(Its too long so i’ll continue in replies)FYI i’m Croatian and i was in a rs with a Albanian guy for a while. We both live in Germany btw.It’s already ended but everytime in my (parents) house it reminds me of him, but not in a good way. He literally traumatised me. He was so fucking toxic and cruel, mean, cold to me. He always went clubbing, talked to other girls but he expected me to be the bravest, submissive girl that never talked to another man. He even went to my home, groped me while my parents were upstairs. It felt like r ape but i loved him so much and i was naive and young. I thought he really cared for me, he had such a nice voice and talked sweetly about me. But he also always wanted to control me how i walked, what i ate, how i talked, how good i looked, etc. He reminded me so often saying ‘dont get too fat’ or ‘you need to refill your manicure’ or ‘dont talk about politics, talk about makeup or beauty’ and stuff like that. I felt still traumatised when i think about it.I coulnt get over him, he blackmailed me because i also sent him nudes (where i’m not proud of) and said that if im not being a “good girl” he would spread it all of telegram (FYI the Balkans have a lot of expose and escort groups on telegram where they show their moms/gfs/sisters whatever and ask the members to ‘rate’ them, and there are also a lot of balkan escorts too). So i stayed with him so he wouldnt leak my nudes with all my information. I was literally abused.
Luckily at that time i also was studying and got the option to do an internship in any EU country i liked. It was a choice, but i told him that it was a ‘must’ so he wouldnt make choices over me again. I just told him that my uni picked a company for me and that i need to go there. After a few weeks, we didnt text so much (i tried to be nice and convincing as well so he wouldnt do anything with my nudes). So he eventually broke up with me and i acted ‘clingy’ so that it wasn’t obvious i wasnted to break up. He texted me a few days later that long distance wouldnt work and said that hes grateful for everything and that the nudes would be safe with him and that he deleted it. So after my semester of internship in another country i came back to Germany again, and i saw him with another girl. Idk why but it hurted me a bit, even if he was so cruel to me. But then i remembered our toxic relationship and it didnt feel good.The only problem is now rhay everything in this house, at my school, while i’m walking, my room, my clothes, the perfume, everything reminds me of him. How do i get rid of him? I’m so traumatised.
And there is another thing, at the start he seemed so sweet and caring, making sure i got provided, protected, etc, i literally wasted my time to talk to him even in my exam periods. But then after we got closer and after i emotionally got attached to him, he treated me so bad and cold.
>>33877017>FYI i’m Croatian and i was in a rs with a Albanian guy for a while. We both live in Germany btw.FUCK OFF WERE FULL>I was literally abused.On a more serious note, seek therapy to find out why you took part in all this. Its not your fault he was an abuser, but allowing such people into your life almost always has apsychological reason like low self esteem. With an abusive past, helath insurance is going to cover it. Take your time and find a therapist you are truly comfortable with. You can't change the past, but you can find out what drove you into it so it doesn't happen again, and find a beneficial relationship instead.>but he expected me to be the bravest, submissive girl that never talked to another man.Also stop engaging with ass backwards weirdo "cultures". Its literally the we don't do that in GERMANY meme. We don't , if you believe in that garbage kindly fuck off back to the Balkans instead of bringing it here. >>33877037Yeah, thats the typical lovebombing a lot of abusers start out with. Most people with normal self esteem just get weirded out by it because its just too perfect, and real people don't behave like this. Seek therapy.
