, think about the other guys that you know. Think about your interests and try to find a guy that shares one of those. I would suggest that you stay local, guys no further than 10 km from you.
