I was an incel and I finally got a girlfriend and I really like her. Why do I still feel dead inside
You assumed your depression was due to being gf-less but you actually just have depression.
>>33883108One gf does not create a sense of abundance and sense of personal value to others. You still think this could be a fluke and if it ends life will be like it was before.
>>33883108Getting a gf doesn't rewind time and make you experience teenage love and all the other formative experiences you missed out on. Nothing can undo the damage that being treated as a subhuman as a kid/teen inflicted. It's the same for me.
>>33883294I had lucky streaks and am mentally ill from the years I had dry spells.
>>33883108because getting a girlfriend doesn’t invalidate all previous experiences
>>33883108No woman will ever love you, 90% of women out there do not love their man, they don't know how to love anyway; they only tolerate him as long as he provides.Learn to be stoic and get by without their fake and subpar love therefore about 90% of women should be invisible to you. Rise up above your biological programming.Take care of your health anons and find distractions to help pass the time, that's all most people do anyway, the difference is they do it with somebody so time spent together flows differently.
>>33883108Because females objectively make your life worse, not better. Think of it like a AA battery, male is the + and women are the -
>honeymoon phase ends>all your depressive issues start leaking and becoming more apparent>she leaves amplifying those feelingsYou're fucked homeboy
>>33883408>they only tolerate him as long as he providesI always knew this about women, what caught me off guard is that it also applies to family, only thing I have in common with my mom and sisters at this point is a shared last name, they mentally abandoned me years ago and I don't, nor will I probably ever know why
>>33883294>Nothing can undo the damageThere is no damage. Stop making shit up.
>>33883108>Why do I still feel dead insideyou are now aware that happiness comes from within.
>>33883108Because fulfillment and happiness comes from within, as cliche as that is to sayThere is a reason it's not uncommon for rich celebrities to commit suicideExternal things should add to your life but they can't really define it on a fundamental level
>>33883944Very retarded take. You think someone who was treated like an invisible subhuman and has only ever known rejection, isolation and humiliation all his life, while watching everyone else get the normal human experience can just forget about it? Sounds like you just have no idea what being an incel is actually like.
>>33883465>only thing I have in common with my mom and sisters at this point is a shared last name, they mentally abandoned me years ago and I don't, nor will I probably ever know whyAnd there it is , the early childhood issues. LIke clockwork. No , this isn't normal, and yes, your relationship with them will have been fucked up beforehand, probabyl since birth.Seek therapy to help you understand what happened and resolve both your women issues as well as your depression. Going on the internet to enter a spiral of negative reinforcement where you make up hamfisted cope beliefs with other mentally ill retards is not goint to do shit for you. And btw, the only women who care about "providing" nowadays are explicit golddiggers, and you are definitely too poor to afford one of those unless you own a private jet.
>>33884168I don't have women issues, only the women in my family treat me horribly, depression is there though yes, and plenty of it, but like you said I am poor, I can't afford someone to tell me shit
>>33883108Same im 29 and finally got a gf, end of story? I broke up with her cause she only made me miserable
Because you need a relationship with jesus Christ to be fulfilled inside, turn to him and recieve eternal peace for he is the only one who can give you that
>>33885789What magical thinking you have anon>>33883134Fpbp
>>33883108>I was an incel and I finally got a girlfriend and I really like her. Why do I still feel dead insideMaybe because you don't like her. You're lying to yourself.
>>33885803He really does change lives
>>33883108Lucky guy, must have been tall or chad faced
>>33885112>I don't have women issues, only the women in my family treat me horriblyread that sentence again,maybe out loud, then give it agood hard think. Your own mom dropping you like a hot potato is NOT normal unless you took a shit right on the Thanksgiving table or something. There definitely is something there.>I am poor, I can't afford someone to tell me shitIsn't there health insurance or any services to help with getting a therapist? Or are you from the US?
>>33886130>unless you took a shit right on the Thanksgiving table or somethingWith all due respect anon, you don't know me, and you're basing this response on the assumption I must've done something bad. People get treated horribly for no reason all the time, keep this in mind. All I've done for them was give and give and sacrifice and they discarded me like an empty milk jug as soon as they didn't need me anymore. I'll tell you one think, religion played a HEAVY part in this
>>33886288And it wasn't some huge argument either, as they got deeper into religion they slowly started icing out anyone not at their level, that is how I was abandoned, I didn't shit on a table or curse anyone out or anything
>>33886288>and you're basing this response on the assumption I must've done something badI was actually saying the opposite. If you did anything bad enough to actually warrant that from your own flesh and blood mother, you'd know about it. >People get treated horribly for no reason all the time, keep this in mind.Not by their own moms, no. Not normal.>All I've done for them was give and give and sacrifice and they discarded me like an empty milk jug as soon as they didn't need me anymore. I'll tell you one think, religion played a HEAVY part in thisYes, and the latter is an easy prox for mental illness. Humans are naturally programmed to love their children unconditionally, and what you suffered sounds like straight up abuse. Means your parents got a few screws loose, which unfortnately invitably manifests in your grown up life with typical symptoms such as despression or trouble in your relationships with women.Your families behaviour is not normal, not representative and cannot be explained by religion alone. Loving ones children is one of the strongest human drives there is, stronger than even self preservation,and the only thing that can override that is severe mental illness.
>>33883108Because getting a girlfriend doesn't erase how much you hate yourself. It was never going to.
>>33884168Not that anon, but stop throwing out "just go to therapy brah" like it's nothing. An hour of therapy in my country costs 1.5x as much as I make in an entire workday.
>>33887678>but stop throwing out "just go to therapy brah" like it's nothingMy brother in christ, if your body is sick you go to the body doctor, if your mind is sick you go to the mind doctor. Just because the advice is simple doesn't mean the process also is. There is no shortcut to long term fulfillment and happiness in life. It takes effort and often times money. Sorry if the answer isn't satisfactory enough but that's life. Tough shit.
>>33887709I don't go to a normal doctor either. Still alive.It is easy for you to say to go to therapy, because you either never had to do that, someone else paid for it, or it's way cheaper in your country. Fuck you.
>>33887539Yep, fucked my brain up real good, I don't think I'll ever have a relationship due to it, not only will I have a ton of baggage, I'll also be looking for leave inducing nuturing, they'll want a man, not a child
>>33887719>I don't go to a normal doctor either. Still alive.Not only are your personal anecdotes irrelevant to general trends of medical professionals being a net positive, this doesn't even make any sense. Plenty of fucking miserable and depressed people are alive. Being alive is not equivalent to having good quality of life. OP isn't here because he's having trouble staying alive. He's here because he's miserable.>It is easy for you to say to go to therapy, because you either never had to do that, someone else paid for it, or it's way cheaper in your country. Fuck you.Being happy and successful in life isn't easy. If you want an easy answer there isn't one. Tough shit, anon.
