first of all, happy halloween to those that had a good time yesterday, but, as you may have guessed, i ain't on 4chan to show how good of a day yesterday wasonce again, i was left out. my friends, or wahtever, dunno what to call them anymore, threw a party and i wasn't invited, like always. i'm frustrated, so much, like, why? why do they do this to me? i've never hurt them yet they do these things, pretending like i don't exist, except when they need me, of course. i'm lost, what shoudl i do at this point. believe me, i have tried to leave them, like they have done with me, but i can't. everytime i delete my socials, everytime i distance myself from them i come back like a miserable dog that needs to eat or, in this case, interact. i'm tired of this, i haven't hurt myself in months, and now i feel the urge to again. i wish i had the will and virtue to stand my ground and stop this, but i can't. i've gone through this since i have memories, with my mom and dad insulting me and all that, don't wanna go too deep into it. i'm losing hope, will i ever find a happy relationship, where i can be a good person, a good friend, and have a good person, a good friend by my side?. i feel empty, like a vessel that's waiting for yet another personality to flourish and utilize it. fuck this, i am no one with all this different mes within, i've lost my own image and reflection, despite trying to avoid it. now all i can do is live with this, for as long as i can, i guess.if you have a good friendship or relationship in general, treasure them and show them you care, take care of them and, most of all, be greateful
you're not gonna believe that i know what i'm talking about, but what you actually need is to chill. you need to cultivate a chill mentality, and you also need a good amount of time just chilling out on your own, really chilling out, not brooding or envying or wanting, just chilling. respect yourself, then try to find new people who resonate with what you are like and the things you do and enjoy.cheerio.
>>33888216This happened to me bro. This happens, that's just life, isn't it? Keep going, it's not over. Friends are boring, family is better if you have younger relatives to raise.
>>33888216thats why I dont make friends.not because i cant but because its uselessPeople betray others no matter how close they arethose people are nothing but apes clinging together to surviveBeing desperate for connection only drags you lower. Down to the lowest pits of hell, remember thatLearn to live by yourself and for yourself
>>33888216Halloween is for kids. Stop being a grown up baby.
you sound like you're either a woman or underage. meet some new people and forget about them.
>>33888399oh, turns out i've been trying to do exactly that lately. i've been doing taekwondo for a while (itf, not the olympic or cash grabbing one) and went to study it's encyclopedia written by the creator, which includes a lot of eastern philosophy, mainly confucianism and taoism, and that has helped me a lot to improve my overall attitude and personality.however, things like this have always made me get anxious, frustrated and/or depressed, so it's hard to avoid it, even if i have tried to cultive these philosophies in me. though, i ended up not hurting myself, so i guess that's an improvement.>need a good amount of time just chilling out on your own>respect yourself, then try to find new people who resonate with what you are likethanks anon for the good advice, i'll try>>33888873>Friends are boring, family is better if you have younger relatives to raise.you're right, though having a good friend wouldn't hurt, right? either way yes it's really fun to help raise my younger nephews>>33889115>Being desperate for connection only drags you lower>Learn to live by yourself and for yourselfi learned those things at a very young age (sadly), but i can't help being like this with these people. i'll try, once again, to get rid of them.also, sounds like you've read Stirner. if that's the case then hi fellow stirnerian! =)>>33889565it's fun to go out with friends ^_________^>>33889582>either a woman or underagelol, i'm a dude in his early 20's, but thanks for saying that, for a while i had gender dysmorphia, though now i don't really care about it>meet some new people and forget about themi'll try, though it may be hard. thanks anon
>>33888216you have friends?
>>33888216If they don’t invite you to any events, they do not want you around. Hopefully you are not one of those people who try to force your way into groups where you are not wanted.
>>33888216Smoke weed and embrace the emptiness within. That's all there is to life for some of us unlucky bastards.
literally anything would be better than forcing yourself to be treated like shit just because you want someone to be aroundyou said it yourself they only want you around when they need you and you don't exist otherwiseshit even socializing through VR chat would be a better option, at least there you can find randoms to talk to and distract yourselfreal life friendships are a two way street and if you don't respect yourself first, no one else will
>>33892025actually, besides those jerks, i do have a few real friends that i met in the last few years, i'm hoping i can meet more with them and stop caring about the others soon>>33892067>If they don’t invite you to any events, they do not want you aroundi really need to tatto this into my brain and body>Hopefully you are not one of those people who try to force your way into groupsback when i was younger, yes. now i'm not since i realized how pathetic i was, but i got these idiots as "friends">>33892072thanks for the advice, but no. i've got a very strict rule to not do drugs or get into any addictions. not because of religion or even philosohpy, but because i've had to deal with people that get into them and, due to one event that happened with one of my parents getting drunk, i made a promise to myself that i'd never, ever, do any addiciton or drugs at all>>33892087thanks, i guess i'm afraid of missing out or being lonely, but now i don't care as much as i did before, so i hope i can finally leave them and stop being as pathetic as i'm being
>>33888216There's something very wrong with the world. I'd advise you to become better at being stoic and alone but that is an adaptation. It shouldn't be this hard though. We're living through a dark time and it's not even really being acknowledged. There's a terrible rot stretching through everything and we have to kill it if there's to be any hope of a brighter future.
>>33893323Find another friend group that you actually get along with and you’ll forget about your former “friends” in no time.
>>33895887well, stoicism and loneliness are two different things, unless you are talking about pseudo-stoicism in which case, nah.>There's a terrible rot stretching through everything and we have to kill it if there's to be any hope of a brighter future.that's quite dramatic>>33896652yup, i'll try to do that, maybe i'll save some money and go out with my actual friends this week, thanks for the advice anon
>>33888216Pretty much what this guy said >>33888399 except I've used this in terms of finding a girl. So that she isn't my top priority or make myself dependent on having a girlfriend in order to be happy. You need to learn to be happy on your own and then let other people in.I am in a similar situation as you are, if not the same one. I don't trust my "friends", they keep me accompany but they are not someone I'd trust my life into. Treat them professionally and joke if they joke with you. If they don't invite you then so be it, you'll find better friends and then you will put the current group as number two and make them realize how much they've hurt you, if they even care at all. You could confront them about why haven't they invited you if it isn't too awkward, although I believe that in this distressed time you would not care about it and should just ask anyway.I know what you're going through. Learn that they aren't all that important and be happy with yourself.
>>33888216I'm in a situation like this except I don't care about not being invited to their parties. Wondering if I will be one day or not, idk. They talk about those in front of me and I don't get invited lol. I'm not trying to desperately be a suck up and walk around with them, they invite me over to sit with them at uni etc. I'm not being disrespected or made fun of in front of everyone either. What's up with that and what is their plan exactly? Are they checking if I'm cool enough or something, if I'm normal or if they can vibe with me?
