Title. I get first dates semi-regularly, but they never really go anywhere. Something I noticed that happens a lot is that the beginning of the date goes well, but as it goes on it starts to get kind of awkward and I begin to run out of things to say. For example I went on a date with this cute girl and the first hour or so went great, she was talking alot and laughing but when we left to chill in my car it got extremely awkward. Lots of silence and I didn’t know what to say at all so I ended up just dropping her off. I definitely should have tried to kiss her but the vibes did a total 180 from the beginning of the date and I felt that I did something wrong and didn’t try anything. I also don’t want to make the girl uncomfortable by forcing myself onto her with a kiss.Sometimes even after 5 minutes within the first date they lose interest. Today I went out with a girl and she seemed really excited to meet me but after like ten minutes of talking she became dry and there were a lot of awkward silences so we just cut the date early and never bothered texting her. I’m not sure what’s wrong with me? I don’t think I’m that ugly cause I get dates sometimes and even have hooked up a few times but it’s extremely rare. Is this just normal? Am I being too hard on myself? This is basically how most of my dates go. It starts off good but as it goes on it eventually fizzles out and I’m too scared to make a move because things feel so awkward. Even if the date is going well I find it difficult to make a move because I get mixed signals. Like for example on that date where things were going well, she mentioned she didn’t like being touched by strangers so I completely shut down any attempt to touch her or make a move because I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable. What should I do?
>>33889075Here’s my advice: disassociate and think to yourself “what would a massive tool do in this situation?”. Just act like the most exaggerated character of a douchebag you can think of. Make her think that you think you’re so above her that you don’t even care to kiss her. This will be a nice counterbalance to your nice guy energy.
>>33889087How do I have nice guy energy? I tease women on dates I’m not a total doormat, I just don’t want to make them uncomfortable. Like if a girl straight up says she dosent like being touched by strangers am I supposed to hold her hand or her back? That seems horrible. Also how do I act like a “douchebag”? That’s not really who I am. I’m more shy/introverted (and I think I’m on the spectrum too, but only slightly)
>>33889075Maybe you try too hard and your desperation is off-puttingMaybe you have bad breathMaybe you're just boring
