I've never been on a date but I'm going on one in a couple days. So.. how does it work? Like you just kinda chill and talk for a bit and then leave and plan to do it again? Also, how physical should I be? As in should I go for a hug to greet her, and should I potentially go for a kiss if things seem to be going well? This might sound weird but I haven't hugged someone since I was a little kid. Ngl I looked in the mirror just now and reached my arms out like I was going for a hug and I kinda looked like a robot. I swear I'm not autistic though, I'm like mostly normal, but any advice is appreciated.
>>33886402Side hug greeting
>>33886436That seems weirder. Like we see each other and walk over and I turn and try to do a side hug, just seems odd
>>33886402>all these incels suddenly getting dates ans relationships and making posts about it the second im about to go over the edgeThis has to be a fucking jewish psyop it just has to
>>33886588Wouldn't that make you hopeful
>>33886592>yeah bro its so hopeful that even incels dont get overlooked forever aslong as they are tall and live in much more extroverted placesWow i feel so much better now
>>33886596Definitely not a jewish psyop
>>33886596I'm 5'10
>>33886633Im 175 or 5'8 (?) Accord7ng to google. Ur not short at all. Lucky fuck
>>338866635'10" is like 178 cm (average height)
>>33886402greet each other warmly, give them a compliment if one arises naturally, and just kind of talk about stuff. Ask them about their life. Tell them about your life. Decide if you like them. Usually the date either propells itself from here or it falls flat.As for physical touch, everyone's boundaries are different and if you feel uncomfortable giving a hug you totally don't need to. General rule is as far as you are comfortable, reciporcate the level of how touchy the other person's being nd vice versa. Also nothing wrong with asking casually "Can I give you a hug?" on the way out if the convo went well. Generally people who are normal won't automatically assume you don't like them if you don't touch them unless they've been conditioned otherwise, but if they do you can play it off as being respectful.Good luck! Think of it as just hanging out
>>33886840I definitely don't feel uncomfortable with giving a hug, I just don't know if she would be I guess. Like idk if it'd be awkward to go for a hug when I see her.>"Can I give you a hug?" I don't know, maybe I'm wrong but I feel like asking for permission to hug might come across as insecure.I guess my fear is coming across as too "friendly" or "formal".
>>3388640219yo woman here. When you see her, flash a smile and warmly ask “can I give you a hug?” if you don’t feel comfortable just going for it. Is she says yes, which she likely will, throw in a quick compliment, e.g. “you look so pretty!”. Thank her for coming with you then head to the date activity of choice. To start, ask her how her days been and how she’s doing, what she’s been up to this week, etc. Listen and show interest, asking any relevant questions or adding comments when appropriate. If she asks you the same, reply and sprinkle in some random detail (example: “I had a fine day today, work was a drag.” “I’ve had a pretty slow day, just doing some cleaning around the house.”). If she doesn’t ask, tell her anyway. Sometimes I forget to ask questions because it seems implied that the person I’m talking to will share once I’m done. Talk about work or studies, ask her what she does and how she enjoys it. Take any chance to ask follow up questions or reply with similar and relevant experiences you’ve had. Conversation is somewhat of a dance between two people, and the magic is in relating to them and finding the right time to sneak in comments or show you’re actively listening! Things to talk about will pop up as it goes along, but to get to know her better ask about her family, any siblings, how you guys get along. Maybe ask her about Halloween and if she did anything to celebrate. Ask her what she does in her free time, how long she’s been doing a particular hobby, and just listen to her. Go with the flow and just talk to her like a person. I personally find that sharing media like photos or videos related to the conversation (example “I really like hiking. I have a cool photo from my last trip.”) makes a sort of connection in my brain that this person actually wants to connect with me!
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>>33888391Also, general advice: Don’t go for any kissing or hand holding on the first date. It gives off a pushy or desperate vibe that she probably won’t be into. If all seems well, give her a quick hug on the way out! Text her a few hours later, or the next day, and tell her you had fun and thank her for hanging out. Give it a few days then follow up letting her know you enjoyed her company and try asking her out again 1-2 weeks later. If you do decide to ask, give her some ideas upfront and pick her brain about what sounds nice. Anyway, good luck anon!
>>338884061-2 weeks later? Seems like a lot of time
>>33888409Assuming she works or studies, you don’t wanna push on too fast. But I did mean to say in a couple of days (up to a week) try chatting about a second date.
>>33886402Go for a hug at least. 99% chance woman isn’t going to reject a hug from a guy she agreed to go out with, use your brain Anon.
Piggybacking on this. I'm tentatively planning something as well with a chick for the first time. The only problem is I live like four hours away so I was hoping, if things go well, I'd like to just ask her right then after if she'd want to do something the next week so I could plan and prep in advance, but I wonder if that's a little too quick or not, or maybe I should ask the next day or something.
>>33886402She's going on a date to pursue a relationship. If you don't give her some kind of intimacy, she won't remain interested.
>>33892425You could ask later that day. A lot of foids are too scared to say no to a man to his face but would be willing to over text.
i always naturally go for a greeting hug, its common parlance for girls to hug guys and friends all the time. even the first meeting, start with a hug, not tight or pulled in by any means but a structural hugin terms of the date keep it PI pleasantly implied, just keep your sense of humor and your light skills
>>33886436I unapologetically commit to a real hug for the meeting.
>>33895529no side hugs
>>33892676I might do that. I would be understanding if she turned me down in person, but I would rather not pressure her. I just want to be forward thinking since I'm on the other side of the state unfortunately. I would hope she understands that.
